A place to rant about things that wind you up ( keep it clean lol)

[Lorcan]

I quite like the wallpaper if that helps?

Thanks! I mean, it was here when I moved in, but I love it too. It's actually textured, well, maybe layered is a better descriptor.

 

[Lorcan]

It turns out it's really difficult to diagnose what's not working with a speaker when Spotify keeps throwing a tantrum when there's no Internet connection.

 

[Claire W]

My husband and his family! They are saying that my funny turns and seizures aren’t medical and they happen because I bring them on myself meaning they don’t agree with the diagnosis, I’m so hurt and upset They just get annoyed with me when I have one

 

[Betsy]

My husband and his family! They are saying that my funny turns and seizures aren’t medical and they happen because I bring them on myself meaning they don’t agree with the diagnosis, I’m so hurt and upset They just get annoyed with me when I have one

It's so nice to have understanding relatives! You wouldn't bring them on yourself you are as bewildered as they are that you have funny turns. There has to be a medical reason for it. Generally people who don't understand a complex problem like yours try to find an easy explanation as they can't cope with it otherwise.

 

[Claire W]

It's so nice to have understanding relatives! You wouldn't bring them on yourself you are as bewildered as they are that you have funny turns. There has to be a medical reason for it. Generally people who don't understand a complex problem like yours try to find an easy explanation as they can't cope with it otherwise.

That's so true. It's because the neurologist said they're psychological brought on by stress and anxiety so they're saying I bring them on myself. I dread having one every single day and the fact I don't have a supportive family doesn't help. Even my own parents get annoyed when I have one I understand people getting irritated as they always happen at the most inconvenient of times and can last several hours but to say it's basically my own fault really hurts

 

[RedLoredAmazon]

I'm so sorry, @Claire W People have such a hard time understanding that things that are caused in the brain. My friend has severe anxiety and it really makes life hard for her. She has canceled all of our outings that we have planned as she has an anxiety attack beforehand. I know it is hard for her and I do figure when we plan things that she will have an attack and not be able to go out, but we still make them anyway. We have found being phone friends works the best for her and me.

Really the issue is them not being understanding of what is going on for you. I hope you are able to get some answers with the doctor, I know it is a long ways off. Sending some hugs and piggy kisses from my piggies!

 

[Claire W]

I'm so sorry, @Claire W People have such a hard time understanding that things that are caused in the brain. My friend has severe anxiety and it really makes life hard for her. She has canceled all of our outings that we have planned as she has an anxiety attack beforehand. I know it is hard for her and I do figure when we plan things that she will have an attack and not be able to go out, but we still make them anyway. We have found being phone friends works the best for her and me.

Really the issue is them not being understanding of what is going on for you. I hope you are able to get some answers with the doctor, I know it is a long ways off. Sending some hugs and piggy kisses from my piggies!

Thank you. I'm sorry that your friend suffers so badly with her own anxiety She's lucky to have you

 

[Pawz]

My husband and his family! They are saying that my funny turns and seizures aren’t medical and they happen because I bring them on myself meaning they don’t agree with the diagnosis, I’m so hurt and upset They just get annoyed with me when I have one

Yes because everyone enjoys flailing helplessly on the floor….seriously what are they thinking

 

[Claire W]

Yes because everyone enjoys flailing helplessly on the floor….seriously what are they thinking

I am throughly fed up of it to be honest

 

[Lorcan]

I never, ever, ever want to see cardboard again.

 

[Betsy]

I never, ever, ever want to see cardboard again.

I remember feeling like that! When we moved we had 104 moving boxes, 8 wardrobe boxes and loads of boxes that we had packed to unpack!

 

[Lorcan]

I remember feeling like that! When we moved we had 104 moving boxes, 8 wardrobe boxes and loads of boxes that we had packed to unpack!

Well, do you remember how I always said I had a "cardboard cupboard" in the last place because the bins were never getting emptied so I'd flatten a box and chuck it in there instead?

