What made you happy today?

It's 6:40am and I am still in bed instead of crawling around the living room floor in pain. Ok so I know when I move it's going to hurt, probably a lot but it's the best nights sleep I've had in over a month
 
Took my dogs for a quick walk this evening seeing as the evening was so lovely, saw a barn owl drifting across the field then it drifted my way and over the hedge, such a beautiful bird, thought I was mistaken at first but no doubt as it flew over the hedge in front of me, there is no mistaking the beautiful head. Then on my return I spotted something moving ahead and initially thought it was my neighbours cat but as it moved I saw it was the two muntjac deer I had in my garden a few weeks ago, I think they are a mother and baby. They dashed off as we got closer and headed into the field, it must be a regular route or they are spending time in the field behind my garden. It just remind me how lucky I am to live where I do.
 
So despite my new pelvic pain specialist physio saying I shouldn't be back at work anytime soon my GP has agreed with me on reduced hours to be agreed with my employer. Basically I can't sit in a chair for more than 20 mins at a time which is problematic. This may, or may not, improve before I give birth. With over 4 months to go there is absolutely nothing worse than being pretty much housebound and not working at all so this is a happy medium.

My justification is that I can adjust my position for work. When not in meetings I can kneel on the floor which is my most comfortable position. I can also work later in the day when the second dose of codeine has kicked in and I am feeling more comfortable. Clearly I am going to have to start maternity leave earlier than planned which is crap because it means I lose time with the baby afterwards but I think it's too hard on my body and unfair on work to try and get them to agree to a later finish date as they need to plan my cover sooner rather than later.

Still I am trying to stay positive, take the steps I can, I will continue to pay the extra costs of the private physio to help (does help that the holiday insurance paid out pretty much the same day they received our claim) and I will continue to push for help from the NHS to manage the pain effectively for the most minimal affect on my baby. Most importantly my brain is currently saying "I can do this".
 
You can get through this @Lady Kelly (((hugs)))

Albeit all my stress, I have one thing to feel happy about today. That is that after my mums fall the other week, she’s now able to hobble around her and my dads bungalow without her crutches or leg brace. She’s doing so well
 
Might sound morbid to some but today my mum, siblings and I finally felt ready to chose a watertight urn to bury my dad's ashes in, in his back garden which was his wish. We were under strict instructions "don't put me on a (expletive) shelf in the house, I want to be outside". He loved his garden and when he passed away at home the undertakers took him out that way for one final trip through it.
 
Jenni85 said:
Might sound morbid to some but today my mum, siblings and I finally felt ready to chose a watertight urn to bury my dad's ashes in, in his back garden which was his wish. We were under strict instructions "don't put me on a (expletive) shelf in the house, I want to be outside". He loved his garden and when he passed away at home the undertakers took him out that way for one final trip through it.
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That is lovely. I hope that when you do bury his ashes it will be a peace filled moment for you all.

Lady Kelly said:
So despite my new pelvic pain specialist physio saying I shouldn't be back at work anytime soon my GP has agreed with me on reduced hours to be agreed with my employer. Basically I can't sit in a chair for more than 20 mins at a time which is problematic. This may, or may not, improve before I give birth. With over 4 months to go there is absolutely nothing worse than being pretty much housebound and not working at all so this is a happy medium.

My justification is that I can adjust my position for work. When not in meetings I can kneel on the floor which is my most comfortable position. I can also work later in the day when the second dose of codeine has kicked in and I am feeling more comfortable. Clearly I am going to have to start maternity leave earlier than planned which is crap because it means I lose time with the baby afterwards but I think it's too hard on my body and unfair on work to try and get them to agree to a later finish date as they need to plan my cover sooner rather than later.

Still I am trying to stay positive, take the steps I can, I will continue to pay the extra costs of the private physio to help (does help that the holiday insurance paid out pretty much the same day they received our claim) and I will continue to push for help from the NHS to manage the pain effectively for the most minimal affect on my baby. Most importantly my brain is currently saying "I can do this".
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Good for you @Lady Kelly . Staying positive is good. I hope your employers are helpful in working out a plan.
 
It's not morbid at all @Jenni85. It took 6 months before my brother and I were ready to pop Mum's ashes in the churchyard on top of my Dad's. They are next to the tree that they planted when I got married nearly 37 years ago. My Gran's ashes are there too.

It takes a while for you to feel up to doing these things.
 
Merab's Slave said:
That is lovely. I hope that when you do bury his ashes it will be a peace filled moment for you all.


Good for you @Lady Kelly . Staying positive is good. I hope your employers are helpful in working out a plan.
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I hope so, too. We're getting the garden all ready then think we will do it on 17th June which will mark 1 year of his passing.

Thank You ❤️
 
Betsy said:
It's not morbid at all @Jenni85. It took 6 months before my brother and I were ready to pop Mum's ashes in the churchyard on top of my Dad's. They are next to the tree that the planted when I got married nearly 37 years ago. My Gran's ashes are there too.

It takes a while for you to feel up to doing these things.
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That's a lovely story. I love that ❤️

It is really hard, you feel guilty for just keeping them in a box on the sideboard but also not quite ready to finalise it with burial. If that makes sense.
 
Jenni85 said:
That's a lovely story. I love that ❤️

It is really hard, you feel guilty for just keeping them in a box on the sideboard but also not quite ready to finalise it with burial. If that makes sense.
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It makes perfect sense. I takes a long time to get over that feeling of loss - not that you ever do it just starts to hurt a little less. As long as it feels the right time for you it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
 
Betsy said:
It makes perfect sense. I takes a long time to get over that feeling of loss - not that you ever do it just starts to hurt a little less. As long as it feels the right time for you it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
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That makes perfect sense to me too.
Ditto what @Betsy just said
 
I had to have blood tests today and the chosen vein actually behaved itself and gave up some blood. It did take a bit of cajoling and tried to shortchange us...but considering how bad my veins are, the HCA did an amazing job.
 
My washing machine isn't broken! Just been sitting here listening to it making an awful noise. I thought the bearings at least had gone. My partner had filled it with a pile of his clothes and left it for me to put on as the controls are to space age for him. I trusted he'd emptied his pockets properly, silly me. The noise was a 2p and a 1p coin rattling round with the washing. What a relief!
 
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