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I dont know if its just unsocial rude little me, but the amount of drama on this forum is starting to go on my nerves.

Every single unfair little thing happening to someone deserves its own thread, has to be whined about, and needs ooooooh so many sympathy replies... Every time I feel replying "get on with it, get a life!" but then I dont, as I probably would get flamed so badly Id come out with third degree burns.

I mean, "oh no this person has called me this and that" - yes, that happens, and believe me, it will happen again, it might even happen when you are 35 years of age, as there will always be Gits out there in this world that do that sort of thing.
Accept it as a fact of life that there are unpleasant people out there, learn to ignore them and dont waste your time thinking about what they said. Instead of pitying yourself and making lists of all the "horrid" things that have happened to you.

I just get the feeling we get swamped with Emo-Kids on this forum, and I just wish they would get a Livejournal, and some really sad soppy Icons to go with it, with a name like scarredxforxlife or god knows, and leave the Guinea Pig Forum alone.

Dont get me wrong, nothing wrong with posting about personal things, or asking for support, or just an ear to listen to your problems - as some people here in this forum have a really shitty time and I feel very sorry for them.
But I am sick and tired of hearing about all the tiny unimportant "he called me this and that, he pulled my pigtails, and my teachers are soooohooo mean" every single day of the week. And seriously, there is at least on thread per week like that.

If everyone was to make threads everytime a colleague has said something cynical to them, or got a day off when they didnt, the forum would be swamped with it and it would be an Agony Aunt forum rather than a guinea pig one.

Seriously. Please please just tone it down a bit, and just accept that you will meet alot of unpleasant persons in your life, they will say nasty things or things you dont agree with - and guess what, their opinion doesnt have to matter to you, so you can just say "yeah right whatever" and chances are, if they are classmates, in two years time your ways will part anyway and you will never ever see this person again anyway.

But whining about it and pitying yourself will only make it worse, in your head that inflates the problem and makes it look worse to you than it actually is.

sorry for the rant, but I had to let that out, would have exploded if not. And that would have been messy.
 
O0 I agree with you, although I am one of them! :D

Ok, it's the support that I need more, not sympathy... ohh no, have had sympathy all my life! ;)
 
what about a moaners posting where we can if we want let off steam becasue some one has pissed us off then you can choose not to read it if you dont want to and everyones happy,
I do think this forum works becasue we can chat about everyday life and our worrys and problems as long as they are not all the time, but for some its a kind of life line if their life is poo at least a bit of nice friendly advice and comfort doesn't cost anything, I am quite happy to answer anyone like that but equally if i think its a waste of time I wont answer simple, ;)
 
I think a lot of the members seem to be kids/teenagers and things like that are really important to them, you know - it's a big deal for them to be upset by someone at school, although as you grow older you just learn to ignore some people ;D
 
bobbysgirl said:
I think a lot of the members seem to be kids/teenagers and things like that are really important to them, you know - it's a big deal for them to be upset by someone at school, although as you grow older you just learn to ignore some people ;D
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I suppose you are right... to me it just seems a waste of time to be upset by something that a person I dont even care about said to me.

But I think five years back something like that would have been the end of the world for me too.. (oh god I feel old saying that lol)

but I just feel like shaking some sense into kids sometimes when I see them making such a fuss about something so MINOR.
Like, in 2 years she probably wont even remember that boys name. Its like getting upset because the cashier at McDonalds didnt like your new haircolour. ::) really no reason to get upset about things like that!
 
michellemuffin said:
what about a moaners posting where we can if we want let off steam becasue some one has pissed us off then you can choose not to read it if you dont want to and everyones happy,
I do think this forum works becasue we can chat about everyday life and our worrys and problems as long as they are not all the time, but for some its a kind of life line if their life is poo at least a bit of nice friendly advice and comfort doesn't cost anything, I am quite happy to answer anyone like that but equally if i think its a waste of time I wont answer simple, ;)
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I agree
 
I do agree sometimes I do think why be so bothered but when I was that age it was a big bother I suppose, so you must think back to when you were a kid, we only realise that now becasue of hindsight and maturity ( well for some of us ) lol, I dont like to let people bother me too much and try to think so what! but thats experience of knowing its not the end of the world again something we learn over time, I hate bickering and arguments and bitching ( a waste of time and energy) and my kids all say you dont care what people think of you do you mum but occasionally I do care, and I'm always here to help anyone i can, even a friendly word or encouragement is often all thats needed , ;)
 
Because this is such a small forum, I've never really felt that it's much of a problem. Plus this is pretty much an "off-topic" section, so it's not crowding up any of the main sections. It's nicer sometimes to vent around people on a forum, than on an LJ as they often feel pretty damn lonely.

I'm probably guilty of being a drama queen. XD I suffer with depression, a certain degree of paranoia and delusion. I had a major breakdown last night and ended up pretty much hacking away at my arm with a metal comb and some needles. That's not the kind of thing worth making a thread about, I don't think.
 
