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RedLoredAmazon said:
Something happened at my child's ABA school today as I got two emails about changes in staff. Actually three emails if you count the one from Wednesday too. They can't tell me what happened, but we have been noticing behavior issues with him like refusing to get out of the car to go to school. He also has been alot more clingy to me. I wish I knew what happened!
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Aww - hope he has a better day today. If you don’t mind me asking - what is ABA?
 
Ruth1 said:
Aww - hope he has a better day today. If you don’t mind me asking - what is ABA?
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ABA stands for Applied Behavior Analysis. The school my son goes to is for children that are autistic, down syndrome, and a few others. My son is 4 but cannot tell me what is going on by speaking, he is on the functioning level of a 18 month to 2 year old child, but I can see how he has behaving that something was going on at school. That has always been our family's concern: if something is going on at school he won't be able to tell us what is going on.
 
RedLoredAmazon said:
ABA stands for Applied Behavior Analysis. The school my son goes to is for children that are autistic, down syndrome, and a few others. My son is 4 but cannot tell me what is going on by speaking, he is on the functioning level of a 18 month to 2 year old child, but I can see how he has behaving that something was going on at school. That has always been our family's concern: if something is going on at school he won't be able to tell us what is going on.
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Bless the wee man. Did you notice any difference after school today?
 
RedLoredAmazon said:
ABA stands for Applied Behavior Analysis. The school my son goes to is for children that are autistic, down syndrome, and a few others. My son is 4 but cannot tell me what is going on by speaking, he is on the functioning level of a 18 month to 2 year old child, but I can see how he has behaving that something was going on at school. That has always been our family's concern: if something is going on at school he won't be able to tell us what is going on.
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I have worked as a SEN nanny for about 3 years, for one year and a half I was one of the ABA therapists too. In the end the parents decided ABA was not a good option as it forces and restricts the child to "socially accepted behaviours", now I understand why and I agree. There are even adults with autism that stem when overwhelmed, I'm ADHD and have some ASD traits. Please please don't take my comment as mean, maybe you want to look into other Therapies too if you haven't yet. After reading and watching (on Netflix) "The Reason I jump", my perspective on ABA changed completely. Best of luck with your little one and I wish you all the best for the whole family! ❤️
 
The buses are going back on strike tomorrow. Yay for more 12 mile walking detours and this time in a heatwave ☹

I'm trying to find some shorts like the Dorothy Perkins ones I own. Normal cotton knee length shorts is apparently a strange thing to look for nowadays ☹

I caught a glimpse of myself in a mirror. I didn't realise I looked so elephantish ☹
 
Sar said:
The buses are going back on strike tomorrow. Yay for more 12 mile walking detours and this time in a heatwave ☹

I'm trying to find some shorts like the Dorothy Perkins ones I own. Normal cotton knee length shorts is apparently a strange thing to look for nowadays ☹

I caught a glimpse of myself in a mirror. I didn't realise I looked so elephantish ☹
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QVC - I’m serious! I’m sure you will get something there!
 
Sar said:
The buses are going back on strike tomorrow. Yay for more 12 mile walking detours and this time in a heatwave ☹

I'm trying to find some shorts like the Dorothy Perkins ones I own. Normal cotton knee length shorts is apparently a strange thing to look for nowadays ☹

I caught a glimpse of myself in a mirror. I didn't realise I looked so elephantish ☹
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Could you cut a pair of your jeans, if you have one?
 
Alinascaueru said:
I have worked as a SEN nanny for about 3 years, for one year and a half I was one of the ABA therapists too. In the end the parents decided ABA was not a good option as it forces and restricts the child to "socially accepted behaviours", now I understand why and I agree. There are even adults with autism that stem when overwhelmed, I'm ADHD and have some ASD traits. Please please don't take my comment as mean, maybe you want to look into other Therapies too if you haven't yet. After reading and watching (on Netflix) "The Reason I jump", my perspective on ABA changed completely. Best of luck with your little one and I wish you all the best for the whole family! ❤️
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I wish I could see that show, but sadly I don't have Netflix. Our family picked this ABA center as they do not stop or prevent the children from stimming. They only stop harmful stimming like headbanging or like my child did rubbing his forehead on the rug. He is working on skills that we feel are necessary for him like potty training, sharing with his peers and adults, not eating things that are not food, keeping his clothes on, learning coping mechanisms for loud noises, and other things similar to that. We have monthly parent training that is required so the parents can work on the skills or be aware of what their child is learning.

My husband is also on the spectrum and is now considered high functioning. He has a job, is an amazing father and husband, and does other amazing things. He was the first child in his city to be diagnosed as autistic. The therapies he received as a child were really terrible and inhumane; his mother removed him from the program he was in and decided to work with him herself. They also wanted to take him away from his family and institutionalize him; I am so glad his mom said NO!

I'm not sure how many other programs for autism are available around here. I know there is theraplay, but they always seem full and never have any openings. I also feel like it isn't what he is learning/playing/doing at school that was the problem, it was the lack of things (heard that there was issues with the people actually doing the work they were supposed to do) that those staff were doing. From reading between the lines, it sounds like they were on their phones instead of working with the children.