Well, I got here last Friday, the paper bin was already full, and it doesn't get emptied til this Thursday. You'll never guess what I've done with the cardboard boxes...

 

[Siikibam]

We are hosting Christmas this year and myself and the kids have done the cleaning. I also bought the food I’ll be cooking though asked the husband to buy the potatoes. Also asked him to buy drinks for us. He couldn’t just ask the children what they want, he wanted me to ask them and tell him. I ended up buying them yesterday when we went to Tesco for a few bits.

Was just feeling overwhelmed as everyone was saying I hadn’t done enough potatoes. But I have, they thought the two pictures were of the same potatoes. Rant over. I’m going to have a lemon/ginger tea and knit. I don’t know if I’ll stay up for the midnight service, have to be up early to do the rest of the food - green bananas of which peeling is an acquired skill that I’m still working on! - and toast the potatoes. I’ve been in the kitchen most of the day. Made rocky road but it didn’t quite come out. Went in the bin.

Rant really over now

 

[Qualcast&Flymo]

We are hosting Christmas this year and myself and the kids have done the cleaning. I also bought the food I’ll be cooking though asked the husband to buy the potatoes. Also asked him to buy drinks for us. He couldn’t just ask the children what they want, he wanted me to ask them and tell him. I ended up buying them yesterday when we went to Tesco for a few bits.

Was just feeling overwhelmed as everyone was saying I hadn’t done enough potatoes. But I have, they thought the two pictures were of the same potatoes. Rant over. I’m going to have a lemon/ginger tea and knit. I don’t know if I’ll stay up for the midnight service, have to be up early to do the rest of the food - green bananas of which peeling is an acquired skill that I’m still working on! - and toast the potatoes. I’ve been in the kitchen most of the day. Made rocky road but it didn’t quite come out. Went in the bin.

Rant really over now

Sorry it's been a bit stressful. Hope you've been able to relax and have a bit of me-time. Pity to waste the rocky road, maybe you could have warmed it up and served it with dollops of thick cream like a lumpy chocolate brownie

 

[piggieminder]

I'm sorry you're not having a good day @Siikibam . I hope you have a lovely day tomorrow.

 

[Pawz]

I’m not angry, so it’s not that kind of rant.
If anything I am just a little bit sad. There has always been a bit of a rocky relationship between myself and my dad, he is quite toxic but I have always tried my best.
In 2020 I had lost my job due to covid and as a single parent money was tight, I asked him what he wanted for his birthday that year and he told me not to worry about it…so I sent him cards and pictures of the family along with some grandkid drawings and thought all was well. My birthday rolled around after his and was ignored, not even a card but I figured since I hadn’t made a big event of his maybe he’d just forgotten mine.
Enter Christmas 2020 where I am still unemployed but he requests a gift that’s expensive and takes a fair chunk of my budget, I oblige because it’s my father and he had been accustomed to choosing his gift from me. I received no card, no gift just an sms of thanks and thought nothing of it as I don’t “expect” anything in return although a card would have been nice.
2021 comes along, I start working again the month of his birthday which is a huge relief but the first few months are set to be tight as I start to recover from the financial hole that was the previous year. I ask him what he wants for his birthday, he says not to bother but I go ahead and send him a gift and cards from the family. My birthday shortly follows and not so much as a text message. Christmas approaches and I ask what he wants…he says there is nothing he needs but I send him a hamper of all his favorite food/drink, cards and photos. I get a text message saying thank you but how amazing the gifts from my siblings were. No card, nothing.
He sends them cards for every occasion but never me, he ranted to my mother about how horrible I am because of my lack of a gift on his 2020 birthday despite one year being financially tough and the following year he told me not to but still got something!

It’s just depressing, I am so tired of being compared to my siblings who always “pool in with each another because they can’t even be bothered to even buy cards each“ and still go cheap on his gifts. If I buy something expensive he wants then I am wrong, if I buy something cheap then I am wrong, if I skip it on his instruction then I am still wrong whether I get him something or not. I don’t expect anything back other than maybe a simple card just to show he has at least THOUGHT of me on special days but alas no.

