Sweep, Elderberry And Gogiberry Bonding

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Thanks, i hope so.
I am just feeling so guilty about the girls, have never "given back" an animal before, and although only had them a couple of days, i feel so guilty. i never thought i would have to do this, i just don't think i can find space for an extra cage etc.
 
Oh Jen... I'm so sorry. Big Hugs.
I didnt know Castiel was poorly. None of this is your fault. You have not made Cas ill and you have not made the piggies fall out. You have tried incredibly hard with both bunny and piggies and given them gold standard care. I know you do. I think you are a very very tired and emotional and I dont blame you. I wish that I could make you a cup of camomile tea (or whatever!) and wrap you in a blanket whilst I storted out the animals for you :(

The rescue will understand that they have to go back. It is not you returning them, it is Sweep's needs that are not being met, so they have to go back. Its sad, but it happens.
 
I am so sorry @jenniferanneharris that things have not worked out as hoped. You've tried and that is all you can do. Sometimes sadly it isn't meant to be. Did Sweep meet the girls at the rescue? Cottontails where I adopt from does speed dating and allows the piggy to meet their potential new friend/s on neutral territory to see if they will get on. The new girls are so lovely, its understandable that you are upset. I can fully sympathize just how hard it is to have poorly pets and other things going on all at once. It really takes it toll both physically and mentally. Hope things get better for you x
 
Hi all. I am in such confusion. After seperating a day and a half ago....they have been living in a divided cage and all is calm. Both Sweep and the girls are calm...both sets cht through the bars and sleep and eat by the bars...i dunno if its worth trying again in a few days on neutral ground....when my head is in a better place (this business with a poorly bun had been v distracting while the piggies bonded).
I really don't wanna "send the girls back" unless I have to...i have grown to love them....sweep sleeps by the bars all the time in partic...any idea...is it worth trying again in a few days on neutral ground or not? Thanks x
 
I just want to apologise for giving you the wrong advise by suggesting a bonding bath as I didn't realise it shouldn't be done with cross gender bondings. This is what I was once advised to do by someone and it worked for me but I do hope you didn't do the bonding bath and this is what's made things worse. I feel bad now :(

I am sorry that things have taken a turn for the worse and I am also sorry that Cas is poorly. I didn't realise that but it is great you have taken him in and took him away from whatever situation he was in.

I can't advise on whether you should try again with Sweep and the girls but please try and not feel bad if you do need to return the girls although I know it is difficult and I know exactly how you feel.

I had a failed bonding a few years ago when one of my sows wouldn't accept a neutered boar. He ended up in a right state from where a fight had broken out and I have never felt so guilty 1) for what happened to him and 2) because I had to return him.

But at the time, I did what I thought was right. I had no space for a spare hutch and I already had 3 girls who I didn't want to split. But I had to do what was right for my girls and the boar.

Riki (the boar) ended up going to a new fantastic home and he happily lived out his days with a wife in a lovely indoor home. His new owner was and still is a facebook friend.

All decent rescues would prefer for any piggies who do not work out to be returned to them so please do not worry as Gogi and Elder will find another nice home and I am sure the rescue would let you know when they are re homed if that's what you wanted.

xxxxx
 
Claire W said:
I just want to apologise for giving you the wrong advise by suggesting a bonding bath as I didn't realise it shouldn't be done with cross gender bondings. This is what I was once advised to do by someone and it worked for me but I do hope you didn't do the bonding bath and this is what's made things worse. I feel bad now :(

I am sorry that things have taken a turn for the worse and I am also sorry that Cas is poorly. I didn't realise that but it is great you have taken him in and took him away from whatever situation he was in.

I can't advise on whether you should try again with Sweep and the girls but please try and not feel bad if you do need to return the girls although I know it is difficult and I know exactly how you feel.

I had a failed bonding a few years ago when one of my sows wouldn't accept a neutered boar. He ended up in a right state from where a fight had broken out and I have never felt so guilty 1) for what happened to him and 2) because I had to return him.

But at the time, I did what I thought was right. I had no space for a spare hutch and I already had 3 girls who I didn't want to split. But I had to do what was right for my girls and the boar.

Riki (the boar) ended up going to a new fantastic home and he happily lived out his days with a wife in a lovely indoor home. His new owner was and still is a facebook friend.

All decent rescues would prefer for any piggies who do not work out to be returned to them so please do not worry as Gogi and Elder will find another nice home and I am sure the rescue would let you know when they are re homed if that's what you wanted.

xxxxx
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Dont feel bad at all...you did nothing...and dont worry i didnt do the bath hun, been too busy with Castiel.

Sweep loved them through the bars of his cage and they love him through the bars, i just dont know what to do for the best...Once Cas is well again i can think about what to do about the girls. x
 
Sweep looks like hes really enjoying the company. I hope it can be worked out. My mum had to return a rescue dog, he bit her and her husband and did not get on with her dog and she felt awful but couldnt take risks as I stay there with my kids. So I can imagine how you feel :(
 
Aw Jenny! What a nightmare for you!

I hope you can work something out but if you dont absolutely no one will judge you if you have to take the girls back and try find another solution for Sweep - you'd only be doing whats best for all of them.

I wonder if theres any way they could live happily through the bars if they can't all live in one big group - would you have the space to do that?
 
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Aw Jenny! What a nightmare for you!

I hope you can work something out but if you dont absolutely no one will judge you if you have to take the girls back and try find another solution for Sweep - you'd only be doing whats best for all of them.

I wonder if there's any way they could live happily through the bars if they can't all live in one big group - would you have the space to do that?
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I wish i did, i could only really give them 5x3 total at a stretch..i only have a very small bedroom...so 2x3 for the girls and 2x2 for Sweep. I dunno how fair that would be? I could have poss made a 2 layer cage...but then they wouldn't be able to see each other. Will have to have a good think anyway....
I am gonna attempt again Wednesday as i am home all day then. Today i have to visit my grandma and tomorrow i am babysitting my niece. Wish my room was bigger...especially now Castiel (the bunny) is in my room also while he is poorly etc. x
 
It's all happening at once! Things just have to settle down for you soon xx
 
How are things going now? Hopefully it's all calmed down a bit for you (in all areas of life!)
 
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