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Am I making the wrong decision?

You have thought long and hard about this decision, you are doing it now while your piggie is still acting herself. You know she is probably hiding a lot of pain and things are only going to get worse. By deciding to PTS tomorrow you are doing the right thing by your piggy. She will be out of pain tomorrow and be back in her prime with all her friends and making new ones at The Rainbow Bridge.
 
Thank you so much ❤️
Betsy said:
You have thought long and hard about this decision, you are doing it now while your piggie is still acting herself. You know she is probably hiding a lot of pain and things are only going to get worse. By deciding to PTS tomorrow you are doing the right thing by your piggy. She will be out of pain tomorrow and be back in her prime with all her friends and making new ones at The Rainbow Bridge.
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I’m thinking of you today and sending you the strength and courage you need along with a gentle hug x
 
Sending you huge hugs today. Her sweet face reminds me of my poppy who we lost in July🥺 we made the difficult decision to have our buttercup put to sleep two weeks ago. I’m finding it so hard to cope with still and it’s difficult to think about her without crying but things do get better and having this platform has been a HUGE help. Having people that understand and can offer you support is incredible.
Please be gentle with yourself but allow yourself to feel all the emmotions. You have made this decision out of love and care for her❤️❤️
 
Thank you everyone for your well wishes. It means a lot to be able to find comfort in such a supportive community. ❤️

I had her put to sleep about an hour ago. I feel guilty, but I know that emotion just comes with the territory of grief. It was hard to have it done but I know I saved her from suffering weeks or months down the line. A day of suffering feels like years, especially for an animal who doesn’t understand what’s going on. In a way I feel like I took any potential suffering she was going to feel and gave it to myself, which I feel happy about knowing that she didn’t have to feel it.


Obviously there’s no way to know how much longer she had before she got to that point. Months, maybe. Or weeks. But the day was going to come eventually, it was inevitable. She was spared that day of pain and got to go out while she was still her happy little self (and got to eat a ton of blueberries on her way to the vet when she usually would only get 1 a week, if any!)

I’m getting her sent off to be cremated and returned to me. I bought a shelf to put her ashes next to those of my other piggies. They will all be together. ❤️ Her cremation package also comes with an ink-on-paper pawprint impression which I’m thankful for because I tried to do hers myself and they came out terribly 😂😂 but I kept them because those are memories anyways! It’s like she did art 😂

Thanks everyone ❤️
 
Sending you massive hugs and thinking of you this evening ❤️ She’s at peace now and yes, you spared her any suffering. She’ll be popcorning over the rainbow bridge with her friends. You’ll feel her loss tomorrow. The first day without them is always the worst while we try and get in to a new routine which doesn’t include them 😞 xx
 
Definitely having trouble sleeping tonight…I can’t stop crying. I feel like I betrayed her. The guilt is overwhelming. I knew it would be, but now that it’s actually all said and done it’s so hard to deal with.

I can’t stop thinking about if maybe I shouldn’t have done that so soon. Maybe she had a few more months in her? I guess there’s no way for me to know…

And either way, those months would still be uncomfortable and would consist of syringe food. If the roots didn’t cause complications first, eventually her actual teeth would grow too long from not eating hay. I know there was really no good outcome for her diagnosis.

It’s just the fact that I don’t know if I should have done it today…I miss her, and I feel so guilty thinking about how active and curious she was when I did it…I would have felt bad if she was poorly, but at the same time, it would have made the decision feel more “right”.
 
It’s only natural to feel sad and guilty especially when they’re acting their normal selves but you absolutely made the right decision. Yes, she may have lived for another few months but they would have been a few months of pain and she wouldn’t have had a good quality of life not being able to eat for herself. That’s what I have to keep reminding myself with Ella (((hugs))), I hope you can get some sleep x
 
wheekly said:
Definitely having trouble sleeping tonight…I can’t stop crying. I feel like I betrayed her. The guilt is overwhelming. I knew it would be, but now that it’s actually all said and done it’s so hard to deal with.

I can’t stop thinking about if maybe I shouldn’t have done that so soon. Maybe she had a few more months in her? I guess there’s no way for me to know…

And either way, those months would still be uncomfortable and would consist of syringe food. If the roots didn’t cause complications first, eventually her actual teeth would grow too long from not eating hay. I know there was really no good outcome for her diagnosis.

It’s just the fact that I don’t know if I should have done it today…I miss her, and I feel so guilty thinking about how active and curious she was when I did it…I would have felt bad if she was poorly, but at the same time, it would have made the decision feel more “right”.
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My heart breaks for you because that’s exactly how I felt for letting my sweet buttercup go. She had a uterine mass and was suddenly very painful and completely not eating. The mass had progressed and was pushing in her organs. She wasn’t responding to meds and feeds and we decided not to put her through surgery as she was so weak and very high chance she wouldn’t even make it. And we had just lost our poppy a few months prior to a surgery that wasn’t as risky as what buttercups would be. The guilt I carry is unbearable at times. The constant what if I had just tried surgery? What if I’d given her another day? And there’s nothing that anyone can say to take away that feeling but I promise that with time you will understand and fully realise that the decision you made was the right one. It’s only been two weeks for me and it’s still SO hard but it is slowly getting better. She was incredibly lucky to have lived a wonderful life with you and to have been blessed with your kindness to notallow her to go through any awful suffering.
Sometimes we want to hold on to them for longer when it isn’t the right thing for the pet.
As a vet nurse I’ve sadly dealt with many euthanasias. Comforted so many owners with the deaths of their pet but nothing can prepare you for having to make that decision for yourself.
I’m sending big hugs to you, please talk to someone about how your feeling don’t suffer on your own!❤️
 
Guilt is a normal part of grieving.
We ask ‘ what if ? ‘, but remember you made your decision based on the love you had for her.
We are here to support you not only in the rawness of immediate loss but in the days and weeks ahead.
Hugs :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
 
Take care, I think you will feel better once she is back home with you. I think we all feel guilty which ever way their end is. There’s always that awful nagging doubt, but syringe feeding day in day out is only worth it if there’s a positive outcome, it sadly rarely is with dental problems :hug:
 
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