My life is falling apart.

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I'm holding back the tears right now, my life is over, my mum has cancelled australia. She got her big fat nose in and told my dad how he werent entitled to take me away, i dont she her problem, i dont speak to her anyway, and now i never will. Australia was a better move for me, better schooling more jobs and less crowded, more laid back life style, cheaper way of life. Now i cant even go now, shes thinking of revenge on my dad, not about me at all. My so called friends hate me and my social life has gone down the toliet. I spend days alone, living on the internet. My mate is a cow, i cant believe how mean she is being too me.  She makes a joke of me then acts like I'm wrong. I'm arguing with her now, and I'm so built up with stress, I'm ready to kill someone. I find my only real friends are starting to become online, aol chat room friends guinea pig forum friends, theres nothing wrong with that, but i cant really got out with you can i ? My teacher at school is mean to me, and i have no chance of rising a grade for my sats , i dont understand the work because i havent been taught it, so her revision books have went down the toliet along with my social life. I need to get out of Coventry, i really do, i need to find new friends, new life and new school. i cant take it no more, i just cant.
 
Hi Nat,

I am so sorry to hear this, I am sure that others will come on and offer better advice than me. Understandably if you were going to go to Australia and now you are not then you are bound to be disappointed big style, I know that I would be. The only way forward is to talk to your parents, both parents if possible. I dont know the timescale of any of this, for instance when did your mum say no to Australia? Try and have a conversation (not an argument) with your mum.

I hope that you can get this sorted - good luck. :smitten:
 
I know you live with your Dad, but I'm not sure what I'd do in your situation. I don't really get the whole situation like that having lived with my Nan and Grandad (who passed when I was 7) and later just my Dad (no Mum), so not sure what to suggest.

But if I was your Mum I would just want you and your Dad to be happy so not sure why she is stopping you.

Also big (((hugs))) to you.

Clare
 
(((hugs))) wish i were closer so you wouldnt have to spend days alone

Poor you x
 
OMG this is terrible :( I really wish i was there then i would give you that happiness of a friendship. I know exactly how you feel. Although we werent planning on moving or anything, i stil know what its like to be in this position. I sometimes feel this way and my dad makes the matter worse! I dont have many friends at all, but yes your right people online are there for you. I am 100% there for you and i would like to become your friend! i love helping people and if theres anytime at all that you need to talk, please message me.
people have let me down a lot too, it makes me feel very down/upset so i know what your going through!
HUGS!
this will sort out soon, you will find some very lovely people oneday that will treat you with respect and remember i suffer the same thing so i do understand:) Teachers are hopeless! i never had support from any when i was at school, its terrible.
We dont live too far away i dont think by the way.:)
I feel the same over wanting to get out of here though.
I just hope you know that i am there for you, I'm not like those people whom are doing that to you. I would love the chance to help people, but i know that can be hard.
 
Also I know that you want friends offline but i'll be your friend online if you want :)
 
Thanks you guyz you have been a help.
2 of my mates just ganged up on me and made my life has worse. i will never be friends with them again. ever.
I'm really depressed about Australia, many of you on the forum, no how exctied i was, and how much i was begging for a new start.
but knowing my mum shes a bitch >:( i have went into depressed hibernation under my bed cover. i just need to get out of Coventry, i hate it her
hate it hate it hate it! :'(
 
Oh Nat i'm sorry this has happened, maybe your mum will calm down and things may change for the better again. Dam i thought i was going to get to meet you :( :(
Well we'll just have to keep on chatting online, jump on and chat whenever love :) :) :) :)
 
poor you, Austrailia sounded brilliant and you were excited about it (((hugs)))
 
chin up.

you know, you have plenty of time left to sort your life out, I wouldnt say your life is "falling apart".

Just to give you an idea. I come from a town where pretty much everyone knows everybody. even when I moved schools it didnt change a thing, because everyone had been in the same primary schools.
so if there was gossip, everyone knew, if you had an argument with someone, everyone was involved, I didnt like it. When I was 18, I moved country. I suppose thats as much of a new start as you can have one.. who says you are not going to live in Australia once you are a bit older, and dont have to rely on the petty arguments that your parents have over you? I know that five or six years sounds like an awfully long time for you at the moment, and you probably think you will never ever make it because everythings so awful - but trust me, by the time you are 21 you look back on your teenage problems and shake your head thinking how silly it all was, those arguments, and how much attention you paid to people who you could just have ignored. At the moment, it might seem like its all too much and youll never cope, but looking back on it in a few years youll say "god, what a big deal I made out of all this unimportant stuff..."

as for online friends - now that I have moved country, 90 percent of my contact with family and friends is over email and instant messaging. I dont see online friendships less worthy than real ones.
I have pretty much met all my boyfriends online. Even the man I am going to marry this year, I met online on a forum. Just because you spend alot of time online, doesnt mean you are not having a social life ;)
 
Wow :o thats a good, brilliant 'speech'
 
maybe as a mum she could not bare to see you go so far away I could never cope if any of my kids emigrated I would fall apart , your mum must love you maybe not show it but to do this could be becasue she does love you, think of the good you wont have to say bye bye to your beloved piggys, as for friends at your age darling so many things are changing and friends are just part of it, they too are going through the same hormional changes as you and I bet they too go home and get upset about friends the same as you, have you thought of seeing your Dr ask your nan to go with you if you feel frightened and ask for councilling to get over your parents split etc because it is causing you so much grief and could be behind all these problems you are having a chat with some on who you can really open up to might just be the thing you need right now,
if Australia is what you want then a few years you will be old enough to make your own choices, I grew up in Essex and had a lovley childhood my dad was very much a punishment man and often sent us to bed with bed and butter so we all have things we had to cope with once i got to the age he could not influence me by we got on better, I'm probably much too soft on my kids but demand respect from them but each of them know they are loved no matter what, maybe in your parents split they have forgotton to let you know this,
I really do think you need a professional person to chat to and get some wonderful advise they may even talk to your parents for you and get them to understand what you are going through, chin up sweetie you've got years ahead of you make plans for it now and learn to enjoy your childhood once job bills and kids come into it wow you might look back and think I wish i was a kid again, I have done that often. and you have always got a friend in me and carrie anne :-* :-*
 
i agree that if i were a mum it would kill me to see my kids go so far away
 
Hiya , I'm 14. I've been having quite a tough time recently too. Talk to your mum or dad or anyone else close to you in your family. Ask to move schools after SATS.I have my SATS soon and i know how pressured you feel. Teachers ramming revision stuff down our throats. If u ever wanna chat, just add me on msn or send me a PM.

Katiex
Piggy kisses from Spice and Honey. :smitten:
 
I'm feeling great! :) had a long moan to my dad, thankyou everyone for your help and being there for me.
 
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