Err happy Christmas everyone ?

 

[Rivervixen]

Feeling really poorly started with a cold sore and swollen lymph nodes, now very bad stomach and awful pains in my sides, very warm skin and just aching all over

 

[RedLoredAmazon]

I’m not angry, so it’s not that kind of rant.
If anything I am just a little bit sad. There has always been a bit of a rocky relationship between myself and my dad, he is quite toxic but I have always tried my best.
In 2020 I had lost my job due to covid and as a single parent money was tight, I asked him what he wanted for his birthday that year and he told me not to worry about it…so I sent him cards and pictures of the family along with some grandkid drawings and thought all was well. My birthday rolled around after his and was ignored, not even a card but I figured since I hadn’t made a big event of his maybe he’d just forgotten mine.
Enter Christmas 2020 where I am still unemployed but he requests a gift that’s expensive and takes a fair chunk of my budget, I oblige because it’s my father and he had been accustomed to choosing his gift from me. I received no card, no gift just an sms of thanks and thought nothing of it as I don’t “expect” anything in return although a card would have been nice.
2021 comes along, I start working again the month of his birthday which is a huge relief but the first few months are set to be tight as I start to recover from the financial hole that was the previous year. I ask him what he wants for his birthday, he says not to bother but I go ahead and send him a gift and cards from the family. My birthday shortly follows and not so much as a text message. Christmas approaches and I ask what he wants…he says there is nothing he needs but I send him a hamper of all his favorite food/drink, cards and photos. I get a text message saying thank you but how amazing the gifts from my siblings were. No card, nothing.
He sends them cards for every occasion but never me, he ranted to my mother about how horrible I am because of my lack of a gift on his 2020 birthday despite one year being financially tough and the following year he told me not to but still got something!

It’s just depressing, I am so tired of being compared to my siblings who always “pool in with each another because they can’t even be bothered to even buy cards each“ and still go cheap on his gifts. If I buy something expensive he wants then I am wrong, if I buy something cheap then I am wrong, if I skip it on his instruction then I am still wrong whether I get him something or not. I don’t expect anything back other than maybe a simple card just to show he has at least THOUGHT of me on special days but alas no.

Err happy Christmas everyone ?

Ugh! How awful! I saw an advice column that had a similar situation to what you are going through. The person still wanted to send something as a gift for the ungrateful person. The advice columnist said just donate to that person's favorite charity instead and send them a card letting them know. That way something was still given but the money wasn't wasted on someone who would still complain about it.

Hopefully things get better for you. Some people are just unhappy no mater what you do....

Feeling really poorly started with a cold sore and swollen lymph nodes, now very bad stomach and awful pains in my sides, very warm skin and just aching all over

I hope you start feeling better! Take it easy and make sure you rest.

 

[Pawz]

Ugh! How awful! I saw an advice column that had a similar situation to what you are going through. The person still wanted to send something as a gift for the ungrateful person. The advice columnist said just donate to that person's favorite charity instead and send them a card letting them know. That way something was still given but the money wasn't wasted on someone who would still complain about it.

Hopefully things get better for you. Some people are just unhappy no mater what you do....



I hope you start feeling better! Take it easy and make sure you rest.

That’s a really fantastic idea…but unfortunately he does not believe in charities and to my knowledge has never given money to any. But yes maybe next year we’ll donate to something climate themed on his behalf anyway! He’ll no doubt moan about it but like you said. He’s gonna moan either way! At least this way a few more trees get planted or something.

 

[Pawz]

Feeling really poorly started with a cold sore and swollen lymph nodes, now very bad stomach and awful pains in my sides, very warm skin and just aching all over

Awww I really hope you feel better soon. Honestly just stay in bed as much as you can aside from the bathroom needs. You’ll probably wake up drenched in sweat a few times as fevers spike and break but “sleeping it off” is probably the least stressful scenario for your body right now, if you are up and about then it’s busy fighting something and keeping you upright/conscious at the same time.

