I do love a list. Thanks everyone for your lovely comments. I knew you’d all have something helpful to say. I did sit in a pub this morning on my own and had a hot chocolate. It felt very odd but I really enjoyed it. It gave me some space to think.
Me time is very important. I go to the gym to have me time. For over around 30 years I put everyone else first. Now it's time to put me first. Having 3 boys, a husband, a part time job and a house to run was hard work! Looking back now I don't know how I coped with it, but you do cos you have to!I do love a list. Thanks everyone for your lovely comments. I knew you’d all have something helpful to say. I did sit in a pub this morning on my own and had a hot chocolate. It felt very odd but I really enjoyed it. It gave me some space to think.
Sending you hugs, you need it ! you can email my counsellor or if you want to you can phone her if you want
Please do talk to family and friends. At least confide in one or two people. You have nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about, you have done nothing wrong here. You accepted the "dream job" not the crap you have found yourself in and you don't deserve to be going through this, certainly not alone. I hope another option comes up for you soonVery much feeling it at the moment.
Constant panic attacks over work, I dread going in. Keeping things vague (my paranoia is out of control) I’m the first person to even GET to the end of my probation period (significantly long periods of time) due to management. I should have ran when I had the chance. It’s getting worse and worse, but the company is intent to protect the management at all cost.
It got worse as a company let slip I applied for them (must have contacted my place for a reference despite me deliberately not listing current place of work for this reason) so uh, it’s gotten a lot worse since then. It’s almost like I’m being set up, I’m having to document EVERYTHING now as I’m being accused of not doing stuff I distinctly remember doing.
I live solo and savings is impossible on my wage, so I can’t just walk (should have done, everyone else did within days, let alone months) and I stupidly moved my entire life for this job. I’m being forced to keep looking due to living crisis, after bills I’m reduced to almost nothing to live on per month. I feel like I can’t tell friends or family what’s going on as they’re so happy I landed a “dream job”. So scared to go in tomorrow as management back in, been solo the last few days.
Sorry for the rant, just very low / not sure what to do. My piggy army and my cat keeping me going!
So sorry you are going through this crisis. Sorry, I don't know if you've posted about your work before so dont know whats been going on but i really think it would help if you can talk to a trusted friend. Some years ago I went through a terrible time at work, following a promotion, which culminated in what amounted to an unofficial disaplinary without witnesses in which I was accused of stuff that wasn't true and was put under pressure to resign. I couldn't speak about it for some time but once I did tell friends they were on my side and very supportive.Very much feeling it at the moment.
Constant panic attacks over work, I dread going in. Keeping things vague (my paranoia is out of control) I’m the first person to even GET to the end of my probation period (significantly long periods of time) due to management. I should have ran when I had the chance. It’s getting worse and worse, but the company is intent to protect the management at all cost.
It got worse as a company let slip I applied for them (must have contacted my place for a reference despite me deliberately not listing current place of work for this reason) so uh, it’s gotten a lot worse since then. It’s almost like I’m being set up, I’m having to document EVERYTHING now as I’m being accused of not doing stuff I distinctly remember doing.
I live solo and savings is impossible on my wage, so I can’t just walk (should have done, everyone else did within days, let alone months) and I stupidly moved my entire life for this job. I’m being forced to keep looking due to living crisis, after bills I’m reduced to almost nothing to live on per month. I feel like I can’t tell friends or family what’s going on as they’re so happy I landed a “dream job”. So scared to go in tomorrow as management back in, been solo the last few days.
Sorry for the rant, just very low / not sure what to do. My piggy army and my cat keeping me going!
It's good you were able to reach out to your parents, and of course everyone is different, but I do find that parents don't always offer to most objective view.Thanks guys. I reached out to my parents who told me that considering I got my degree in this area, I have to stick with it and deal with the job :’) which, I know they want what’s best for me and there’s no point wasting this degree, but still.
