Why does he treat me differently?

[lilgalnatalie]

My brothers comes up very unoften as he lives with my mum, but whenever he comes up my dad always bosses me around and treats me different. i dont get away with the things i normally do.
he always calls me in another room for private chats were he tells me my brother will just take it back to my mum.
its really starting to bug me because i cant live normally when my brothers here. but when i speak to my dad.
all he says is. "he can hear you next door, he'll tell your mum."
if i do anything wrong. as in not put out the washing. he'll be natalie come here please, and its
a long story of how my brother will tell mum. its driving the relationship between me and my brother and my dad and me. all my dad
does is insult my mum with my brother and it upsets him and he doesn't come up anymore.
i wish my dad would relise the divorce is over and get on with his life instead of thinking about mum!

 

[Niki]

I sympathise Nat. I'd try talking to your dad, telling him that your mum is still your mum whatever HIS feelings and not to "call" her infront of your brother it upsets him & you & as may risk losing him altogether.
My situation was similar when i was younger tho we (me & my bro) lived with my mum our dad would slate her every time we visited. He & my brother no longer speak to one another & haven't for years & my parents have been divorced over 25 years :

 

[beautifulcat83]

I can sympathise, your dad probably wants to give the best impression of being 'in control' to your brother, so if he does take things back to your mum, she'll see he's coping fine, he's probably a proud man, I dont know. How old is your brother and do you get on well with him?

Cat x 0