8 years old and 14 stone

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tawny said:
it's not right that he's over weight but remove him from his parents....i don't think so,.
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But this lad is clinically obese and is four time the weight he should be. The gran refuses to put a lock on the fridge even though they admit they need too. It's not just that he is fat. He is at risk of lots of things. Not least his heart giving out because it cant cope. It's being made to work much much harder then it should.
 
My son is 8yrs old on Friday(2nd) and is about 4 1/2 ft tall and you can count his ribs,he never sits for long, always on the go.Nothing usuall but like this lad on the t.v Ross doesn't eat fruit,veg or salad! So the mother cannot say that its because he would eat "healthy food"because she gives him too much,on the t.v it showed how much this lad eats, 4slices of toast breakfast, 3 large sandwiches for dinner then a large meal,snacking on 4 packets of crisps.The mother needs to take responsibility for her child's size.I'm big (22/24) but I'm paranoid that my kids do not have my habits,which I'm trying to stop.I've stopped eating chocolate and biscuits!
 
I agree with tawny that sometimes we can all jump to conclusions, but this lad doesn't seem to have a disorder of any sort - his portions are just far too big and what he eats is not controlled at all. I still blame his parents/gran/whoever it is that lives with him and looks after him.
 
I agree darkest.dreaming...

Whoevers fault is it, I feel for the kid..imagine how much he must have been bullied and now all this. Maybe he should start eating more healthy for a start though.. saying that, I'm fat and I eat pretty healthy (when I eat ::)) but we can't jump to conclusions like tawny said..wonder what will come out of all this really though.

Did you see the bit when they were talking about the overweight dogs? I felt sorry for the doggies :-\
 
yes he needs help but not hurting :( has it been proven that he doesn't have a medical condition? how does the lad feel? removing him from his home long term could damage him even more.

it needs close supervision no one denies that............................
 
Jane said:
Did you see the bit when they were talking about the overweight dogs? I felt sorry for the doggies :-\
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Exactally the point i made over the previous pages somewhere. I just cant understand some people i really cant.
 
Just watched it - the mother is blaming the authorities for not doing more, and says her depression is caused by her son's constant demands for food... all she has to do is say no!
He doesn't need taking into care - his mother just needs a kick up the backside. Heaven forbid she ever has to raise a seriously ill or disable child.

But what a miserable family - I felt sorry for the older sister too!
 
So sad the mother couldnt get out of bed to see her son open his birthday pesents! I could have cried :'(
 
it's the lad i feel sorry for. there is times i could have crawled in a corner and died but i kick my own arse and make sure that every single day i am there for my son.

i'm no way perfect and lose my temper but i tell him i love him every day even tho he can't always say it back and i always tell him how proud i am of him and all that he has achieved.

i make a point of telling him that it isn't about being the best at everything you do but about putting the effort in and just doing the best he can.

the whole lot of that family need to be going to therapy................
 
tawny said:
it's the lad i feel sorry for. there is times i could have crawled in a corner and died but i kick my own arse and make sure that every single day i am there for my son.

i'm no way perfect and lose my temper but i tell him i love him every day even tho he can't always say it back and i always tell him how proud i am of him and all that he has achieved.

i make a point of tellin him that it isn't about being the best at everything you do but about putting the effort in and just doing the best he can.
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Your son has a good mum then, and one who really cares.
I'm not talking as someone who knows nowt, I've seen what my mum has had to cope with with my younger brother who is disabled - we've nearly lost him a few times too, most recently only a couple of yrs ago, its absolutely terrifying. My parents had no help whatsoever, but they fought tooth and nail to get him into a good school and to look after him - he is now over 30 and a manager, despite a lot of people saying he wouldn't live past his teens. So when I see women like this one who has an otherwise healthy kid but just lies in bed smoking all day not caring what he eats or if he goes to school or not, makes me angry.
 
i know what you mean. the only reason i wouldn't want that lad moving from his home is cause he probably loves his mum and nan and wouldn't understant being split from them. love is blind and i would worry that he would suffer emotionally. he needs help but it has to be done in the best possible way for him.

i admire people who bring up kids with disabilities, i have never really considered my son that way but i was told a few weeks ago by an austic teacher that these kids are disabled and it is time people realised it.

i know i'm lucky and am realy proud of my lad and it's his determination that has got him to where he is, he has had so many phobias the eating one has been on going but is now becoming a problem and it is only now the doctors are acting on it.

when i pointed it out years ago to a doctor i was told, well he looks healthy so it can't be doing him any harm.

some times you do have to fight to get heard and it can ware you down.
 
Yup, doctors aren't always right. I too admire people who bring up kids with disabilities or other problems - it must be so tough.

