A place to rant about things that wind you up ( keep it clean lol)

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Sonnet said:
I think I need a break! Had a 3 and half hour assessment for autism last week, and got the results today. Looks like I do have Asperger’s. It’s nice to have finally gotten that out the way (was waiting just over a year for the assessment), but just can’t quite wrap my head round it yet.

In unrelated matters, it’s hot and sticky down here, and I can’t sleep properly.

Also, looks like I need to keep an eye on Spud, since he’s showing signs of what looks like a neurological issue. Is this week over yet? Just got the all clear about his ear infection as well!
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Hey welcome to the club! My 13 year old daughter has recently been diagnosed - they don't seem to like the term Aspergers any more so they have said Autism Spectrum Disorder, but she ticks all the Aspergers boxes. So do I, so do my husband and elder daughter (15).

The assessment you've been through is probably much the same as the one we've just had with Harriet, except hers would be the child version, with a lot of input from us as parents, plus observations in school.

It's a long process and a lot to take in but some of the most awesome people in the universe are in the same boat including the lovely Adam Young aka Owl City (we love his music!), Mozart (apparently!), climate activist Greta Thunberg and lots of others, including my Harriet, but I think I'd better do a separate post about her.

Anyway you're in good company and there are loads of things to love about Aspergers. Loyalty, hyperfocus, fewer but more meaningful friendships...
 
Bullying. Cyberbullying. That's when you mock someone online and it's just happened to my 13 year old daughter who has Aspergers.

I am so proud of her reaction as she has come back standing tall.

It all started when she had a full-on meltdown in school the other day because the class teacher was late, the kids went a bit wild and she couldn't cope with all the noise. Most kids were sympathetic and helpful but one boy decided to get his phone out (banned in school of course) and film her - and then share it on social media.

Of course she was distraught when she found out next day BUT instead of curling up in a ball and giving up, she came back stronger.

With the backing of her year head, and us, but entirely on her own initiative and in her own words, she wrote a short speech which she delivered to her class yesterday about the fact that she has an "autism spectrum disorder", what autism is and how it affects her.

There's no anger or resentment in it, just clear setting out of the points she wants people to understand - eg not to crowd round her if she's upset, just get a teacher.

She said to me, they can't be any more mean to me than they have been!

We're still waiting to see the Head about what happened. I've taken police advice as I have close contacts. Let's just say the kid is lucky she had not already told everyone about her autism - and now that she has, if anything else happens we have serious ammunition.
 
Kids can be so cruel. I was a victim of bullying at school cos I didn't smoke, didn't swear, didn't sleep around and I worked hard. I was also quite shy (I'm not now) and that didn't help cos I didn't speak up for myself. Back then the attitude was bullying will make you a more rounded person and won't harm you.
 
Betsy said:
Kids can be so cruel. I was a victim of bullying at school cos I didn't smoke, didn't swear, didn't sleep around and I worked hard. I was also quite shy (I'm not now) and that didn't help cos I didn't speak up for myself. Back then the attitude was bullying will make you a more rounded person and won't harm you.
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Sorry to post a light moan when the conversation has been about serious matters, but MIDGIES! I live in the west of Scotland so they come with the territory, but I'm COVERED in bites from last weekend and they're still itching like crazy. :no:
 
When we were up in Scotland years ago in the caravan we were the only ones with no midgies in or around our caravan. Citronella candles were useless. I had one of these Clearlite Lamp - Mosquito / Midge Repellent via UKCampsite.co.uk and it was brilliant. Unfortunately it doesn't seem to be available from where I bought it from but a quick google search and you should be able to find it.
 
Midges never seem to bother me but we were up bothy camping last year during the heatwave and the CLEGS! They were like a solid wall taking chunks out us, we literally had blood running down our arms 😭
 
I had a couple of holidays walking with the midges in Skye and Orkney back in the 90s - deep joy! Long sleeves and Deet everyday to try not to be bitten to death. :eek:
Nassala said:
Midges never seem to bother me but we were up bothy camping last year during the heatwave and the CLEGS! They were like a solid wall taking chunks out us, we literally had blood running down our arms 😭
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Sorry @Nassala , please translate for us Sassenachs - what is a cleg? Is it something like a horsefly?
 
Yeah I'm pretty sure horse flies and clegs are the same thing. They're big b*****s anyway and they hurt when they bite :rant:!
 
I made it halfway round Morrisons before realising id left my card at home and had no way to pay for the shopping :doh: so I suppose my rant is at myself, when it's warm and I'm not paying attention lol and now that I'm home again I can't be bothered to go back and finish it.
 
Eriathwen said:
I made it halfway round Morrisons before realising id left my card at home and had no way to pay for the shopping :doh: so I suppose my rant is at myself, when it's warm and I'm not paying attention lol and now that I'm home again I can't be bothered to go back and finish it.
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I did it in Tesco once, but I got to the till before I twigged. Had to run the 20 minutes home and 20 minutes back again lol.
 
