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That’s amazing you must feel proud of yourself …..when you think how it was just before
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Going back to work after the holidays is harder than expected. We want to start a family but theres a lot of risks associated with getting pregnant on my current epilepsy medication. I've got an appointment at the end of October with the epilepsy clinic to see what my options are with regard to changing my medication and I've already started taking the pre pregnancy vitamins the GP prescribed. The issue is going back to work after the summer. Being surrounded by happy families and staff that have just come back from maternity leave and are constantly sharing pictures and funny stories of their little ones. I don't want to take away from there experience but it's a constant reminder that I may need to have seizures, strange new side affects and uncertainty while I get myself ready for pregnancy. It's not helped by a lot of staff starting conversations with "you've got a husband and a house now. When are you going to have a baby?" Or giving me nudges and saying "you'll be next" any time babies are mentioned. I'm broody I want kids and I feel I'm as ready as I'll ever be but it's terrifying.
 
Sweet Potato said:
Going back to work after the holidays is harder than expected. We want to start a family but theres a lot of risks associated with getting pregnant on my current epilepsy medication. I've got an appointment at the end of October with the epilepsy clinic to see what my options are with regard to changing my medication and I've already started taking the pre pregnancy vitamins the GP prescribed. The issue is going back to work after the summer. Being surrounded by happy families and staff that have just come back from maternity leave and are constantly sharing pictures and funny stories of their little ones. I don't want to take away from there experience but it's a constant reminder that I may need to have seizures, strange new side affects and uncertainty while I get myself ready for pregnancy. It's not helped by a lot of staff starting conversations with "you've got a husband and a house now. When are you going to have a baby?" Or giving me nudges and saying "you'll be next" any time babies are mentioned. I'm broody I want kids and I feel I'm as ready as I'll ever be but it's terrifying.
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Good luck at the epilepsy clinic. ❤️
 
Sweet Potato said:
Going back to work after the holidays is harder than expected. We want to start a family but theres a lot of risks associated with getting pregnant on my current epilepsy medication. I've got an appointment at the end of October with the epilepsy clinic to see what my options are with regard to changing my medication and I've already started taking the pre pregnancy vitamins the GP prescribed. The issue is going back to work after the summer. Being surrounded by happy families and staff that have just come back from maternity leave and are constantly sharing pictures and funny stories of their little ones. I don't want to take away from there experience but it's a constant reminder that I may need to have seizures, strange new side affects and uncertainty while I get myself ready for pregnancy. It's not helped by a lot of staff starting conversations with "you've got a husband and a house now. When are you going to have a baby?" Or giving me nudges and saying "you'll be next" any time babies are mentioned. I'm broody I want kids and I feel I'm as ready as I'll ever be but it's terrifying.
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It’s good that you’ve got your appointment at the epilepsy clinic as a positive to focus on. I know how upsetting it can be when you’re desperate to start a family but are unable to for whatever reason. Quite frankly it’s no one else’s business when/if you decide to have a family and folk don’t mean to be unkind by mentioning it but it really isn’t kind. And you’re going to be over sensitive to other people’s baby news - I know first hand how that feels and it isn’t pleasant. Just bide your time. Take it step by step. You’re doing everything right to prepare for a healthy pregnancy for you & your future baby. The next big step is in October. Good luck
 
Piggies2023 said:
Thank you ❤️. Had a really awful day yesterday. But slightly better today. Managed to sit in a chair for about 10 minutes which is big progress for me right now. And in a bit less pain so I'm in a better mood. Any small wins!
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It’s so difficult in recovery to see the small progress steps so well done for recognising this. Pain is so debilitating and depressing. Sending you positive vibes.
 
Piggies2023 said:
Thank you ❤️. Had a really awful day yesterday. But slightly better today. Managed to sit in a chair for about 10 minutes which is big progress for me right now. And in a bit less pain so I'm in a better mood. Any small wins!
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That's great news. Small steps, but they are clear signs of improvement.

I can relate as I have chronic pain and sitting is painful.
 
Sweet Potato said:
Going back to work after the holidays is harder than expected. We want to start a family but theres a lot of risks associated with getting pregnant on my current epilepsy medication. I've got an appointment at the end of October with the epilepsy clinic to see what my options are with regard to changing my medication and I've already started taking the pre pregnancy vitamins the GP prescribed. The issue is going back to work after the summer. Being surrounded by happy families and staff that have just come back from maternity leave and are constantly sharing pictures and funny stories of their little ones. I don't want to take away from there experience but it's a constant reminder that I may need to have seizures, strange new side affects and uncertainty while I get myself ready for pregnancy. It's not helped by a lot of staff starting conversations with "you've got a husband and a house now. When are you going to have a baby?" Or giving me nudges and saying "you'll be next" any time babies are mentioned. I'm broody I want kids and I feel I'm as ready as I'll ever be but it's terrifying.
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Sending you hugs.
 
Rivervixen said:
I had a bit of a wobble tonight after the realisation that my boys are getting on a bit now at 5 years old and slowing down a bit. They’re both happy and healthy, just when your mind wanders for a minute 🙁
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It shows how much you love them though! Every time my house bunny has a bit of a funny turn (she's got all sorts of issues going on) I get in a panic!

It's so hard to not think about it sometimes as they get older.
 
Wheekallweek said:
It shows how much you love them though! Every time my house bunny has a bit of a funny turn (she's got all sorts of issues going on) I get in a panic!

It's so hard to not think about it sometimes as they get older.
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Aww thank you :) I understand the panic as well, your house bunny is very lucky to have someone who loves them so much 😊
 
Rivervixen said:
I had a bit of a wobble tonight after the realisation that my boys are getting on a bit now at 5 years old and slowing down a bit. They’re both happy and healthy, just when your mind wanders for a minute 🙁
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Bless you,I can get like like that too.My mind goes into overdrive sometimes thinking of bad things and things that might happen.
 
