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Bladder stone.

My kids are making me feeling like a murderer. They don't understand how I put her through surgery and 2 days later put her down. She couldn't lift her head, her mucous membranes were super pale. She couldn't walk on top of the horrible stasis/bloat issue. Making me second guess my decision and feeling even worse.
 
So very sorry that you lost Zoey.
You gave her a wonderful life and the best possible chance of life after her bladder stones.
Be gentle with yourself as you grieve.
Your kids will eventually understand but they don’t know how else to express their grief than to take it out on you.

The Bereavement thread has some great resources to help children understand and cope with death.

Holding you all in my heart ♥️
 
I am so angry now. I have been reading about buprenorphine. She was on that. I wish I had known sooner that some pigs have a bad reaction. Things may have turned out differently. Kinda wish I didn't know now. Makes me feel worse. Ugh.
 
Don't beat yourself up too much about it. I think everyone on this forum has felt that way. We do what we can do in the moment to the best of our abilities and that's all we can do. It's important to remember to forgive yourself too. You know Zoey loved you just as much as you loved her and that's what counts. Keep focusing on reading all you can. I am doing the same so I can help my pigs and others.

For urinary stones, look into Sherwood urinary/preventative tablets. I may get in trouble for mentioning product brands on here but it may help you.
 
You gave Zoey a chance, sadly it didn't work out, that is absolutely not your fault please don't blame yourself. For what it's worth I would have done exactly the same. Buprenorphine is fine with some piggies, others seem to react badly. I've had good and bad responses to it with my piggies.
Your children are hurting and lashing out at the only person they can. Sending you hugs and my very best wishes, it's hard when we lose them.
 
Livia Rabideau said:
My kids are making me feeling like a murderer. They don't understand how I put her through surgery and 2 days later put her down. She couldn't lift her head, her mucous membranes were super pale. She couldn't walk on top of the horrible stasis/bloat issue. Making me second guess my decision and feeling even worse.
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It's never an easy decision, and is even harder when kids are involved.
They are angry and upset at the loss and are blaming you because there is no one else to blame - that does not make it your fault.
Be kind to yourself.
Every single pig reacts differently to meds, surgery, etc. and these are not things you could have possibly known in advance.
You did your absolute best, and any decision made with the best interests of your piggy at heart are never wrong, even when the outcome is not one we would have chosen.
 
It sounds to me like she was very very poorly and you did the right thing in relieving her of her suffering.
It's hard for children to understand I think, they don't necessarily understand that although it is horrible it is sometimes the kindest thing to do for our pets 😢
They will grow to understand. The Blue Cross have a bereavement line you can call if you're struggling with the loss of a pet, might be helpful for you or your children ❤️
 
Wheekallweek said:
It sounds to me like she was very very poorly and you did the right thing in relieving her of her suffering.
It's hard for children to understand I think, they don't necessarily understand that although it is horrible it is sometimes the kindest thing to do for our pets 😢
They will grow to understand. The Blue Cross have a bereavement line you can call if you're struggling with the loss of a pet, might be helpful for you or your children ❤️
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Thank you. My kids are moving past it. I just love to torture myself with what ifs. I can't shut my mind off. She was in bad shape. The vet said she hated to give up, but any measures to try to save her would have ended up where we were. I have always been guilty of letting my pets go too long before this decision. Not sure it feels any better this way, but I didn't want her to suffer anymore.
 
I'm the same. Always wanting to try one more day. But if you read your post back, think about what the vet said to you, you did the only kind thing there was left to do.
They always say better a week early than a day to late in these situations, don't they? We love our fur babies and can't bear to let them suffer.
Every decision we make is made with love for them.
I'm glad your kids are feeling better. I still cry and regret the decisions I made over my RB boys Eric and Larry, but if I really think about it, I couldn't let them suffer, and I did everything I could before I had no choice but to make that decision. And they passed away 5 and 7 months ago!
You did everything you could for her, gave her the best life, more than many many piggies get. And the last thing you did for her was with as much love as everything else you ever did for her.
She knows and I think she'll be grateful for relieving her suffering and sending her off over the Bridge 🌈❤️
 
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