A place to rant about things that wind you up ( keep it clean lol)

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in all seriousness though, I’m not sure Santa is gonna make it on time. Too many things lost in the post latley, especially international items.
 
CV26 said:
So I got some bad health news on Monday. Since then I have managed to get about 6 hours sleeps a night - not bad. But I'm waking up c.4am with a spinning brain so I don't feel rested at all.

I do go into the spare room as I feel bad for disturbing my husband by tossing and turning. Sometimes I've been able to get back to sleep but I just feel rubbish, especially mid afternoon.

One week in, it feels like it's becoming an involuntary habit! Grr.
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I’m so sorry you have had some bad health news recently. You need your sleep to help your body heal. Talk to your doctor for some advice if you don’t start sleeping soon. Take care.
 
I buy my tobacco online, from a tobacconist. There's a parcel from said tobacconist in the office letterbox since yesterday, but we've had no staff in since Sunday. I can't access the letterbox myself and apparently no other project has any staff available to get me my damn post. Plus I have no other smokes and no way of getting more.

Three days of no staff. The postie shoves it into the letterbox if it fits so it's not even like he's hit my buzzer, instead I'd've needed to camp out downstairs all day til he turned up. So sick of this, seriously.
 
piggieminder said:
Not long now @Lorcan and you will be away from that place. I hope someone turns up there soon.
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The poor woman answering the on-call phone seems to be as annoyed about it as I am, which makes me feel slightly better. I'm having visions right now of nobody being in all week and then who do I hand the keys back to? Plus I'm pretty sure I'm supposed to sign paperwork or something before I go.

Maggie's just ring me back to apologise profusely because someone can come, but not before around 5. I swore a bit. She can't, because professional and all that, but she's definitely no happier than I am.
 
It sounds a very frustrating setup! If there's no one there to had the keys over to when you leave I'd put them through the letter box the postman puts your post in, at least no one other than staff will get their hands on them! They know you are moving if they can't get their act together and have someone there when you go it's their fault not yours. I'd be tempted to take them with me and make them come and collect them but that might be a bit mean on the staff as it sounds like it's a bad set up, understaffed and those that work for it are as fed up as you are.
 
It's completely broken, I told her I'd had a financial demand notice handed to me on the very last day they gave me to pay but it had allegedly been sent weeks beforehand. And the post is turning up regularly again, has been since the end of Spring, so it's unlikely to be that. That was a frantic phonecall that day lol.

She'd asked me where I was moving to, we had a chat about it, and as we finished up she's like, "Whatever you do, don't come back. They're never gonna change." I feel for the staff on the ground, so to speak. It's not their fault management is management.
 
Trying to sort my online Covid pass. Only because I am (all being well) having a bottomless brunch catch up with friends on Sunday and my friend said maybe we should have them prepared just in case.

It appears that after putting all my details in, I know have to verify myself with ID.... doing a big sigh here!
 
Son has come home today with his imedia mock paper, he has spent the week telling us he felt confident he'd done well. 22/60 is not done well, all of his school work is the same, I don't know how to make him see it's not good enough and if he doesn't actually try he will fail his GCSEs.
 
@Spaghetti & Noodles I am sorry, hopefully this will spur him on to work harder. One of mine failed mocs and scared himself, then worked hard to get good GCSE results, A levels, a degree and later went on to qualify as a teacher. Sometimes the shock of failing mocs encourages them to work more than anything a teacher or parent can say.
 
piggieminder said:
@Spaghetti & Noodles I am sorry, hopefully this will spur him on to work harder. One of mine failed mocs and scared himself, then worked hard to get good GCSE results, A levels, a degree and later went on to qualify as a teacher. Sometimes the shock of failing mocs encourages them to work more than anything a teacher or parent can say.
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Thank you, we have been struggling for a while and have been in touch with various people at school, he has full mocks in January so we'll just have to see what that brings. I've gone from shouting and losing my temper to taking a big step back and let him get on with it which feels so wrong but I was hoping he'd take responsibility for it. He is dyslexic so things are harder but it's not an excuse, if we thought he'd tried his hardest that would be different. 🤷🏼‍♀️🤦‍♀️
 
