What are you afraid of?

I hate public speaking, people moan about priministers, I do sometimes, but I couldn't even stand up and talk to more than 3 or 4 people. My grooms speech at my wedding day terrified me, not quite public, but still loads of inlaw distant family

I was humiliated as a young child in front of a whole assemblyin primary school for something I didn't do. And the feeling comes right back to haunt me
 
Dolls, clowns, vomit, maggots, and enclosed spaces like lifts or rooms with no windows, all make me panic a bit!
I used to hate public speaking when I was younger but now its my job and I love it- piggy daddy always wonders how I can be a lecturer when I am socially anxious and hate talking to people and wont answer the phone or the doorbell unless I know who it is, but public speaking is actually a great way to manage social anxiety because its all a very controlled situation- I talk, people have paid to listen, anyone interrupting is obviously being rude, its all very structured!
Piggy daddy is terrified of wasps, even saying the word "wasp" or a fly going past that might potentially be a wasp has him squealing and dancing about flapping his arms :)
 
SkyPipDotBernie said:
I hate public speaking, people moan about priministers, I do sometimes, but I couldn't even stand up and talk to more than 3 or 4 people. My grooms speech at my wedding day terrified me, not quite public, but still loads of inlaw distant family

I was humiliated as a young child in front of a whole assemblyin primary school for something I didn't do. And the feeling comes right back to haunt me
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People don't really know what issues they can cause with their actions...

When I was a child I used not be afraid of saying what I thought, well, we went on a visit to a museum with the school and one of the girls that worked at the museum asked what we thought the sculpture represented. I said what I thought and she replied in a not so friendly way something along the lines of 'Youre wrong. That's not it'. While she looked at me as if I said something really weird.

Moments before that they said that art had different meanings depending on who was looking at it. I guess I wasn't included in that sentence :whistle:
 
I actually don't mind public speaking, that said, I would probably get a tree talking to me if there was nobody else to talk to. 😅

I definitely believe childhood experiences have a knock on effect. I have a phobia of sliced meats, makes me cringe. I don't eat meat anyway, but my phobia comes from bullies peeling it off their sandwiches and throwing it at me when I was in school cos I didn't eat meat. Which... sounds pathetic now typing it out but that really got to me.
 
Teddybear22 said:
People don't really know what issues they can cause with their actions...

When I was a child I used not be afraid of saying what I thought, well, we went on a visit to a museum with the school and one of the girls that worked at the museum asked what we thought the sculpture represented. I said what I thought and she replied in a not so friendly way something along the lines of 'Youre wrong. That's not it'. While she looked at me as if I said something really weird.

Moments before that they said that art had different meanings depending on who was looking at it. I guess I wasn't included in that sentence :whistle:
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Yep, it stays with you. What happened with my situation was, a dinner lady stood me up in front of the whole school, I was crying alot, and she said look everyone, look what a baby he is, and I remember everyone laughing loads out loud at me. And I had to stand there for about half hour like it against a wall. Just because some group in the year above were messing about. I wasn't involved or even saying anything. Now everything I do I doubt myself, it isn't just public speaking, it affects my work and like you, when I'm afraid to say anything incase I look stupid. It affects what I think people think of me. And I can tell its that because that same feeling comes flooding right back to me from that moment, it's weird...🤔

I feel so sorry for kids who have had worse things done to them by weirdos or beaten and abused. I can see how it scars people for life. So sad. That dinner lady died of cancer anyway now, and I'm glad, some people deserve to die early
 
SkyPipDotBernie said:
Yep, it stays with you. What happened with my situation was, a dinner lady stood me up in front of the whole school, I was crying alot, and she said look everyone, look what a baby he is, and I remember everyone laughing loads out loud at me. And I had to stand there for about half hour like it against a wall. Just because some group in the year above were messing about. I wasn't involved or even saying anything. Now everything I do I doubt myself, it isn't just public speaking, it affects my work and like you, when I'm afraid to say anything incase I look stupid. It affects what I think people think of me. And I can tell its that because that same feeling comes flooding right back to me from that moment, it's weird...🤔

I feel so sorry for kids who have had worse things done to them by weirdos or beaten and abused. I can see how it scars people for life. So sad. That dinner lady died of cancer anyway now, and I'm glad, some people deserve to die early
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That's really sad. Sending cuddles to your past self.
 
