@weepweeps I think it's really important that you have a good support network around you. This forum is fantastic for that
This may sound odd, but I actually worry more for my mum (who is caring for my grand mother, aka gg). My grand mother has both dementia and Alzheimer's. But my two aunts voted and she ended up living with my mum. My mum still has a full time career, kids and grandkids to take care of and caring for my grand mother is actually putting a lot of stress on her. I'm really worried about my mum's health too. it really is tough on those around the people with the diagnosis. I do feel that we will get to a point where we need additional care for my grandmother than only a correct facility can provide - however, moving her there will mean battling with my mum's guilty conscience first (she said she would feel terrible moving gg into a home as she knows she would have never wanted that). But the disease is progressing (gg doesn't always recognise me anymore).
Myself and my brother are doing all we can to help (also around careers, animals, businesses, children etc), to try and support my mum.
We have noticed recently that gg's speech has deteriorated; it's really hard to understand her now. So we came up with the idea of pictures on card (food, water, toilet) etc so she can also point to what she wants. She also gets very anxious (especially around sunset - which is obviously much earlier in the evening now as we go into winter).
It's been really helpful to bounce ideas off of other people (for example, finding a solution to the speech problems). So please don't ever feel isolated in what you are all going through. You are more than welcome to also contact me at any time if there's anything you want to offload.
Here is a pic from March last year, when Koda and I did the sponsored walking to raise money for Dementia UK
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