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Please someone help us

It’s so tough isn’t it. It’s good you have the other piggies as reasons to get up for. It will get better in time ..... just take each day as it comes - are you thinking of a friend for Thor ? How would you feel about that ?
Look after yourself and try to find things in the day to keep you looking forward 🥰
 
Been following your journey with Odin and I’m so sorry that he went to the bridge. He was so clearly loved and you did everything possible. Rest easy beautiful xx
 
So we are now treating Thor as he has a slight head tilt.
This can’t be a coincidence.

I feel I have definitely killed my Odin by bringing a dog into the home. It must be a Bordetella type thing?
Odin has breathing issues and Thor a head tilt?

yes, I think I sentenced my boy to death by adopting the dog. I think I killed Odin.
 
Marvel_piggie_squad said:
So we are now treating Thor as he has a slight head tilt.
This can’t be a coincidence.

I feel I have definitely killed my Odin by bringing a dog into the home. It must be a Bordetella type thing?
Odin has breathing issues and Thor a head tilt?

yes, I think I sentenced my boy to death by adopting the dog. I think I killed Odin.
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No, no I’m sure that’s not the case, you didn’t kill him, he was poorly but bringing in a new pet wouldn’t have caused Odin to die :hug:
 
I'm so sorry Odin lost his fight 😪😪
Popcorn free at Rainbow Bridge little one 🌈

You are having a terrible time of it, but please don't let that make you blame yourself. It's naturally when we are grieving to want answers to the 'why' questions and to look for connections between events, but that doesn't mean there are any. Sometimes coincidences are just that, no more. There are other owners on here who have dogs as well as piggies, without issues.

Sending you virtual hugs, and healing vibes to Thor xx :hug::hug::hug::hug:
 
Bill & Ted said:
It is very unlikely that your dog has bordetella as he would be coughing and honking and very poorly. If your dog has had his injections then I think you should definitely rule that out x
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Thank you. It’s just I’ve read on here that dogs carry it. He’s vaccinated but not for Bordetella. It’s just I adopted him and Odin’s breathing difficulties started. The vet (Kim) thinks his symptoms weren’t in line with Bordetella (no eye or nose discharge, no lethargy etc). She said she would put her money on it being aspiration pneumonia from his previous dental and jaw issues.
But I can’t help wonder, if I didn’t adopt my dog, would Odin be here now? The guilty feeling is unbearable xx
 
Marvel_piggie_squad said:
Thank you. It’s just I’ve read on here that dogs carry it. He’s vaccinated but not for Bordetella. It’s just I adopted him and Odin’s breathing difficulties started. The vet (Kim) thinks his symptoms weren’t in line with Bordetella (no eye or nose discharge, no lethargy etc). She said she would put her money on it being aspiration pneumonia from his previous dental and jaw issues.
But I can’t help wonder, if I didn’t adopt my dog, would Odin be here now? The guilty feeling is unbearable xx
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I think Kim will be right, she is a great vet and I would trust her judgement completely. Dental piggies do aspirate sometimes, it happened with Ted, we were lucky he was at Debbie’s as she recognised it straight away and got an emergency appointment that day, it was touch and go, we were very lucky he pulled through.
Hope little Thor gets better soon x
 
I hope Thor gets better very soon - please don’t beat yourself up ..... sadly things just happen and as Qualcast&Flymo said coincidences happen. Try not to seek answers for everything but focus on the love you had from Odin and the love you gave him. In these early days it’s natural to question everything but sadly I think it was just his time to leave you. That’s hard and naturally you are bereft , keeping talking to us as we can reassure you and support you. Be kind to yourself .... you DID nothing wrong x x
 
Marvel_piggie_squad said:
But if it brought in Bordetella?

I can’t go on living knowing I’m responsible for my boy‘a death
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Please don't think that, you did nothing wrong. It's a normal process of grief to question things and blame ourselves. Please don't think you caused this, big hugs xx
 
Oh @Marvel_piggie_squad I'm absolutely sure nothing you did killed Odin. He had the kindest, most caring, most vigilant owner he could ask for. Eveything you did helped him fight through his illnesses not cause his them. You have just been terribly unlucky. It must be so hard but please try not to blame yourself. Big hugs ❤️❤️
 
I agree. There’s no evidence it came from your dog or from anything else. Sadly, sometimes horrible things just happen and there’s nothing any of us can do to prevent it. We know from this forum that piggies can be fragile little souls. You absolutely did all the right things and even one of the best vets in the country couldn’t do anything to prevent this sad outcome, so please try not to beat yourself up that you somehow failed. You didn’t. You did so well and you made his life much better than it would have been without you. He was so lucky to have you. It’s normal to feel bad but you did all the right things. Take care.
 