I am always happy to hear of new ways to help out my son. I need to keep an open mind for other opportunities for him.
 
Ruth1 said:
QVC - I’m serious! I’m sure you will get something there!
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Ooh never thought of there, will take a look!

Siikibam said:
Could you cut a pair of your jeans, if you have one?
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I would but I struggle to find jeans as it is and recently donated all the ones I don't wear. The annoying thing is I do have 3 pairs of shorts/ crop trousers I could wear if I lost the weight I've been trying to.

Left the house for my nearly a mile walk to the bus stop wearing shorts and straight towards a big rain cloud!
 
Have been sat waiting for two and a half hours forvmy laptop to do something... anything! ☹😠☹
 
I just want some uninterrupted, restful sleep. For the past week or so, I’ve been having fitful sleep because of bad dreams - something always going wrong in the classroom. And the past 4-5 days I’ve been waking before my alarm and unable to go back to sleep.
 
I keep hearing something. I can't work out if it's cats scrapping a few gardens away, birds scrapping several trees away, or if it's the goblins squabbling and making deranged sounds in the process. But every time I go to check on goblins they're like "nope, not us". And now it's bugging me. Wtf is that noise?
 
I give up.

Brother is an absolute waste of oxygen, nothing new there.

Popped to town for cycling shorts. Majority of shop assistants have been rude on another level and I've spent more time biting my tongue to not retaliate with a comment.

Amazon delivered my parcel whilst I was out. I put instructions for it to be left in the green bin if I wasn't in. Came home to find it on the front doorstep the corner of it behind a plant pot full of viola. Package was also open (assuming the sun has melted the glue). A card pushed through the door says it was left "in the front porch" (we don't have one!) Then my tracking/delivery email says the parcel was "handed to resident". That'll be the resident that wasn't in then, that asked for it to be put in the green bin...
 
adding nicotine to my shortfill bottles today was fun. 9 bottles, uneventful. The first two had the caps ping wildly when I was popping them off and it's a pain when it gets over the desk, but that can be cleaned up. There's no simple "wiping it down" when it gets on your clothes, however :td:
 
Wearing sandals in the supermarket. Pushing the trolley and somehow caught my foot on the wheel. My little toe is throbbing a bit still but nail looks ok. Fingers crossed nothing happens to it or I will pass out!

My phone camera has some kind of hazy pattern over it. I can still see what I'm taking photos of and with selfies too, the resulting photo is clear so I'm assuming its to do with inside the phone. I use the camera quite a lot so its going to be really annoying!
 
Today's lesson in guinea pig logic:

1) Don't you dare put a cold Snugglesafe down behind me, even though it's actually 2ft away.
and
2) Sorry you want window access? No you'll have to step over us. We're eating and we shall not be moved.
 
weepweeps said:
I saw this spider in my bathroom a few days ago and let it live. How does it repay me?

This is how ....

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That looks like the one I accidentally soaked the leg of trying to avoid it falling into the bath. It survived, although it was weird to watch it drag a waterlogged leg behind itself.
 
The goblins and I are arguing again. They let me take one towel to soak in the bathtub and wring out (except half of it stayed dry? I only have big towels lol) but the other, no. So I ended up grabbing a jug of water and a sponge and basically drizzling the water on. They don't like it but at least the towel's damp-ish.
 
Waitrose on Sunday afternoon - Shopping Daddy (I'm isolating) was baffled! And similar yesterday...

waitrose sunday.webp

Who knew the heat made people so hungry!? Or maybe everyone has guinea pigs? Poor hot fluff Louise got the last nub of cucumber yesterday. Today she's getting the clippers (again). Brace yourself Louise...
 
Claire W said:
My new tablet has recently been increased. I started the new higher dosage yesterday and they’re making me feel really drowsy. It’s not good in this heat!
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Take things really easy until your body gets used to the higher dose. Hope they help in the long run. 🤞
 
My friend’s 10-y-o told her grandparents about my situation (going through a divorce with a narcissist) while on holiday with them. The repercussions are great. The story she told her mother was that our pastor told the grandparents. After confronting the pastor, he was clear that he’d not betray me by sharing my situation with anyone. I’m not sure where the child got any information, but I suspect her mother accidentally filled in blanks, giving the child too much information about me. Regardless, our lives are all changed for the worse.
 
Homestead Mom said:
My friend’s 10-y-o told her grandparents about my situation (going through a divorce with a narcissist) while on holiday with them. The repercussions are great. The story she told her mother was that our pastor told the grandparents. After confronting the pastor, he was clear that he’d not betray me by sharing my situation with anyone. I’m not sure where the child got any information, but I suspect her mother accidentally filled in blanks, giving the child too much information about me. Regardless, our lives are all changed for the worse.
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Sorry about that. How has it changed for the worse, aside from you perhaps not trusting your friend?

As an aside, it’s no one’s business but you and your ex.
 
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