Fluffbabies
Forum Donator 2023/24
Hello again everyone.
Very sadly the time has come for us to say our goodbyes to Leia. It’s very difficult because apart from her eye deformities due to the cancerous tumour on her face, she seems well. She’s still doing all her piggy things but Kim at Cat and Rabbit said she was in discomfort but hiding it extremely well. We were given more painkillers to keep her as comfortable as possible and told to wait no longer than a week before putting her to sleep because she is a very sick piggy. Even though she doesn’t act like one and Kim even said to give her a few days as she still seemed happy. This makes it hard to accept that it’s time! She’s still very active, making lots of happy noises and loving cuddles. But we look at her eye and know that it can’t be nice for her and want to prevent any future suffering. Our appointment is Tuesday at 10.40am which will be 5 days and we can both be there with her and have the rest of the day and next day to mourn and not worry about work.
My question is.. and I know Wiebke answered this before for Ginger but I’m still confused in this case... but as Leia is carrying on quite normally, will the others understand when she doesn’t come back from the vets? Or should we bring her back for them to see her briefly so they know she has died? We don’t want them to be confused looking for her and wondering where she is. We’re worried how they will cope when she doesn’t come back as they haven’t said their goodbyes.. they’re all still interacting and Leia hasn’t distanced herself or anything. To be honest their reaction and grieving is as upsetting to us as us losing her
Am I right in thinking that as there are still three left, that the grieving process may not be as difficult as they still have each other?
Should we give them space or more attention/cuddles afterwards?
our sweet beautiful girl
Very sadly the time has come for us to say our goodbyes to Leia. It’s very difficult because apart from her eye deformities due to the cancerous tumour on her face, she seems well. She’s still doing all her piggy things but Kim at Cat and Rabbit said she was in discomfort but hiding it extremely well. We were given more painkillers to keep her as comfortable as possible and told to wait no longer than a week before putting her to sleep because she is a very sick piggy. Even though she doesn’t act like one and Kim even said to give her a few days as she still seemed happy. This makes it hard to accept that it’s time! She’s still very active, making lots of happy noises and loving cuddles. But we look at her eye and know that it can’t be nice for her and want to prevent any future suffering. Our appointment is Tuesday at 10.40am which will be 5 days and we can both be there with her and have the rest of the day and next day to mourn and not worry about work.
My question is.. and I know Wiebke answered this before for Ginger but I’m still confused in this case... but as Leia is carrying on quite normally, will the others understand when she doesn’t come back from the vets? Or should we bring her back for them to see her briefly so they know she has died? We don’t want them to be confused looking for her and wondering where she is. We’re worried how they will cope when she doesn’t come back as they haven’t said their goodbyes.. they’re all still interacting and Leia hasn’t distanced herself or anything. To be honest their reaction and grieving is as upsetting to us as us losing her
Am I right in thinking that as there are still three left, that the grieving process may not be as difficult as they still have each other?
Should we give them space or more attention/cuddles afterwards?
our sweet beautiful girl 
but amongst the grief we feel a lot of relief and lighter because for the past day she was getting fed up of the attention and didn’t want to be held or touched much anymore. Last night and this morning she still chowed down on veggies, salad and her hay but we knew it was her time and she was ready to go. There was something off about her even though she was hiding it so well. When we were in the vet room saying our final goodbyes she was biting us and our clothes gently and wouldn’t settle in our arms. I think she had just had enough at the end and maybe we handled and cuddle her too much.