My teacher at the time, Mrs pettit, il always remember her, she was a sweetheart, she came down on the dinner lady like a tonne of bricks and let my mum come to the school and let loose on her aswell. Because I was always the shy kid, that teacher worked on me to get confident for years, and then that dinner lady ruined all her hard work
 
SkyPipDotBernie said:
My teacher at the time, Mrs pettit, il always remember her, she was a sweetheart, she came down on the dinner lady like a tonne of bricks and let my mum come to the school and let loose on her aswell. Because I was always the shy kid, that teacher worked on me to get confident for years, and then that dinner lady ruined all her hard work
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I will never know how anyone can be unkind to children. They have the blackest of hearts.
 
Sending you hugs @SkyPipDotBernie you are a lovely caring person.
When I was 15 a teacher told me nothing I did would ever be good enough. I was a very shy and anxious child as it was. That has stayed with me my whole life (early 60s now), I doubt everything I do, have a terrible inferiority complex and think everything bad that happens must be my fault. I was in my 50s before I realised why I am like I am, his words and my mother's disaproving attitude towards me took away any shread of confidence I had. Please people think before you speak and act.
 
piggieminder said:
Sending you hugs @SkyPipDotBernie you are a lovely caring person.
When I was 15 a teacher told me nothing I did would ever be good enough. I was a very shy and anxious child as it was. That has stayed with me my whole life (early 60s now), I doubt everything I do, have a terrible inferiority complex and think everything bad that happens must be my fault. I was in my 50s before I realised why I am like I am, his words and my mother's disaproving attitude towards me took away any shread of confidence I had. Please people think before you speak and act.
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That's terrible😔 it wires into your brain. I hope your ok
 
piggieminder said:
Sending you hugs @SkyPipDotBernie you are a lovely caring person.
When I was 15 a teacher told me nothing I did would ever be good enough. I was a very shy and anxious child as it was. That has stayed with me my whole life (early 60s now), I doubt everything I do, have a terrible inferiority complex and think everything bad that happens must be my fault. I was in my 50s before I realised why I am like I am, his words and my mother's disaproving attitude towards me took away any shread of confidence I had. Please people think before you speak and act.
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Sending cuddles for you. 😞 I hope you know that you're a warm, kindhearted person who never deserved to feel the way you did.
 
Spoink said:
I will never know how anyone can be unkind to children. They have the blackest of hearts.
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I know, my wife's a primary school teaching assistant, and she sees alot of stuff. Kids coming in, clearly unwashed, dirty clothes, no dinner money given over by parents. Then the parent turns up with an I phone 10, a pack of cigarettes and a nice car. Then there's loads of couples that can't have kids and want them, that would make great parents
 
SkyPipDotBernie said:
I know, my wife's a primary school teaching assistant, and she sees alot of stuff. Kids coming in, clearly unwashed, dirty clothes, no dinner money given over by parents. Then the parent turns up with an I phone 10, a pack of cigarettes and a nice car
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I know the feeling, I've worked with children for 8 years and some of the things you see is unreal.
Can't say I haven't been disciplined for telling parents a few home truths but there you go hah.
 
Spoink said:
I know the feeling, I've worked with children for 8 years and some of the things you see is unreal.
Can't say I haven't been disciplined for telling parents a few home truths but there you go hah.
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You got to sometimes tell them truths 👍
 
I'm afraid of needles, so much so that I faint every time.

Not tattoo and piercing needles, as I have several.

But medical injections - TIMBERRR.
 
I can’t public speak. I guess that’s my phobia. I was working at a backpackers hostel a few years ago in Queensland and was told to help with a games night, they gave me a microphone and told me to call out the teams.. I had a panic attack and almost fainted. I’ve never had confidence in situations like that. I hate having full on attention to me, I feel utterly stupid and embarrassed. In fact I often struggle with everyday conversations..I guess that’s why I rarely start a conversation.

LOL I just remembered, that same night I got stupidly drunk in the end and did KARAOKE (teenage dirtbag)! Go figure!

Other than that I have a bit of a phobia of drowning, but not enough to stop me swimming. But again, I did have a panic attack plopping off a boat in the middle of the sea to snorkel. THAT I’ll never ever do again.
 
Heights (my balance is awful), flying (I think it's part of the heights thing, actually), the wind (I'm great with thunderstorms, but the wind really wigs me out), making eye contact (been working on this one, it's better than it was...sometimes, anyway), making phonecalls (but I'll take them fine).