I am so very sorry for your loss. He looked really adorable in the pics you posted.

It is so so so hard losing a loved one and totally natural to blame yourself. I hope that in time you can gently heal and learn to forgive yourself (not saying you did anything wrong).

My Mother died last year and I was her carer so I understand grieving. Councelling may be helpful for you. It has been for me. I still experience a great deal of anxiety but I am on the mend. Best of luck. Take care x
 
I am so sorry for your loss. You really could not have done more for Odin. I'm sorry that the end result couldn't be changed but I would listen to Kim. You know The Cat and Rabbit Clinic are top piggy vets, they don't believe it was caused by your dog either and they are the experts. I know that with any bereavement guilt is a huge part of the process. It's perfectly normal to think "what if" and play out every alternative scenario. Be kind to yourself x
 
I fully understand how you are feeling right now. And how it’s natural to doubt yourself and your care. But please be assured that you have done nothing wrong, and your concerns are part of those troublesome “what ifs” that torment each and every one of us has when we lose a beloved piggy. You are grieving. Please do go gently on yourself.
 
Thank you all. Thor seems ok, no breathing problems, just the occasional head tilt, but his outer ear is a little red so we are treating him appropriately.

I apologise for earlier, I’m probably over reacting and I need to stop searching on the internet so much ( I keep adding 2 and 2 to get 5 I think).

thank you all again for your support. This evening has been difficult. I thought I was ok earlier but it hits me in waves. I’m just trying to do every day tasks like housework and walking the dog. Luckily I’m working from home leading up to Xmas so I can take time to rest and grieve for my boy.

this is the most difficult thing I’ve been through. Words can’t express my love for Odin and all I want to do right now is cuddle him. I really do hope he’s up there having an amazing time and that he’s healthy and happy.

I can’t thank you all enough for putting up with my anxiety and outbursts. You are all amazing 💖

my husband is having my favourite picture of Odin blown up to put on the wall. I collect his ashes on Xmas eve too. I’ll let you all see the picture when it’s ready.
 
I am so sorry you are going through such a difficult time. We all understand how hard losing Odin is on you, most of us have been where you are now so please don't apologise for being upset. The depth of your grief is the depth of the love you felt for Odin. Be kind to yourself you are a wonderful piggie mummy no one could have done more for Odin than you did. Xx
 
That’s great news about Thor ! No need to apologise .....it’s a natural thing , you don’t know where to turn or what to do and Odin has left a big hole in your life at the moment. That’s why it suddenly hits you.
It’s a great idea to keep busy , take your dog out and get some fresh air. The picture will be lovely and that’s a kind thing for your husband to do.
Odin will be having a great time meeting all the other piggies at Rainbow bridge. He will be happy and pain free.
Sleep well and take each day as it comes 🥰
 
I heard something beautiful the other day that has helped me after the loss of my 2 beautiful boys within 4 days of each other 3 weeks ago. "Grief is love with nowhere to go" . Also remember this "The more we grieve the more we have loved."

None piggy people will never understand how these little poop machines steal your heart.
 
Today has been a very difficult day. But I think my boy is trying to tell me that he’s happy and safe.
Odin always sat on my left side or left arm (never the right), and as I glanced down this evening, there was a white feather on my left arm.

I know many will say it’s nothing and I’m crazy, but I would love to think it’s my boy letting me know he’s ok 💖
 
You're not crazy. After my Mum passed away, I looked down when I was out for a walk and there was a huge white feather on the ground it was like an Angel's feather it was that big. I had never seen one in that place before nor did I again. I picked it up and kept it but it got lost in the move last year :(.

Odin is telling you he's OK and that he's happy at the Rainbow Bridge and you're not to worry about him any more.
 
Marvel_piggie_squad said:
Today has been a very difficult day. But I think my boy is trying to tell me that he’s happy and safe.
Odin always sat on my left side or left arm (never the right), and as I glanced down this evening, there was a white feather on my left arm.

I know many will say it’s nothing and I’m crazy, but I would love to think it’s my boy letting me know he’s ok 💖
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They always send a sign - you just have to have an open heart and mind to see it.
I have no doubt Odin wants you to know he is safe and happy, and will always carry your love with him. :hug:
 
Kim has been in touch today. She still doesn’t think it’s Bordetella that took Odin. I guess it’s just me looking for a way to blame myself. I can’t help questioning everything, and wondering what I could have done differently.

Another very difficult day 💔 but we did receive a lovely card from the Cat and Rabbit clinic to offer their condolences and thoughts after Odin’s passing.
 
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