Spaghetti & Noodles said:
Thank you, we have been struggling for a while and have been in touch with various people at school, he has full mocks in January so we'll just have to see what that brings. I've gone from shouting and losing my temper to taking a big step back and let him get on with it which feels so wrong but I was hoping he'd take responsibility for it. He is dyslexic so things are harder but it's not an excuse, if we thought he'd tried his hardest that would be different. 🤷🏼‍♀️🤦‍♀️
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It's so hard to get the balance right, you never know how hard to push. Fingers crossed he now realises he needs to do more. I understand you losing your temper the situation is so frustrating.
I'm just glad my 3 are grown up and doing their own thing now, even though you never really stop worrying about them you do manage a few hours a day when you don't!
 
piggieminder said:
It's so hard to get the balance right, you never know how hard to push. Fingers crossed he now realises he needs to do more. I understand you losing your temper the situation is so frustrating.
I'm just glad my 3 are grown up and doing their own thing now, even though you never really stop worrying about them you do manage a few hours a day when you don't!
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I haven't spoken to him yet, I'm not sure I can do it and stay calm. The paper was left on the dining table, my husband said he came in and put it down, when he asked about it he said his teacher thought he should resit it! I don't have the mental or physical capacity to do anything with it today but something has to change.
 
It took me til near 7 to find the Persil. And now I kind of want the washer to be finished by 9 so as not to make a bad impression on my first night and I swear this thing is refusing to spin just to spite me.
 
Spaghetti & Noodles said:
I haven't spoken to him yet, I'm not sure I can do it and stay calm. The paper was left on the dining table, my husband said he came in and put it down, when he asked about it he said his teacher thought he should resit it! I don't have the mental or physical capacity to do anything with it today but something has to change.
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What does he want to do when he leaves school?

Amongst all the qualifications I left with, creative imedia was one of them. OCR website has the grading system. When I did it 22/60 was scraping a level one pass. He needs double that to get a level 2 pass. I don't know if it's the same now though.

Also he should be able to have extra time and a reader in exams.
 
Went to the pub with hub last night, had a funny turn / seizure so had to come home and go to bed. I'm therefore not in his good books today :( I wish he (and his family for that matter) would understand that yes, they may be psychological and brought on by stress and anxiety but I don't do it on purpose :(
 
Engel said:
What does he want to do when he leaves school?

Amongst all the qualifications I left with, creative imedia was one of them. OCR website has the grading system. When I did it 22/60 was scraping a level one pass. He needs double that to get a level 2 pass. I don't know if it's the same now though.

Also he should be able to have extra time and a reader in exams.
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Thank you for your reply, you're right he is scraping a pass but it's not enough.
This was his first mock and we have more in January 🤦‍♀️ he does get his extra time but there is a bit of me that feels it works against him, only because it makes some of his exams nearly 2 hours long. I've asked about prompters etc and will do so again. All I want is the best for him but some of it has to come from him, I worry it'll be too late when he realises.
 
Spaghetti & Noodles said:
Thank you for your reply, you're right he is scraping a pass but it's not enough.
This was his first mock and we have more in January 🤦‍♀️ he does get his extra time but there is a bit of me that feels it works against him, only because it makes some of his exams nearly 2 hours long. I've asked about prompters etc and will do so again. All I want is the best for him but some of it has to come from him, I worry it'll be too late when he realises.
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To be honest I had exams nearly 2 hours long and on several days I would be in exams all day as I had multiple. I didn't find it too bad but some people found it exhausting. I didn't have extra time or anything until I sat a-levels as I didn't think I was eligible. I also didn't sit many mocks. I think I had one for maths and geography; that was it so I think it's great he's able to take more as it will show him where he's lacking.

I know how you feel, it's very frustrating especially if you know they can do better. What subjects is he taking?
 
Engel said:
To be honest I had exams nearly 2 hours long and on several days I would be in exams all day as I had multiple. I didn't find it too bad but some people found it exhausting. I didn't have extra time or anything until I sat a-levels as I didn't think I was eligible. I also didn't sit many mocks. I think I had one for maths and geography; that was it so I think it's great he's able to take more as it will show him where he's lacking.

