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Gem789 said:
I can't stop crying, I feel so guilty for not having her PTS sooner and sparing her any pain.
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You have done nothing wrong. Choosing to have a beloved pet PTS isn’t a decision to be taken lightly and you made the appointment but Little passed away on her own in her own home which is a blessing. There really is nothing to feel guilty about x
 
Claire W said:
You have done nothing wrong. Choosing to have a beloved pet PTS isn’t a decision to be taken lightly and you made the appointment but Little passed away on her own in her own home which is a blessing. There really is nothing to feel guilty about x
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Thank you but I was thinking about doing it before that and my mum and her friend were saying how she was still making an effort to try and eat and it wasn't the time etc.With any other pet in the future I won't be swayed now cos I feel so guilty x
 
Gem789 said:
Thank you but I was thinking about doing it before that and my mum and her friend were saying how she was still making an effort to try and eat and it wasn't the time etc.With any other pet in the future I won't be swayed now cos I feel so guilty x
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If it helps you, Harrison was showing signs of kidney failure for quite a few months before he passed away but Chris kept saying he was ok and wouldn’t let me take him to the vets.

We let Harrison out on the morning before we went away but he didn’t come home that night and then we left early the following day so didn’t see him. My mum came to our house to stay and found Harrison really poorly in the garden which is when she phoned the vets who recommended that she take him in straight away as an emergency. He was in the final stages of kidney failure and the kindest thing was to have him PTS.

I will always feel guilty for not taking him to the vets sooner to get him medication so he didn’t suffer and for not being here when he died but we can’t think of the what ifs and have to think that we gave them happy lives while they were here and did what we thought was best

Little knew how much you cared and how loved she was x
 
Claire W said:
If it helps you, Harrison was showing signs of kidney failure for quite a few months before he passed away but Chris kept saying he was ok and wouldn’t let me take him to the vets.

We let Harrison out on the morning before we went away but he didn’t come home that night and then we left early the following day so didn’t see him. My mum came to our house to stay and found Harrison really poorly in the garden which is when she phoned the vets who recommended that she take him in straight away as an emergency. He was in acute kidney failure and the kindest thing was to have him PTS.

I will always feel guilty for not taking him to the vets sooner to get him medication so he didn’t suffer and for not being here when he died but we can’t think of the what ifs and have to think that we have them happy lives while they were here and did what we thought was best

Little knew how much you cared x
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You shouldn't feel guilty at all cos what could you do?I really am glad it was your parents that took Harrison to the vets.I really hope she did x
 
@Gem789 just wanted to let you know you are in my thoughts and sorry for your loss. Please don't feel guilty about the what ifs and make sure you take the time you need to heal.
 
piggieminder said:
I am sorry you both feel guilty, you have nothing to feel guilty about. Sending you both love and kind wishes.
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Thank you,I suppose it's just raw at the moment.I was just stroking my cat marshall and he was being sweet but then I remembered how daisy used to always go for him (she had a fiery temper when she was well) and I started crying again x
 
Grief creeps up on you especially when it's so fresh. I hope you will soon be able to look back on Daisy's life with a smile.
 
@Gem789 feeling guilty is all part of the grieving process. You did what you thought was best for Little. Someone once told me that the more we love, the more we grieve and grief is love with nowhere to go.
 
Things are piling up again.

Nothing has changed at home so the whole process we went through was pointless. The house I tried to buy has finally disappeared off the internet but nothing I've seen matches it. I often wonder how far through the process things would be if everything had gone through. It's a big thing taking on a mortgage and as it might be the only house I ever buy, I want it to be right.

I don't see anyone, don't really go anywhere. Friends "forget" to reply and I'm always the one checking in on them. I've stopped that now as messages work both ways.

My bedroom looks like a bombsite, things everywhere. It's organised chaos, with everything I should have done now piling up to extreme levels. I'm trying to do things as they come up. The jobs that only take a couple of minutes, I try do as many as I can but now its the bigger things. Faced with the prospect of having all of 2024 photos to sort out, I've realised I've got 6months worth of 2023s to organise on my external harddrive.

To top it off, I've had to take a sick day as came down with the stomach bug that's making its way around work.
 
Sar said:
Things are piling up again.

Nothing has changed at home so the whole process we went through was pointless. The house I tried to buy has finally disappeared off the internet but nothing I've seen matches it. I often wonder how far through the process things would be if everything had gone through. It's a big thing taking on a mortgage and as it might be the only house I ever buy, I want it to be right.

I don't see anyone, don't really go anywhere. Friends "forget" to reply and I'm always the one checking in on them. I've stopped that now as messages work both ways.

My bedroom looks like a bombsite, things everywhere. It's organised chaos, with everything I should have done now piling up to extreme levels. I'm trying to do things as they come up. The jobs that only take a couple of minutes, I try do as many as I can but now its the bigger things. Faced with the prospect of having all of 2024 photos to sort out, I've realised I've got 6months worth of 2023s to organise on my external harddrive.

To top it off, I've had to take a sick day as came down with the stomach bug that's making its way around work.
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I’m sorry things are so tough for you still 😞 just take each day as it comes and do things bit by bit x
 
I am so so so sad.

