Am I Welcome Here As A Newbie?

rome_italy said:
I want to add another thing. Just because, as I told you before, I prefer expressing my thought always.
Months ago there was a member here who then became my friend; this member did not feel at ease at all here and used to tell me that there were lots of posts which made her/him feel not accepted and not at ease. I asked this member to show me the offensive posts, but there was NOTHING wrong in those posts... absolutely nothing! It was only a wrong perception inside her/him. Unfortunately our brain sometimes sends us the wrong emotion, you know... This member said stop and left the forum.
I am reading on Guinea Pig Cages forum your thread and the reply you got from the moderator. His first reply was totally silly! I am still astonished of his wise advice: [you]"If Blue bites too hard, tell him"NO," sharply"[/you]. SHARPLY? Ok, english is not my first language, but all the translations of the vocabulary are clear about the meaning of sharply! and you should NEVER use a tone like that with a prey! also the most stupid among the stupids would know that!
But then you got another reply which hurt you... and sorry but I don't see anything wrong in that last reply... it was only written that you need patience with prey animals, that they will not learn easily (and maybe will never do).
I guess that just like my friend, your brain is suggesting you something that does not exist.
Anyway there is nothing to learn with someone who tells you to scream to a piggie! Hence well done if you sent them to the hell.
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I find this post to be incredibly offensive and I'm afraid I must shoo you away with a broom!
No, I'm kidding. :hug: Thank you for your opinion on the matter. It's entirely plausible that I overreacted to their post. To an extent, at least. I still feel that they were fairly rude and that not everything they said was necessary. I don't remember exactly what they said and honestly I don't feel like revisiting the forum post but I do remember that they said things like "I had a lot to learn" about pigs and that "nothing would change in a day." They also said something along the lines of my expectations were not accurate and that I shouldn't have adopted them to begin with if I had those expectations.
They were right, I do have a lot to learn. But isn't that the point of forums? To learn? I felt this to be kind of snarky. It's just stating the obvious. Nothing would change in a day- this is a fair comment. It's the truth, difficult to argue with it. But I also think that they should have taken my experiences into consideration.
Sometimes the best solutions are stumbled apon via mistakes and problems. I was not saying that Blue stayed the same and his behavior continued, I was saying that it was much, much worse. Something about being 'stern' with him didn't feel right to me and it obviously didn't feel right to him. All-in-all, I was for the most part just making a follow-up post/update post, and they didn't recognize that. Which is fine.
And that last part just felt like them trying to shame me into submission.
This is just what it felt like to me. This was my side of things. I'm not big into fighting. I didn't see the point of talking to someone who obviously either wanted to start a fight or wanted someone to take out their issues on.
Hence my response to them which was basically.. ok then. I'm outtie. Start drama with someone else.
I don't know, I mean.. you can correct someone without being snarky. Like your post for example. It was both polite and informative. You feel that I overreacted and that's entirely understandable and completely possible.
Anyway, I just felt unwelcome there. And the whole yelling at my guinea pig thing didn't feel like the right solution. I respect them and their opinion, but it scared me and my pig so I just felt like there had to be more than one solution out there.
 
rome_italy said:
I want to add another thing. Just because, as I told you before, I prefer expressing my thought always.
Months ago there was a member here who then became my friend; this member did not feel at ease at all here and used to tell me that there were lots of posts which made her/him feel not accepted and not at ease. I asked this member to show me the offensive posts, but there was NOTHING wrong in those posts... absolutely nothing! It was only a wrong perception inside her/him. Unfortunately our brain sometimes sends us the wrong emotion, you know... This member said stop and left the forum.
I am reading on Guinea Pig Cages forum your thread and the reply you got from the moderator. His first reply was totally silly! I am still astonished of his wise advice: [you]"If Blue bites too hard, tell him"NO," sharply"[/you]. SHARPLY? Ok, english is not my first language, but all the translations of the vocabulary are clear about the meaning of sharply! and you should NEVER use a tone like that with a prey! also the most stupid among the stupids would know that!
But then you got another reply which hurt you... and sorry but I don't see anything wrong in that last reply... it was only written that you need patience with prey animals, that they will not learn easily (and maybe will never do).
I guess that just like my friend, your brain is suggesting you something that does not exist.
Anyway there is nothing to learn with someone who tells you to scream to a piggie! Hence well done if you sent them to the hell.
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Also I feel I should add that I doubt pigs understand what the word "no" even means. I mean, they could.. but.. like a child, you have to teach them what it means. By the same meaning, I could scream the word fart at them and produce the same effect. It would scare them.
I did try saying no with him but as I thought he didn't understand it so he just kept biting me. Raising my voice makes him pee on me. Totally understandable. I deserved that.
 