I’ve had some terrible Covid vaccine/booster reactions including collapsing because my bod was just “no, I need REST I AM DONE!” It was at that point I realized how much stress it was already under on a cellular level and me flitting around like a busy bee trying to carry on as normal was a silly thing to do.

Whether it be a shot reaction or an actual Covid infection, please please rest and take care of yourself.

lots of hugz!

 

[Spaghetti & Noodles]

@Pawz I feel your pain, families are complicated and frustrating. I haven't spoken to my mum in several years, for various reasons, but neither myself or my husband get any acknowledgement on birthday or Christmas (she actually ignored my 40th!) but she does always send a card for the children, very impersonal just says " To ...... Love from Grandma" always has a voucher in it. Initially I didn't want to give them to the children but actually in the end I felt if she wants to send it the they can spend it on whatever they like, normally I would try to steer, but at some point I know I will still be wrong for not thanking her for the gifts, problem with that is she moved and didn't give us a forwarding address!
So families are hard and I wouldn't choose mine but you deal with what your given and I hope I can show.my children how to behave better. Sending you hugs X

 

[Rivervixen]

Awww I really hope you feel better soon. Honestly just stay in bed as much as you can aside from the bathroom needs. You’ll probably wake up drenched in sweat a few times as fevers spike and break but “sleeping it off” is probably the least stressful scenario for your body right now, if you are up and about then it’s busy fighting something and keeping you upright/conscious at the same time.

I’ve had some terrible Covid vaccine/booster reactions including collapsing because my bod was just “no, I need REST I AM DONE!” It was at that point I realized how much stress it was already under on a cellular level and me flitting around like a busy bee trying to carry on as normal was a silly thing to do.

Whether it be a shot reaction or an actual Covid infection, please please rest and take care of yourself.

lots of hugz!

Awww thank you so much! I definitely agree with you with the trying to carry on as normal but body screaming at us because it needs rest, guilty of that as well! Hoping it isn’t Covid but no way of knowing, think most places are closed here on Christmas Day. Lots of hugs back xx

 

[Free Ranger]

@Pawz @Spaghetti & Noodles You both sound very grown up and an example to us all. Their reaction says much more about them than about you. It's very hard to accept we can't control other people's behaviour - only our own reaction to it. I try to view it that some people in particular are doing me a big favour by letting me practice being loving while also being a bit less emotionally involved. It's a balancing act... especially as being quite direct myself I have a particular disdain for passive-aggressive behaviour. But people are fully entitled to be passive-aggressive with me, just as I'm entitled to ignore it!

I do all my visiting before or after Christmas. We get away with it as we have to travel long distances to see everyone and they know we do Church whereas most of the rest don't and they don't like their routine to be different which is fair enough. I like a quiet day as December is always full tilt. Don't even mind cooking all morning - house still a tip but nobody bothered. Pigs in a frenzy by 11 as presents were opened before Dad went out for grass with the rustling bag - the sounds of kids unwrapping stuff was causing major confusion. Louise kept running into the kitchen in case the grass was somewhere else and she hadn't found it - she is suffering from a festive fringe at the minute! By the time the grass mountain actually arrived they were all squeaked out!



Cooked a massive dinner (eventually... as old, old oven has a mind of it's own) and was happy to see the other 3 tucking in. I enjoyed a little bit of everything but not much because a lump that appeared next to me belly button last month turned out to be a hernia and if I eat a big dinner it gets a bit 'prominent'. Not scary but just uncomfortable. Visiting family is thus tricky because you don't want to look impolite and everything is dead tasty but I reach my limit pretty quick and then suddenly there's trifle or something. So we renamed Little Lumpy... he's now called Kuarto (for those who remember the original Total Recall) and Kuarto said no pudding today!

 

[Siikibam]

@Rivervixen hope you feel better soon.

@Pawz i would stop giving him gifts. Perhaps even sending cards. Why bother if he’ll complain even when you get him what he wants?