I’ve done a couple of job applications tonight. Another management from the company (she’s lovely) has offered me a job on the spot, the only downside is it’s uh… still trying to be vague, but it’ll mean I’m only paid 37 weeks of the year due to the role, and it’s minimum wage to boot. I’d love that position, it’s something I think I’d be really good at but realistically am scared to make that jump as I’ll struggle more with bills, I won’t be able to pay them. I might be able to get some financial support temporarily during those lower pay periods until I get either a temporary job (or maybe my own business will come off the floor… here’s hoping!). A part of me just wants to accept this offer outright, but since I live solo I need to think logically. No idea how I’ll get through this cost crisis as is.
Feeling really… down at the moment, but thankfully I have my cat on my chest giving me little kisses and purring. Not sure how I’ll get through tomorrow, but hanging in there. All I have to do is get through this week then over a week off. I’m so sorry to be so down and meh, I feel bad you guys have to see this, I just… don’t know what to do. I know that even if the worst comes to the worst (it’s my last probation meeting this week) and they do get rid of me, it’ll be a blessing in disguise but I also have it in my head I’ll burst into flame!
That's what we did yesterday. Took the dog for a walk, she ran around the park screaming, singing and jumping then promptly fell asleep in the pushchair on the way home so I sat and had a cuppa before waking her up I'm sure it will get better as she settles into a new routine. It's only been a week tomorrow so is new to all of us.Oh Lady Kelly I’m sorry you’re having a difficult time …..isn’t it amazing how all these things happen at once and that makes it really hard to cope with. Also…..feeling that things are out of control ! Could you and your toddler go for a little walk ? Sometimes fresh air can help distract you from what happening. I know that sounds simplistic …I used to do that with my daughter. Keep strong as things will get sorted
Oh that’s hard. He’s beginning to realise he is his own little entity and that’s scary when you are small. You are his safe space. It will get better, it really will but when you are living it you just can’t imagine it improving. You are not doing anything wrong. Are you able to sleep in the day? Even if you are getting a nap in from 7pm until midnight once husband is home it will help.My baby keeps waking up once or twice an hour from around 2-3am.
I don't know what I'm doing wrong. He's comfortable, clean, fed, appropriately warm, not gassy, not ill, no signs of teething. I work hard to make sure he sleeps enough in the day. I do as much tummy time and play as I can manage. The room is dark and we have a gentle white noise machine. I don't know what else to do.
The Internet tells me this is "just" the four month sleep regression and to suck it up, but this degree of sleeplessness can't be right? I am so tired and we're in week three of this. Every time I settle back down to sleep myself, he's back up. My husband has been off work this week and helping me nap, but what do I do next week?
Sorry for the long rant, I'm not concise even when I'm well rested. Just needed to vent.
My baby keeps waking up once or twice an hour from around 2-3am.
I don't know what I'm doing wrong. He's comfortable, clean, fed, appropriately warm, not gassy, not ill, no signs of teething. I work hard to make sure he sleeps enough in the day. I do as much tummy time and play as I can manage. The room is dark and we have a gentle white noise machine. I don't know what else to do.
The Internet tells me this is "just" the four month sleep regression and to suck it up, but this degree of sleeplessness can't be right? I am so tired and we're in week three of this. Every time I settle back down to sleep myself, he's back up. My husband has been off work this week and helping me nap, but what do I do next week?
Sorry for the long rant, I'm not concise even when I'm well rested. Just needed to vent.
You are doing absolutely nothing wrong. Kids are hard. My two are 23 and 21. Gosh I remember the broken sleep. My 8 month old stopped napping. But then was grumpy all day and evening till bedtime. She refused to go in a pushchair from 22 months even though I had just had her brother and REALLY needed them both contained lol. You will get through this and things will get better. But at the time you won’t believe us. Lol. Hang on in there.My baby keeps waking up once or twice an hour from around 2-3am.
I don't know what I'm doing wrong. He's comfortable, clean, fed, appropriately warm, not gassy, not ill, no signs of teething. I work hard to make sure he sleeps enough in the day. I do as much tummy time and play as I can manage. The room is dark and we have a gentle white noise machine. I don't know what else to do.
The Internet tells me this is "just" the four month sleep regression and to suck it up, but this degree of sleeplessness can't be right? I am so tired and we're in week three of this. Every time I settle back down to sleep myself, he's back up. My husband has been off work this week and helping me nap, but what do I do next week?
Sorry for the long rant, I'm not concise even when I'm well rested. Just needed to vent.