I have the same problem with Bann now too. Poor lad, the slightest thing that's "off" and I end up watching him like a hawk. It's just his age, I know it is, but I'm finding it difficult to remind myself of that when it matters. Because then my brain is like "well it's not like he's getting any younger."

My brain is remarkably unhelpful, lol. I think he's doing better about it than I am and I have to remind myself that if that's the case, then that's the important bit.
 
Claire W said:
I always used to stress over my piggies especially as they got older. I miss having piggies like crazy now I’m piggyless but I must admit, I do not miss the stress and anxiety x
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With me it's a bit different,I suffer from anxiety and if there's something a bit off I do worry but if they are actually ill I'm constantly stressed and upset fearing the worst cos of loosing pigs in the past.My mum did say to me once, why do you have more when you get so upset when they have to be PTS etc and my answer is,there's so many that need homes and as I've been through it more than once(even though it's so raw for a while and you always miss them ), I know I'll get through it again.I'm so sorry you were so stressed and anxious when you had piggies xx
 
My mum is scheduled to have her hip replacement surgery next Friday 11th October and I feel sick with worry especially as she’s in her 70’s and has a heart condition as well as diabetes type 2 😞 I’m due to go on holiday on 20th October for 5 days so the timing couldn’t be worse as I’ll be worrying all the time
 
Claire W said:
My mum is scheduled to have her hip replacement surgery next Friday 11th October and I feel sick with worry especially as she’s in her 70’s 😞 I’m due to go on holiday in 20th October for 5 days so the timing couldn’t be worse as I’ll be worrying all the time
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Has she had equipment installed in her home or got that OT appointment before the surgery?
 
Claire W said:
Yes she has the equipment sorted and has seen the OT
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Brilliant, that is really good. Hip replacements often have a smoother recovery than when they try to repair things too. And the fact she has the support in place is good. There are council teams in many areas that can come out to her home and help after discharge too. Thinking of you, it's stressful when family members are going through surgery
 
Piggies2023 said:
Brilliant, that is really good. Hip replacements often have a smoother recovery than when they try to repair things too. And the fact she has the support in place is good. There are council teams in many areas that can come out to her home and help after discharge too. Thinking of you, it's stressful when family members are going through surgery
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Thank you. I suffer from really bad anxiety anyway but this is tipping me over the edge. I’ll feel better once she’s had it done now and is home recovering

I hope you’re getting on ok? x
 
Claire W said:
I hope you’re getting on ok @Piggies2023 ?
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I'm getting there slowly. But been in hospital with my heart due to the blood clots on my lungs. They've also told me another 6 weeks on my crutches, they had stopped my physio because they were worried about my lungs etc more than my mobility. How things will look for me long term health wise is very unknown at the moment. When I ask, I just get told they can't tell.

So my lovely Nancy, is with a rescue being looked after at the moment. By the time I see her again it will have been 3 months. She is on 3 meds twice a day and I can't pick her up at the moment. Hopefully she will come home with a friend too.
 
Claire W said:
Thank you. I suffer from really bad anxiety anyway but this is tipping me over the edge. I’ll feel better once she’s had it done now and is home recovering x
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Having anxiety is awful. It can really take over your life. Hip replacements normally go well, they do a lot of those. But I know even knowing that doesn't stop the anxiety. Will you have any help for your parents at home?
 
Piggies2023 said:
I'm getting there slowly. But been in hospital with my heart due to the blood clots on my lungs. They've also told me another 6 weeks on my crutches, they had stopped my physio because they were worried about my lungs etc more than my mobility. How things will look for me long term health wise is very unknown at the moment. When I ask, I just get told they can't tell.

So my lovely Nancy, is with a rescue being looked after at the moment. By the time I see her again it will have been 3 months. She is on 3 meds twice a day and I can't pick her up at the moment. Hopefully she will come home with a friend too.
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I’m so sorry for the rough ride you’re having 😞 I’m sorry they can’t tell you how things look for you long term health wise either. Is that because of your hip or your lungs?

Three months is a long time not to see Nancy but I’m sure she is fine and it’ll be lovely if she comes home with a new friend ❤️
 
Piggies2023 said:
Having anxiety is awful. It can really take over your life. Hip replacements normally go well, they do a lot of those. But I know even knowing that doesn't stop the anxiety. Will you have any help for your parents at home?
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It really is. My mum is starting to get nervous too. They sadly do not qualify for help at home as my mum has my dad and me and my husband but I’m worried about the days while me and my husband are away 😞 x
 
Claire W said:
I’m so sorry for the rough ride you’re having 😞 I’m sorry they can’t tell you how things look for you long term health wise either. Is that because of your hip or your lungs?

Three months is a long time not to see Nancy but I’m sure she is fine and it’ll be lovely if she comes home with a new friend ❤️
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It's a mixture between my lungs/heart, my DVT, and my hip at the moment. Basically lots of things not going how they should and I just get told I have to wait to see how they work out. I'm more worried about vein damage in my leg and my lungs at the moment. My mobility is definitely better than it was a few weeks ago. They said hip wise, healing is a year. So hopefully it will continue to improve even though it's slower than expected.

My heart and lungs, just wandering round my bungalow on my crutches can make me breathless and dizzy. But need to try and concentrate on the fact I can walk significantly better with my crutches. Just fed up of being in the house really. I need to find some kind of new routine.
 
Claire W said:
It really is. My mum is starting to get nervous too. They sadly do not qualify for help at home as my mum has my dad and me and my husband but I’m worried about the days while me and my husband are away 😞 x
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Is your dad able to manage to help your mum? Do you all live together or do they expect you to travel over?
 
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