I'm still really struggling following the death of a pig

Mynsii

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In late October my guinea pig, Chip went downhill rapidly. He had no prior symptoms, one morning I woke up and noticed him audibly crying, and it was as though he'd lost half of his bodyweight overnight.

Luckily I work from home, so I was able to rush him to the vet but they struggled to diagnose the issue. They found ulcers in his mouth and along his throat, but his teeth were fine. He was wheezing, but his lungs came back clear. They sent me home with painkillers, antibiotics, and critical care, and wanted to do some more invasive tests when he was stronger. I fed him every 4 hours and for a while he came around and seemed to be recovering, and was even popcorning. I kept him in quilted baby bed next to me all day to keep an eye on him. Suddenly, again out of nowhere, he started seizing and screaming. That quickly devolved into gasping, as blood started coming from his eyes and nose. Then he was gone. From start to finish this was maybe 3 minutes at most, so there was no way I could have got him to the vet, and yet I felt so guilty. If I'd have known how violent his death would have been, I'd have insisted on having him PTS.

I still don't know how he died. I couldn't bring myself to get an autopsy, although I know I probably should have. I was just heartbroken and couldn't bear the idea of him being "cut up."

His cagemate, Dale, grieved horribly. He stopped eating, stopped grooming, all he did was lay there and occasionally make sad noises. I had to supplement him with critical care, and the vet told me he was going to die if I didn't get him a new companion. He'd given up life. I didn't feel ready, but I knew I had to put my feelings aside for my little man's sake.

We went boar dating and were matched with a 5 week old I named Cooper. I fell in love with him, and he is a loving little thing who saved Dale's life. We've had him for about 3 weeks now, and I truly couldn't imagine life without him.

Which is part of the problem.

I feel like I've "replaced" Chip, and the fact that I love Coop so much already makes me feel as though I'm betraying Chip by moving on so quickly. I still find myself refering to them as Chip and Dale, not Dale and Cooper, and that makes me feel bad for both my new little one and Chip.

I know my behaviour is irrational, but I still feel as though I'm betraying Chip somehow. On the flip side, feeling like this makes me think I'm not giving Coop enough love, which also inspires guilt.
 
I’m really sorry that you’ve lost Chip x
Loosing a piggie is very traumatic especially when they don’t just drift away peacefully. You are still grieving so be kind to yourself. Try not to feel guilty, you did everything you possibly could have done for him and he will have known that you loved and cared for him very much x
Its difficult not knowing what caused him to die but often knowing doesn’t necessarily help really. these guilty feelings are all part of feeling deep loss. Don’t feel bad, you are not replacing Chip with Cooper, you got him to support Dale which is a very selfless act of love in itself when you really would have preferred to have waited but couldn’t because of Dale’s need for a mate.
Cooper will never replace your special boy, but your heart will grow and you’ll have room to love Cooper too x
 
In late October my guinea pig, Chip went downhill rapidly. He had no prior symptoms, one morning I woke up and noticed him audibly crying, and it was as though he'd lost half of his bodyweight overnight.

Luckily I work from home, so I was able to rush him to the vet but they struggled to diagnose the issue. They found ulcers in his mouth and along his throat, but his teeth were fine. He was wheezing, but his lungs came back clear. They sent me home with painkillers, antibiotics, and critical care, and wanted to do some more invasive tests when he was stronger. I fed him every 4 hours and for a while he came around and seemed to be recovering, and was even popcorning. I kept him in quilted baby bed next to me all day to keep an eye on him. Suddenly, again out of nowhere, he started seizing and screaming. That quickly devolved into gasping, as blood started coming from his eyes and nose. Then he was gone. From start to finish this was maybe 3 minutes at most, so there was no way I could have got him to the vet, and yet I felt so guilty. If I'd have known how violent his death would have been, I'd have insisted on having him PTS.

I still don't know how he died. I couldn't bring myself to get an autopsy, although I know I probably should have. I was just heartbroken and couldn't bear the idea of him being "cut up."