I don't think this por lad should be put into care either - just think his mum needs help/a wake up call. Its not that hard - be easier if he went to school like his sister said - more exercise and less time to eat!
 
out of my 5 kids the middle 3 have ADHD and i have lived a complete nightmare for years my eldest prefers his own company even now hes 25 becasue I never had as much time as I would have liked to spend with him, mick gave up a good job to help me cope because Social services were determined they would go into repsite care to give me a break ( over my dead body) what they didn't realise was to do that would make them feel pushed out and unwanted and would have made the problems worse,
people not knowing use to say to me can't you control that child, no I couldn't why do you want to try was what my reply got to be, my health has suffered badly but even if i had known that I would still not have put them in respite care, so I can understand your reasons for not putting him into care but my kids were not slowly dying that poor lad needs help but firstly his mother if she can call her self that ( I didn't watch the programme) needs guidelines of which if she failed to stick to 100% then she could be prosecuted might make her see sense , the boy also needs a lot more excercise and better understanding of his health and whats happening to him, Josh my 13 year old like Tawneys also has food issues will not eat anything thats had any veggie on or near it will not eat veggies or fruit or most meats no eggs etc, BUT he most certainly does not live on crap like crisps and biscuits, I simply dont buy them, he eats his own salad cheese ham garlic bread and crackers wierd but he eats it he likes white boiled rice and ravioli not much cereal, occasional toast, loves roast potatoes hates mash loves yorkshire puds and gravy specific frozen carrots yes I found something veggie but only on the odd occasion, he is a pain in the butt but he is a normal size and healthy, as already said NO is the word and dont buy it,
 
Hmm, think his mother could do with some lessons from Michelle & Tawny! (And Dr Gillian McKeith!).
And you're right Michelle, if she didn't buy all the crisps and biscuits, he couldn't eat them...
 
Not Gillian - she's crap. ;D

Get him on Atkins. All healthy and natural food, unprocessed and unrefined. Good for the heart, prevents diabetesm, lowers cholesterol, controls blood glucose.

I'm on it again. Cool O0
 
I heard this story on Radio One today and they were saying the Mum couldn't get him to eat fruit/veg and didn't want him to starve so gave him what he wanted. Bit harsh but I reckon she should refuse to give him any junk till he's so hungry he'll eat anything - reckon he'd be begging for greens by that point.
 
I didn't see it - I'm glad because I would have been throwing things at the TV!
Were they actually talking about putting the boy into care?
It sounds like (what I've picked up on from whats been said) that Granny needs to be removed from the situation - they need to move house to break associated behaviour patterns & have a live in coach to help them re-build a new life. Behaviour patterns need to be broken how many of us if we're bored (which I'm sure isn't many of us) wander into the kitchen & open the fridge without actually realising it?-I do, I've been in my house for about 9 years now & this has been ingrained in me. I'm babbling now - off to work. Vegetarian deli with the most delicious food in the world! olives, sweetpotato & sundried tomato pate, dolmades, my mouth is watering now can't wait to get there!
 
The 'authories' want the boy in care, not the family. This kid had four yorshire pudding with his roast dinner, i only have two! Imagine how big the plate must be and how much else is on there. If the family were helping this boy i'd say no to putting him in care. But his 'mother' needs a kick up the backside. I understand she has depression, but she also has 2 kids that need looking after. >:(
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Being a mum of two high energy burning kids, i can realate to the mother off this boy, My two kids are a skinny as anything, they never sit still and are constantly hungry, but instead of giving in to sweets crisps and general junk food , they have loads of fruit and raw veg, carrots,cucumber,
But We have a junk food night on Friday nights, pizza and chips and fizzy drink,
She needs to be a stronger mum and say NO, it is so easy to give in for a quiet life, but now she is allowing her son to grow up with no discipline with food, and is feeding him to death,
It is a very sad situation and i feel really sorry for the family as a whole not just the child

That was hard work to type all that ;D

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We have a naughty Friday too! Usually is jacket potatoe & cheese & beans. I know its not too naughty but madam loves it sooo much that I've had to cut down the amount of times she gets it ::) so once a week the choice is hers - & thats what she chooses!
 
I saw that today
wtf is going on with some parents these days?
dont they give a stuff about their kids?
Its just damn cruel >:( >:(
and it makes me so damn mad
 
The parents are disgusting, I agree.

Though I thnk the media has a lot to answer for as well, humiliating kids like that. Makes you wonder if the parents fatten them up deliberately so they (the parents) can get their 15 mins of fame.
 
Lucinda said:
The parents are disgusting, I agree.

Though I thnk the media has a lot to answer for as well, humiliating kids like that. Makes you wonder if the parents fatten them up deliberately so they (the parents) can get their 15 mins of fame.
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it does,and it shows you how sick people can be >:(
 
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