I got my Nancy back 8 weeks ago. She was doing okay now she isn't. I'm laying in bed crying trying to quitely so nancy doesnt notice because she's squeaking in pain every 5/10 minutes. She has IC. And she's squeaking when pooing too. I am absolutely heart broken. She is such a wonderful guinea pig who I love so much.
She's eating etc and has always picked up in the past. But I've already put her metacam up to 1ml twice a day. 0.25ml gabapentin twice a day plus cystease. And she's still awful.

I don't know if it's her new friend. She doesn't deal with being rumbled at which he does a lot. Or if she's happier at the rescue. But looks like maybe I need to give her up or put to sleep.
 
Piggies2023 said:
I am so so so sad.

I got my Nancy back 8 weeks ago. She was doing okay now she isn't. I'm laying in bed crying trying to quitely so nancy doesnt notice because she's squeaking in pain every 5/10 minutes. She has IC. And she's squeaking when pooing too. I am absolutely heart broken. She is such a wonderful guinea pig who I love so much.
She's eating etc and has always picked up in the past. But I've already put her metacam up to 1ml twice a day. 0.25ml gabapentin twice a day plus cystease. And she's still awful.

I don't know if it's her new friend. She doesn't deal with being rumbled at which he does a lot. Or if she's happier at the rescue. But looks like maybe I need to give her up or put to sleep.
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I'm sad to read your post - it’s heartbreaking when one of our piggies is ill
I’d try and contact your Vet asap as on that medication she should be improving
Try to keep strong …..you can help Nancy
Sending you a big hug to help you cope
Everyone on here is supporting you and we have been where you are …..🥰
There is hope ❤️
 
Roselina said:
I'm sad to read your post - it’s heartbreaking when one of our piggies is ill
I’d try and contact your Vet asap as on that medication she should be improving
Try to keep strong …..you can help Nancy
Sending you a big hug to help you cope
Everyone on here is supporting you and we have been where you are …..🥰
There is hope ❤️
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She saw her vet yesterday. I think I shouldn't have taken her as I think it's made it worse but I felt I needed to with how bad she is. She had a cerenia injection. It didn't help.

I'm going to ring as soon as they open.

Thank you xx
 
Piggies2023 said:
She saw her vet yesterday. I think I shouldn't have taken her as I think it's made it worse but I felt I needed to with how bad she is. She had a cerenia injection. It didn't help.

I'm going to ring as soon as they open.

Thank you xx
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Sending you hugs. I hope the meds kick in and Nancy is soon on the mend. It’s so hard when they are ill. We feel so helpless. You are doing an amazing job of helping her. ❤️
 
Piggies2023 said:
Nancy is leaving this world at 11.15. I can't leave her in this much pain. Very very sad. She has very severe IC. Fought for nearly 2 years. And each flare has got significantly worse.
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It's a heartbreaking decision to make but it's made out of love so it's the right decision. You have done all you can for her sometimes no matter what we do, it's not enough. I'll be thinking of you at 11.15.
 
Betsy said:
It's a heartbreaking decision to make but it's made out of love so it's the right decision. You have done all you can for her sometimes no matter what we do, it's not enough. I'll be thinking of you at 11.15.
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Thank you. I'm having doubts now!. She's just got up chewed hay cube.. bossed round her boar...
She's squeaked when weeing or pooing but no arching and she's come back from this before.. I'm very confused!
 
HUGE HUGS

My thoughts are with Nancy and you. I am so very sorry. You are doing the absolutely right thing. Sterile cystitis at the upper end is sadly not curable. :( :( :(

Vets are still working on gradually pushing out the medical support into the higher spectrum as much as they can with a new, entirely man-made disease (commercial mass breeding for the pet market) that is not yet well and widely known but the limits are still tight and - when you come up against them - absolutely, totally heart-breaking. :(

Please be kind to yourself in the coming days. We have got a new ongoing End of Life and Bereavement Community Support Corner in our Care Sections where we can be there for you whenever needed. Grieving can take you to some strange places and is not necessarily what you expect. We can also help with tips for companions etc. The new section is an acknowledgment of what we have been doing increasingly for quite a while now; looking after each other as well as our piggies.
We can also help you find access to more trained support if you get stuck in one of the pernicious mind loops or experience PTSD symptoms from your pet bereavement. But you do not have to face it all alone.

Here is the link: End of Life and Bereavement Support Corner
 
Piggies2023 said:
Brought her home. Vet thinks she has possibly been gassy on top of her usual IC. She has pre-made syringes of piggy morphine if needed for the weekend. And then judge how she is from there.
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Would you mind opening a dedicated ongoing support thread for Nancy and you in our Health/Illness section as this is a more general thread? It means that we can fully focus on supporting both of you in the coming days since this is a more general thread.

Health & Illness Support Corner
 
Wishing Nancy a good recovery and management of her condition
Hugs to you both 🥰
 
Struggling with life most days. Things with sibling are at rock bottom. He's not even trying, yet everything is our fault? For not wanting to have an abusive alcoholic in the house and not wanting to be afrain where we should be safe? He will be evicted at the end of the month, who knows what will happen then but I cannot go on any longer hoping he will keep to his word. To be doer and not a "going to". I'm done.
 
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