Reenie said:
Sorry to post a light moan when the conversation has been about serious matters, but MIDGIES! I live in the west of Scotland so they come with the territory, but I'm COVERED in bites from last weekend and they're still itching like crazy. :no:
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It's that time of year. We have them in Norfolk. They don't normally bother me much - they prefer the taste of my husband - but I did get properly munched the other day at the nature reserve when there were HORDES of mozzies and I forgot to wear socks.
 
Betsy said:
This is far better than Deet
Skin So Soft Original Dry Oil Spray | Avon UK
My Godaughter has taken it to Kenya and some other far flung African place where practically every insect has teeth and she didn't get bitten once and it smells much nicer too and your skin stays nice :)
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Reenie said:
Yes @Betsy no self respecting walker would be without Avon Skin so soft. I've about 4 bottles on the go. Hadn't put it on in the garden last week though. The Forestry Commmission use it!
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Thankyou both for the recommendation, I'll have a look for it. From what I remember, there are some serious downsides to Deet, so an alternative is worth trying :nod::nod:
 
Tradesmen! ! !

If anyone wants a crash course in being a dodgy roofer I can put you in touch with a true pro... first necessity is an equally dodgy mate to hiss "shh!" or "behind you!" when the client comes out of the house.
 
Oh no @Pigwhisperer I hope your roof will be alright. Don't pay in full until you are happy. The way you have written that almost made me want to laugh, although that pantomine is not a bit funny.

The tradesmen who make me furious are the ones who say it'll take a week, 2 weeks later they disappear because some family member is in hospital (read we misgudged this job and have another to go too) and you don't see them for six months. Meanwhile you have an unfinished conservatory, kitchen or house extension!
 
It's like the people who came out to fix the leak in my neighbours balcony causing my damp problem, turning up a few days before Christmas and because it started raining said they couldn't finish it til after Christmas. You remember the year of the Boxing Day floods? Yeah, that Christmas period.
Plus, the neighbour was insistent this was my fault and her balcony was now dangerous and how dare I break her balcony.

Edit: this was the neighbour that caused me to move, BTW. The balcony was what originally lit that fuse and she never stopped since lol
 
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piggieminder said:
Oh no @Pigwhisperer I hope your roof will be alright. Don't pay in full until you are happy. The way you have written that almost made me want to laugh, although that pantomine is not a bit funny.

The tradesmen who make me furious are the ones who say it'll take a week, 2 weeks later they disappear because some family member is in hospital (read we misgudged this job and have another to go too) and you don't see them for six months. Meanwhile you have an unfinished conservatory, kitchen or house extension!
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Oh my goodness, did you have the same guy?! That's almost exactly what happened. Apart from the first day removing the roof he spent less than three hours at our property in the first three weeks!
 
I think there a lot of them around sadly. Mine were all when we lived in Cornwall.
My daughter is now having the start of looks like what is going to be a saga in South Wales.
This house needs gutting but we can't stand the thought of the upheaval and bother. At least we found out yesterday why we have had leaks flooding the kitchen for the last few months. OH dug up some pipes yesterday to find some previous owner's shoddy handiwork, now at least the waste pipe from the kitchen only floods the patio! Could be worse could be the toilet!
 
Being too hot to move and being hormonal at the same time. Double the heat and double the grumpiness
 
Lady Kelly said:
Being too hot to move and being hormonal at the same time. Double the heat and double the grumpiness
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You and me both. I bought some after sun (aloe Vera gel in this case), and I keep it in the fridge and just slather it on as required.
 
Pigwhisperer said:
Oh my goodness, did you have the same guy?! That's almost exactly what happened. Apart from the first day removing the roof he spent less than three hours at our property in the first three weeks!
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I feel for you, @Pigwhisperer and @piggieminder !
This neck of the woods seems to attract dodgy paving/patio cleaners, and they keep finding their way to my door (we have block paving on our drive & sideway which keeps growing weeds.). The first one we had called several times before we eventually decided to let him clean the drive. That was ok, but he couldn't reseal it, but said the sand he had brushed in to the joins had weedkiller in and no weeds would grow for 18 months. It was barely a fortnight before dandelions etc startd popping up everywhere. :cen: The second (last year) was sent to us by an apparently legit driveway company who had recently quoted for the job (I thought he worked for them, but it turned out he didn't but was a relation). He cleaned it ok but it was still wet and with sand on the bricks when they sprayed it with watered-down sealant. They also cleaned our roof which they said would look as good as new. Surprise surprise, weeds grew within 2 weeks and the roof was no better. When I complained to the company that had quoted, he came back and resprayed the drive, this time using some dirt-cheap end of line stuff which was just a coating not a sealant. So we still have a weedy driveway :cen::cen::gd: Double waste of good money!
 
When it takes three attempts to attach phone to the Boots self service print machines. Then you find the photo you want & print it... to find when it's printed it has cut half the people in the photo off. It was only 6×4 so surely not hard! ☹
 
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