Plus a couple of really whack ones. You know how some people freak out about the number 13? Well for me it's 35 instead. I have no idea why but even seeing it just makes my stomach twist. Plus I can't listen to somebody talking about me when I'm in the room. Like, if the social worker is phoning the pharmacy about my meds? Nah I have to be somewhere else, I can't do it. Makes medical appointments a little awkward.

I'm weird about public speaking though. I can do it, but I can't prepare for it. I can't even make notes to read off because if I try that then I find I suddenly can't read. So I have to try and wing it instead.
 
after falling down a muddy slope and winding myself a few years ago I can't walk downhill on grassy or muddy surfaces or anywhere too steep.

I'm also terrified of being tickled I go into full panic mode at anything that makes me think of being tickled. This includes one of my uncles that used to tickle me every time I saw him when I was little and I didn't see him often which I think made it worse. I basically didn't know this man and before even saying hello he would pin me to the ground and tickle me ignoring my cry's for help because "I was laughing so I must be enjoying it" even as an adult I had a panic attack at his daughters wedding because he came up behind me to say hello and the feeling of not being able to escape came flooding back to me.
 
SkyPipDotBernie said:
I know, my wife's a primary school teaching assistant, and she sees alot of stuff. Kids coming in, clearly unwashed, dirty clothes, no dinner money given over by parents. Then the parent turns up with an I phone 10, a pack of cigarettes and a nice car. Then there's loads of couples that can't have kids and want them, that would make great parents
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That’s so sad, how can anyone treat children like that. But I suppose as long as they have their latest iPhone! I always want to knock them out of parents hands when they pick their children up from school still texting! Put it away and talk to your children you have not seen them all day! Tragic really, what is so important on there you idiot 🤬
 
PigglePuggle said:
Dolls, clowns, vomit, maggots, and enclosed spaces like lifts or rooms with no windows, all make me panic a bit!
I used to hate public speaking when I was younger but now its my job and I love it- piggy daddy always wonders how I can be a lecturer when I am socially anxious and hate talking to people and wont answer the phone or the doorbell unless I know who it is, but public speaking is actually a great way to manage social anxiety because its all a very controlled situation- I talk, people have paid to listen, anyone interrupting is obviously being rude, its all very structured!
Piggy daddy is terrified of wasps, even saying the word "wasp" or a fly going past that might potentially be a wasp has him squealing and dancing about flapping his arms :)
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Yes I went to see comedian Rhod Gilbert last week and he said he's done a BBC documentary on social anxiety, which he has severely, and he said performing is scary but different. Your job sounds very interesting.

Maggots are a whole new ball game though.. :eek::vom::help:
 
Sweet Potato said:
after falling down a muddy slope and winding myself a few years ago I can't walk downhill on grassy or muddy surfaces or anywhere too steep.

I'm also terrified of being tickled I go into full panic mode at anything that makes me think of being tickled. This includes one of my uncles that used to tickle me every time I saw him when I was little and I didn't see him often which I think made it worse. I basically didn't know this man and before even saying hello he would pin me to the ground and tickle me ignoring my cry's for help because "I was laughing so I must be enjoying it" even as an adult I had a panic attack at his daughters wedding because he came up behind me to say hello and the feeling of not being able to escape came flooding back to me.
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That's really horrible! Why do adults invade children's space like that. My son was thrown upside down as a young child by a cousin I know well, but was a stranger to my son. He won't even do a forward roll now as he won't go upside down.
 
Butterflies/birds - if they are over there in a shed type thing behind netting I can stand next to it and look at how beautiful they are. Couple of times have tried to go through butterfly/bird walkthroughs at animal parks etc and it's a big no. One year had some sotr of anxiety attack three steps into a butterfly enclosure. It was so hot and the butterflies were everywhere. I ran out screaming, hands over my head and everything!

Lifts - I will not go in one on my own at all. Some of them are so small and tiny I get claustrophobic, especially the ones claiming they fit 21 people in but get 3 people and a pushchair in there is no breathing room! If I go in with other people I stand at the door and dart out when they open but my first choice is taking the stairs.
 
Abirose said:
I am scared of Heights. I hate earwigs, think that comes from my brother putting an earwig down my back when we were little.
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Oh yes earwigs and maggots yuk the only animals I just can’t cope with. I fell off my bike once going down a steep path when I noticed an earwig stuck to my t-shirt.
 
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