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Gem789 said:
I can't stop crying, I feel so guilty for not having her PTS sooner and sparing her any pain.
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You have done nothing wrong. Choosing to have a beloved pet PTS isn’t a decision to be taken lightly and you made the appointment but Little passed away on her own in her own home which is a blessing. There really is nothing to feel guilty about x
 
Claire W said:
You have done nothing wrong. Choosing to have a beloved pet PTS isn’t a decision to be taken lightly and you made the appointment but Little passed away on her own in her own home which is a blessing. There really is nothing to feel guilty about x
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Thank you but I was thinking about doing it before that and my mum and her friend were saying how she was still making an effort to try and eat and it wasn't the time etc.With any other pet in the future I won't be swayed now cos I feel so guilty x
 
Gem789 said:
Thank you but I was thinking about doing it before that and my mum and her friend were saying how she was still making an effort to try and eat and it wasn't the time etc.With any other pet in the future I won't be swayed now cos I feel so guilty x
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If it helps you, Harrison was showing signs of kidney failure for quite a few months before he passed away but Chris kept saying he was ok and wouldn’t let me take him to the vets.

We let Harrison out on the morning before we went away but he didn’t come home that night and then we left early the following day so didn’t see him. My mum came to our house to stay and found Harrison really poorly in the garden which is when she phoned the vets who recommended that she take him in straight away as an emergency. He was in the final stages of kidney failure and the kindest thing was to have him PTS.

I will always feel guilty for not taking him to the vets sooner to get him medication so he didn’t suffer and for not being here when he died but we can’t think of the what ifs and have to think that we gave them happy lives while they were here and did what we thought was best

Little knew how much you cared and how loved she was x
 
Claire W said:
If it helps you, Harrison was showing signs of kidney failure for quite a few months before he passed away but Chris kept saying he was ok and wouldn’t let me take him to the vets.

We let Harrison out on the morning before we went away but he didn’t come home that night and then we left early the following day so didn’t see him. My mum came to our house to stay and found Harrison really poorly in the garden which is when she phoned the vets who recommended that she take him in straight away as an emergency. He was in acute kidney failure and the kindest thing was to have him PTS.

I will always feel guilty for not taking him to the vets sooner to get him medication so he didn’t suffer and for not being here when he died but we can’t think of the what ifs and have to think that we have them happy lives while they were here and did what we thought was best

Little knew how much you cared x
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You shouldn't feel guilty at all cos what could you do?I really am glad it was your parents that took Harrison to the vets.I really hope she did x
 
@Gem789 just wanted to let you know you are in my thoughts and sorry for your loss. Please don't feel guilty about the what ifs and make sure you take the time you need to heal.
 
piggieminder said:
I am sorry you both feel guilty, you have nothing to feel guilty about. Sending you both love and kind wishes.
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Thank you,I suppose it's just raw at the moment.I was just stroking my cat marshall and he was being sweet but then I remembered how daisy used to always go for him (she had a fiery temper when she was well) and I started crying again x
 
Grief creeps up on you especially when it's so fresh. I hope you will soon be able to look back on Daisy's life with a smile.
 
@Gem789 feeling guilty is all part of the grieving process. You did what you thought was best for Little. Someone once told me that the more we love, the more we grieve and grief is love with nowhere to go.
 
Things are piling up again.

Nothing has changed at home so the whole process we went through was pointless. The house I tried to buy has finally disappeared off the internet but nothing I've seen matches it. I often wonder how far through the process things would be if everything had gone through. It's a big thing taking on a mortgage and as it might be the only house I ever buy, I want it to be right.

I don't see anyone, don't really go anywhere. Friends "forget" to reply and I'm always the one checking in on them. I've stopped that now as messages work both ways.

My bedroom looks like a bombsite, things everywhere. It's organised chaos, with everything I should have done now piling up to extreme levels. I'm trying to do things as they come up. The jobs that only take a couple of minutes, I try do as many as I can but now its the bigger things. Faced with the prospect of having all of 2024 photos to sort out, I've realised I've got 6months worth of 2023s to organise on my external harddrive.

To top it off, I've had to take a sick day as came down with the stomach bug that's making its way around work.
 
Sar said:
Things are piling up again.

Nothing has changed at home so the whole process we went through was pointless. The house I tried to buy has finally disappeared off the internet but nothing I've seen matches it. I often wonder how far through the process things would be if everything had gone through. It's a big thing taking on a mortgage and as it might be the only house I ever buy, I want it to be right.

I don't see anyone, don't really go anywhere. Friends "forget" to reply and I'm always the one checking in on them. I've stopped that now as messages work both ways.

My bedroom looks like a bombsite, things everywhere. It's organised chaos, with everything I should have done now piling up to extreme levels. I'm trying to do things as they come up. The jobs that only take a couple of minutes, I try do as many as I can but now its the bigger things. Faced with the prospect of having all of 2024 photos to sort out, I've realised I've got 6months worth of 2023s to organise on my external harddrive.

To top it off, I've had to take a sick day as came down with the stomach bug that's making its way around work.
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I’m sorry things are so tough for you still 😞 just take each day as it comes and do things bit by bit x
 
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