Tiamolly123 said:
Hi & Welcome to our friendly forum.
We are really happy to have you here.
If you ask something & it doesn't work, just keep on asking.
Promise we'll get you threw the problem
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Thank you! I definitely will follow your advise ^^
 
BossHogg said:
Isn't Atlanta in Georgia? where The Walking Dead started, I'm a massive TWD fan. ;)
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Yes it is! I found that pretty exciting myself haha xP can't remember exactly where in Atlanta they were filming however. I know that at one point they used a neighborhood not too far away from us(we used to live near Atlanta before we moved.)
 
Even though it's getting slated at the moment, I still tune in for every episode, that and FTWD, I also have every issue of TWD comic too. Looking forward to Morgan crossing over to FTWD. ;)
 
BossHogg said:
Even though it's getting slated at the moment, I still tune in for every episode, that and FTWD, I also have every issue of TWD comic too. Looking forward to Morgan crossing over to FTWD. ;)
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Sadly I stopped watching The Walking Dead a while back. We were really into it, but when certain people got killed off I was devastated D; And Neagan.. I couldn't even. :( Hurt my soul to watch.
 
It's always interesting to see storylines from the comic make it into the program, there are some excellent story plots coming up if they continue to follow the comic. ;) Watch the walking dead @Betsy and you'll get what I'm talking about. ;)
 
yayoiharuko said:
Sadly I stopped watching The Walking Dead a while back. We were really into it, but when certain people got killed off I was devastated D; And Neagan.. I couldn't even. :( Hurt my soul to watch.
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I loved Jeffrey Dean Morgan (neagan) in supernatural and was sad when he was killed off.His character looks cool with that baseball bat in the walking dead.
 
WELCOME
We all cant know everything and we are willing to help! Introduce us to you piggy(s) !
 
rome_italy said:
I want to add another thing. Just because, as I told you before, I prefer expressing my thought always.
Months ago there was a member here who then became my friend; this member did not feel at ease at all here and used to tell me that there were lots of posts which made her/him feel not accepted and not at ease. I asked this member to show me the offensive posts, but there was NOTHING wrong in those posts... absolutely nothing! It was only a wrong perception inside her/him. Unfortunately our brain sometimes sends us the wrong emotion, you know... This member said stop and left the forum.
I am reading on Guinea Pig Cages forum your thread and the reply you got from the moderator. His first reply was totally silly! I am still astonished of his wise advice: [you]"If Blue bites too hard, tell him"NO," sharply"[/you]. SHARPLY? Ok, english is not my first language, but all the translations of the vocabulary are clear about the meaning of sharply! and you should NEVER use a tone like that with a prey! also the most stupid among the stupids would know that!
But then you got another reply which hurt you... and sorry but I don't see anything wrong in that last reply... it was only written that you need patience with prey animals, that they will not learn easily (and maybe will never do).
I guess that just like my friend, your brain is suggesting you something that does not exist.
Anyway there is nothing to learn with someone who tells you to scream to a piggie! Hence well done if you sent them to the hell.
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oh my goodness that is bad advice. Never yell or get mad at your guinea pig. Often times it is just a thing of getting used to each other or learning what he/she doesn't like..
 
yayoiharuko said:
Since I was cut pretty hard in the last guinea pig forum that I joined, I feel the need to make sure I'm actually welcome here.
Yes, I'm a newby. I'm not perfect. I don't know everything about guinea pigs. This doesn't mean I'm not trying and not doing research and learning more daily.
I joined the guinea pig cages forum about a week ago and posted my first question about my guinea pig biting me and drawing blood often. I was given some advice and since that advice didn't work, I assumed they might appreciate some feedback so that they might know that it didn't work for me right away.
Needless to say, they didn't appreciate my feedback. I'm pretty sure they didn't appreciate my existence, either. I was told that I really knew nothing about guinea pigs and that I shouldn't have gotten them to begin with.
With that said, I'm here now. So here's my question: As a newbie, am I welcome here? I realize my being new to guinea pigs might offend some people, but I can assure you that I come in peace.
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Definitely you are welcome and I hope you find good information here! We were all newbies to start with and there's nothing wrong with that. It's how we learn! So welcome to you and your piggies!
 
Love the pictures- they are both lovely!
 
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