Euthanasia and acute pining during lockdown 💔

Wiebke said:
Right now you are still at the stage where it feels rather unreal and has not really sunk in yet. I react similarly; it is like there is this protective layer over my soul until I am ready to deal with the raw pain of the loss.
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Yes I feel like I did a lot of the grieving over the weekend but right now it feels a bit surreal, like I know eventually I want to post in the rainbow bridge section but I just can't bring myself to do it yet 💖
 
Oh no! Nugget and fluffy are badly teeth chattering and trying to nip each others noses through the bars! What do i do now? 😭
 
I don't know what the expert advice is but when Caspy and Red fell out and I had to seperate them they started doing this. I covered the divider with some spare corex and cardboard (tied it on) and removed several times a day for a bit longer each time depending how quickly they got too violent with the divider pulling and lunging at each other, they eventually (2 weeks ish) calmed down and could live side by side happily. Good luck I hope they settle down soon and can give Fluffy some companionship until she can be bonded with a friend of her own.
 
piggieminder said:
I don't know what the expert advice is but when Caspy and Red fell out and I had to seperate them they started doing this. I covered the divider with some spare corex and cardboard (tied it on) and removed several times a day for a bit longer each time depending how quickly they got too violent with the divider pulling and lunging at each other, they eventually (2 weeks ish) calmed down and could live side by side happily. Good luck I hope they settle down soon and can give Fluffy some companionship until she can be bonded with a friend of her own.
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Thankyou, this is not at all great fluffy has now hunkered down in a hidey and there is tension between nugget and marshmallow 🤦‍♀️
 
Hi @Wiebke sorry to bother you but I don't think this being neighbours thing is going to work, there is a lot of loud teeth chattering and it seems to be affecting nugget and marshmallows bond (they are rumbling and teeth chattering with each other) there's been attempts to nip each other through the bars, standing on hind legs and yawning, now nuggets riling up against marshmallow 🤦‍♀️ fluffy just seems more stressed out ☹️
 
Sending you hugs at this sad and difficult time. Hope you can get these girlies settled so they can be neighbours x
 
Emx93 said:
Hi @Wiebke sorry to bother you but I don't think this being neighbours thing is going to work, there is a lot of loud teeth chattering and it seems to be affecting nugget and marshmallows bond (they are rumbling and teeth chattering with each other) there's been attempts to nip each other through the bars, standing on hind legs and yawning, now nuggets riling up against marshmallow 🤦‍♀️ fluffy just seems more stressed out ☹
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OK! Separate them again. It was worth a try in view of the limiting circumstances...
Things should calm down again.
 
Wiebke said:
OK! Separate them again. It was worth a try in view of the limiting circumstances...
Things should calm down again.
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Thankyou, they did better than any previous neighbouring attempts but I think sadly this one is not possible ☹️ looks like an email to cavy corner... I'll take pictures of our setup and everything and see if we can somehow arrange socially distanced dating or get an idea of when it will be possible 😕 I have children and other pets but we've adopted before so I cant see it being an issue 😊 I think fluffy will be a tricky one with the fear aggression and also she cannot stand being humped it sends her into panic mode so I don't think she'd bond with a boar 🤔 plus we now have the added issue of her being a bereaved adult sow which I've read could also make her rather choosy about who she lives with 🙈 my head hurts but I'm sure we will find the right match eventually!
 
Emx93 said:
Thankyou, they did better than any previous neighbouring attempts but I think sadly this one is not possible ☹ looks like an email to cavy corner... I'll take pictures of our setup and everything and see if we can somehow arrange socially distanced dating or get an idea of when it will be possible 😕 I have children and other pets but we've adopted before so I cant see it being an issue 😊 I think fluffy will be a tricky one with the fear aggression and also she cannot stand being humped it sends her into panic mode so I don't think she'd bond with a boar 🤔 plus we now have the added issue of her being a bereaved adult sow which I've read could also make her rather choosy about who she lives with 🙈 my head hurts but I'm sure we will find the right match eventually!
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Contact Cavy Corner and see what is possible. Fluffy may surprise you positively - giving her the option to choose is the best way forward and worth the wait. Some older sows can be a pain but most will actually re-bond. They are never too old for it. Don't work yourself up over what may actually not be a problem and tackle that hurdle only when it really comes up. There is usually a way around it. ;)

Take a deep breath - Fluffy may not be happy, but she is definitely not pining... which is the biggest problem in a newly bereaved closely bonded piggy. All the rest you can sort out in due time. Take it one step at the time and concentrate on the issues that are on your plate on the table. :tu:
 
Wiebke said:
Contact Cavy Corner and see what is possible. Fluffy may surprise you positively - giving her the option to choose is the best way forward and worth the wait. Some older sows can be a pain but most will actually re-bond. They are never too old for it. The oldest piggy I have bonded was my bereaved peru diva Calli aged 8 years. Don't work yourself up over what may actually not be a problem and tackle that hurdle only when it comes up. ;)

Take a deep breath - Fluffy may not be happy, but she is definitely not pining... which is the biggest problem in a newly bereaved closely bonded piggy. All the rest you can sort out in due time. :tu:
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Thankyou, I'm relieved she isn't pining just a little grumpy, she alternates between teeth chattering and hunkering in a hidey at the moment, I've seen her eat though which was my main concern about to weigh her to check she's eating enough!
 
Thankfully fluffy is only just around 2 so she isn't 'old' just past the teenage months which is probably not a bad thing 😊
 
Just caught up with this thread, so sorry for your loss @Emx93 but it sounds like you made a very brave and compassionate decision there to help your poorly girl pass peacefully and be out of pain... sending hugs for you and all your human and furry family, especially Fluffy x
 
Emx93 said:
@Wiebke fluffy is going to cavy corner for bonding tomorrow 😊 sue says she might be a tricky one and she only has lone boars at the moment and fluffy likely may not do great in a group she's says but worth a shot as she was loosing weight 😰
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That is great news!
 
Emx93 said:
It is, while I don't feel ready yet I know I have to put fluffy first 💖
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This stage is always very hard. Just remind yourself that you do NOT have to love any new arrival right from the start. Your relationship will develop entirely on its in its own time and very different way. The newbie is not a replacement for what you have lost. ;)

But also don't underestimate the relief for you if Fluffy can find new happiness!
 
I’m so, so sorry @Emx93, I totally missed all of your thread, so sorry you’ve had all of this to deal with and you lost her :(:( You fought blooming hard! She was a real trooper with everything and you gave her a great life while she was with you. You’re so lovely thinking of Fluffy after everything that’s happened. Really hope all goes well with her trip to Cavy Corner:hug:xx
 
Emx93 said:
@Wiebke fluffy is going to cavy corner for bonding tomorrow 😊 sue says she might be a tricky one and she only has lone boars at the moment and fluffy likely may not do great in a group she's says but worth a shot as she was loosing weight 😰
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Best wishes for tomorrow
 
Come on Fluffy. Be on your best behaviour and come home with a new friend. Pretty please.
 
Just about to set off 💖 feel awful leaving her in a new strange environment while she's sad but hopefully she'll come home a happy piggy 💖 I have never left her overnight before ☹️ can tell she's sulky as she's not running away from being picked up and sat perfectly still for her hair and nails doing for the occasion 😂 come on fluffy be a good girlie and bag yourself a handsome boar friend 💖 she's a very sweet and caring piggie once she gets to know someone she just takes time 💖
 
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