 

[Pawz]

So we renamed Little Lumpy... he's now called Kuarto (for those who remember the original Total Recall) and Kuarto said no pudding today!

“Quaaaaaaaid, open your mind to me”

I haven’t seen the remake and I refuse to because the original is just too epic to be tarnished in such a way.

let’s not forget
-“I got 5 kids to feed“-Benny
-the malfunctioning “two weeks” robotic disguise.
- the triple breasted w**** which sounds like a line from hitchhikers guide to the galaxy.
-the badass short statured working girl with the machine gun.
-the lack of oxygen eye popping.
-“consider that a divorce”

I need to watch it again, so good!

Back to the subject of piggies, I am loving her festive fringe.

 

[Free Ranger]

I haven’t seen the remake and I refuse to because the original is just too epic to be tarnished in such a way.

I have seen the remake and you're not missing anything. Bright colours and rubbery special effects are part of the original charm and the remake is dark and grim. Whether it's because I'm old I don't know but I like to be able to see what's happening in a film... and hear what people are saying!

Louise is very easy to catch at the minute because she literally can't see you coming. She will be trimmed in the near future but I'm waiting for a dry day to do her outside - the clouds of hair that come off get everywhere!

 

[Spaghetti & Noodles]

Other dog walkers today........I walk my dogs on lead, one tends to run off the other doesn't like other dogs, twice today I have had to scoop up my dog as other people have let their dogs run at mine off lead,
"my dogs fine don't worry"
brilliant, my dog is not!
"Is there no chance they would get on?" Err no.
"Oh she's just young and needs putting in her place"
no my dog will bite her because she has run at him.
I know my boy isn't great and I'm cautious where I walk, I'm always on the look out, I could walk him muzzled but that provokes a whole other attitude, I've worked with trainers and he's so much better but I know our limits, if you can see my dogs are on leads please call your dog back!

 

[Lorcan]

Other dog walkers today........I walk my dogs on lead, one tends to run off the other doesn't like other dogs, twice today I have had to scoop up my dog as other people have let their dogs run at mine off lead,
"my dogs fine don't worry"
brilliant, my dog is not!
"Is there no chance they would get on?" Err no.
"Oh she's just young and needs putting in her place"
no my dog will bite her because she has run at him.
I know my boy isn't great and I'm cautious where I walk, I'm always on the look out, I could walk him muzzled but that provokes a whole other attitude, I've worked with trainers and he's so much better but I know our limits, if you can see my dogs are on leads please call your dog back!

My mum always says if a dog's off a lead, Belle stays off. If they're on a lead, Belle goes on one too, no matter how much she grumbles about it. A friend has two dogs and one has to be muzzled on a walk for the same reason, he's never bitten but he'll snap at dogs running towards him out of fear.

It's just common sense, but some owners think the sun shines out of their darling dogs backside.

 

[Spaghetti & Noodles]

My mum always says if a dog's off a lead, Belle stays off. If they're on a lead, Belle goes on one too, no matter how much she grumbles about it. A friend has two dogs and one has to be muzzled on a walk for the same reason, he's never bitten but he'll snap at dogs running towards him out of fear.

It's just common sense, but some owners think the sun shines out of their darling dogs backside.

Exactly that! Except I know my dog will bite, there is an argument for walking him muzzled but then he doesn't enjoy his walk, Somedays I can go out and not see anyone so having him muzzled then seems pointless, I often carry it, just didn't today, my fault, and even if I had done there wouldn't have been time to put it on him.

 

[Siikibam]

Exactly that! Except I know my dog will bite, there is an argument for walking him muzzled but then he doesn't enjoy his walk, Somedays I can go out and not see anyone so having him muzzled then seems pointless, I often carry it, just didn't today, my fault, and even if I had done there wouldn't have been time to put it on him.

I don’t feel it’s your fault if you kindly ask someone to keep their dog away from yours. Could you take a diversion if you happen upon someone who’s dog wants to approach yours? Or you could muzzle him briefly on and off, though that may become confusing. Poor him. Do you know why he’s scared of other dogs?