I know how you feel, it's very frustrating especially if you know they can do better. What subjects is he taking?
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He struggles with focus, is more my main concern, than the time aspect. He's obviously taking the core subjects but chose triple science rather than the standard double award in the hope that if he didn't do well in one it doesn't pull the overall grade down although I've no idea if we've really done the right thing. History and then imedia, he dropped languages, frustrating but there were varying reasons why that choice. As for what he wants to do he doesn't really know, he's 15, so who really knows at that age. I'm a long way from where I thought I'd be!
Thanks for listening to me moan!
 
The automatic driving instructor that I have been recommended now teaches manual (and automatic if have own car)! Six months ago when I was told about him it was the other way round. Now I don't know what to do. Do I have a couple of manual lessons with him to see if I really can't drive manual? Maybe different instructor and being completely honest from the start about how nervous I am and my struggles last time round, would things be different? Would I get on better with him? He has lots of good reviews about helping nervous/terrified learners so....
 
Sar said:
Do I have a couple of manual lessons with him to see if I really can't drive manual?
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This is a good idea to get a definitive answer. Gears was the thing I worried about most when I learned to drive and it was actually seeing mum doing it and getting it that made me think - no offense mum - "well if she can do it anyone can!" This is the lady who responded to accidentally ending up in a bus lane near a roundabout by letting go of the wheel, putting her hands to her face and screaming as the car rolled along while 14 year old me grabbed the wheel and held it straight so we didn't mount a street full of shoppers. You can't be that bad!

I love gears because I like to direct the car's response to things like hills and bumpy ground. It does become muscle memory pretty quick like dialling a phone. Good luck!
 
Spaghetti & Noodles said:
He struggles with focus, is more my main concern, than the time aspect. He's obviously taking the core subjects but chose triple science rather than the standard double award in the hope that if he didn't do well in one it doesn't pull the overall grade down although I've no idea if we've really done the right thing. History and then imedia, he dropped languages, frustrating but there were varying reasons why that choice. As for what he wants to do he doesn't really know, he's 15, so who really knows at that age. I'm a long way from where I thought I'd be!
Thanks for listening to me moan!
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I'm dyslexic too. Reading comprehension is really difficult for me. If I read a story, I have no problem, but tests and technical reading is really hard for me. I had one class in college that I kept failing at. I finally went to the tutor; the way she showed me how to study and take a test was so helpful! Highlighting or underling the important part of the test question helped me focus on what the question was really about. Hopefully your son will be able to focus and improve on his test!
 
Spaghetti & Noodles said:
Thank you, we have been struggling for a while and have been in touch with various people at school, he has full mocks in January so we'll just have to see what that brings. I've gone from shouting and losing my temper to taking a big step back and let him get on with it which feels so wrong but I was hoping he'd take responsibility for it. He is dyslexic so things are harder but it's not an excuse, if we thought he'd tried his hardest that would be different. 🤷🏼‍♀️🤦‍♀️
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It’s so frustrating when you know they can do so much better but “can’t be bothered“. Especially because they are too young and naive to realize the true impact of those results. I often have a calm chat with my son about how important it is to do well in school, that he “might” want to do something later that would require him going to university and that option needs to be there in case he wants to use it. He does not “have” to go to uni when that time comes (although I’d be so pleased if he did) but I don’t want him to grade badly, loose those opportunities and then a few years down the line say “I wish I had been able to go to Uni, I really want to be in job x,y,z”. Of course they can still claw their way up the educational ladder later is it’s never too late to learn new things but it’s much harder as an adult when you have to balance it with “adult responsibilities“ such as earning am income and taking care of your household.

I think the toughest part is if they have yet to discover their passion. Some children are lucky and know exactly what they want to be for a long time and can work towards that. For the vast majority they really have no idea in their mid teens about where they want to end up, obviously that can make motivation much harder.
 
Betsy said:
It'll look worse before it gets better. It's finding a place to put all that stuff that's the problem.
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Don't I know it. Need to get the boxes out of the way to move the furniture around to have places to store stuff. But then I have stuff needing a home that doesn't stack up nicely outside of boxes lol.
 
When we moved just over 2 years ago into my MIL's house we had 104 boxes and my MIL had left half her stuff here. So we had to find places to put her stuff before we could put our stuff away!
 
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