No but thats what forums are for hun,to talk to people about anything and everything,not everyone has someone irl to talk to and sometimes its a lot easier on here,it really is
 
i like giving people sympthany and trying to cheer them up when they are down.
And i think i am one of these moaners too, but if it werent for this forum i would of hit them lol! totally honest.
Dont worry Darky I'm alittle younger but I'm here if you need someone to talk too, i always wanted to be an agony aunt. ;)
I moan quite alot on the forum, so yes, i guess this is directed alot at me, but without the forum i wouldn't no who to talk to. my dad goes all crazy and marches down the school or my friends house, and my friends well, i can tell them, but they all live to far away, and i dont trust talking about my problems on things like msn.
I think this board is like an escape from life but you can still moan about it. like you feel alot more comfortable and safer telling your problems on here, and getting help and support. when that lad was bullying me over the net, and memebers helped to calm me down, it helped alot, since i was going to send my brother down to beat him up! :o i dont take offence to this, dont get me wrong lol! and i will try not to moan to much, but this board helps alot of people out.


natnat x
 
What about a "Let off Steam thread" so that any little rants can be kept to one place and the said person is happy that it is out of their system? I know that helps me when feeling annoyed at something petty.
 
Darky said:
I'm probably guilty of being a drama queen. XD I suffer with depression, a certain degree of paranoia and delusion. I had a major breakdown last night and ended up pretty much hacking away at my arm with a metal comb and some needles. That's not the kind of thing worth making a thread about, I don't think.
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Hope you don't mind me quoting this bit Nathan :)

Talking, even on forums saved me from cutting myself :) So in a way glad of people to hear me moan
 
Exactly, you should always get it out of your system on a forum or to friends in a rant as it stops it hurting you inside, I can't bottle things up as it makes me hurt more, and I suspect it is the same for other people.
 
Ahh I think that's a bit harsh. It's hard for us oldies to remember how important these issues are when you're a teenager. You don't have to read them if they annoy you and you don't have to comment. :)
Remember how it felt when you were told on another forum to stop going on about your wedding. I know you were upset by that. You came here and you were able to talk about it as much as you liked because its important to you.
That's what makes this forum so great. We can talk about what we like and it really does you good to just write it all out and get it off your chest. :smitten:
 
DebbieR said:
Ahh I think that's a bit harsh.  It's hard for us oldies to remember how important these issues are when you're a teenager.
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thankyou!  :) i no i might be annoying with my moaning posts, but i dont mean it :( my skwl life is just very hard at the moment and like i said, i might as well talk to my wall than my dad or friends, oh yh, i talk to my cats about it to ;)
 
Hey the only reason I haven't blasted the forum with moaning threads lately is because I can't post at work ;D I'm thinking of saving them all up and over running the forum with them ;D
 
Am I the only one that likes posts from youth such as Natnat? XD

I'm 18 so I guess I remember school pretty clearly, so it's kind of nice reading and trying to give advice on matters I experienced not very long ago.
 
I personally don't mind them after all we where all there once? It took me a long time to get over stupid comments, in fact, I'm still getting used to them.

I could have ranted about the people who always mutter about me when I go past them, but I just ignore them, anyway they are a crowd and I don't want to get into any debate with a crowd of people so I just look straight ahead when I go past them, I don't even know where their problem is.
 
DebbieR said:
Ahh I think that's a bit harsh. It's hard for us oldies to remember how important these issues are when you're a teenager. You don't have to read them if they annoy you and you don't have to comment. :)
Remember how it felt when you were told on another forum to stop going on about your wedding. I know you were upset by that. You came here and you were able to talk about it as much as you liked because its important to you.
That's what makes this forum so great. We can talk about what we like and it really does you good to just write it all out and get it off your chest. :smitten:
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Well said Debbie! :)
 
Jane and rip_ernie are also on the forum who are younger but I'm the only one who moans, so i guess its mainly me!
 
Natnat x said:
Jane and rip_ernie are also on the forum who are younger but I'm the only one who moans, so i guess its mainly me!
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XD It just means that you know how to express yourself when it's needed, which is a good trait to have.
 
I'd actuallly like to know more about self harm if people don't actually mind talking about it.

If you do mind, feel free to tell me to sod off :)
 
Is there anything specific that you'd like to know? o_O Is it a curiousity thing, or because you'd like help with the issue yourself?

To be honest, I've never understood self harming. The people I have helped with it have harmed themselves because the pain usually allows them to kind of.. Physically vent. To distract them from the emotional pain, making themselves feel better.

For me personally it's more uncontrollable. I don't do it because I want to. I don't do typical things like cutting, which is what I'm used to dealing with when helping other people.
 
Well not myself personally.... but yes i've been told it makes the person feel better, that a physical pain to focus on takes away the mental pain, but as I don't do it myself I guess I just can't really understand it. I don't know, I guess i'm just looking for advice / info in any way shape or form that willl help me to understand it, prevent it happening. Anything really.

Although if I get stressed i pull at my eyelashes and quite often end up with gaps, I read that that is a very loose form of self harm.
 
The thing is, sometimes we have slightly masochistic habits that can be interpretted as self harm.

The best thing, really.. Is just to find ways to express yourself, I guess. I find things you can do when upset, stressed, etc. to busy yourself or to vent without causing yourself or anyone else harm.
 
Ok so you could punch walls, or pillows or something, or anything really. So what makes a person self harm instead of doing an alternative? I have been told "I like the pain" and I struggle to understand that. So yeah I guess my next question is why self harm when you could find an alternative?
 
Natnat x said:
Jane and rip_ernie are also on the forum who are younger but I'm the only one who moans, so i guess its mainly me!
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and me too lol ;D
 
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