His cagemate, Dale, grieved horribly. He stopped eating, stopped grooming, all he did was lay there and occasionally make sad noises. I had to supplement him with critical care, and the vet told me he was going to die if I didn't get him a new companion. He'd given up life. I didn't feel ready, but I knew I had to put my feelings aside for my little man's sake.

We went boar dating and were matched with a 5 week old I named Cooper. I fell in love with him, and he is a loving little thing who saved Dale's life. We've had him for about 3 weeks now, and I truly couldn't imagine life without him.

Which is part of the problem.

I feel like I've "replaced" Chip, and the fact that I love Coop so much already makes me feel as though I'm betraying Chip by moving on so quickly. I still find myself refering to them as Chip and Dale, not Dale and Cooper, and that makes me feel bad for both my new little one and Chip.

I know my behaviour is irrational, but I still feel as though I'm betraying Chip somehow. On the flip side, feeling like this makes me think I'm not giving Coop enough love, which also inspires guilt.
 
So sorry about the loss of Chip.
He was clearly well loved.
You never replace a piggy - they just get a successor.
The thing about love is that it is infinite- Chip will always have a special place in your heart, and so will Coop in his own way, and so will Dale.

Grief is hard and it takes time. We do very often get another piggy because a surviving piggy needs a companion before we feel ready, so what you feel is normal grieving.
Be gentle with yourself and enjoy Coop for the unique character he is
 
Hi!
I really sympathise with you. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of Chip :hug:
I am going through something very similar, I recently lost my precious boy, Spike to a sudden and unexplained problem. He was fine and then one morning clearly very ill. The vet was useless. It must have been bloat/a blockage.
He ended up fitting and dying in pain as I rushed him back to the emergency vet. It was horrific.
I loved my boy so so so much, He was the perfect gentleman to my 3 female and was a joy to own. So much character and personality. A huge gap has been left in my heart. I still want to cry about him, but I’m trying to move on.
I recently rescued a new boar, Patrick. Whom I love, however I’m struggling to really love him. Gosh that sounds awful. I feel the same, like I’ve replaced Spike and that makes me feel so so guilty. I sometimes almost accidentally call him Spike, and that really annoys me. And I find myself comparing him to Spike and..and wishing he was Spike. :( Poor Patrick, he’s so sweet.
I’m struggling to accept Spikes no longer with us. I must move on..
Patrick is a lovely piggle, and he deserves as much love as Spike had. I’ll get there.
In fact, when I get home from work I’m going to give Patrick, and my girls all a big cuddle :luv:
 
Aw I’m so sorry for your loss of Chip :(

You haven’t moved on and you haven’t replaced him. You have done the kindest for Dale and when the pain isn’t so raw, you will see this for yourself.

(((hugs))) be kind to yourself xx
 
I'm sorry for your loss, I've been through seeing 2 of my guinea pigs before, passing away at home, one with me there, and one when I was at work and late back, it took sheer will power to walk through the door that evening, I knew he wasn't in a good way before I left, but there was nothing I could do ( had seen a vet weeks before). I have to admit, when I found what I found, I was laying down next to his cage in tears. It will get easier for you and there's no need to feel guilty, although I did and its a normal feeling after something like this. 👍
 
I'm sorry for your loss, I've been through seeing 2 of my guinea pigs before, passing away at home, one with me there, and one when I was at work and late back, it took sheer will power to walk through the door that evening, I knew he wasn't in a good way before I left, but there was nothing I could do ( had seen a vet weeks before). I have to admit, when I found what I found, I was laying down next to his cage in tears. It will get easier for you and there's no need to feel guilty, although I did and its a normal feeling after something like this.
 
Sorry to hear about the loss of chip 😔

We lost one of our guinea pigs late summer and ended up getting 3 new babies, one of whom we have bonded with our bereaved boar. Our guinea pig (Buddy) died in my husbands arms at the vet and he was really upset by the experience, it wasn't helped by everyone telling him to man up and it's only a guinea pig 😔

Now we have the new piggies, we love them and they are lots of fun but we both said we feel guilty about replacing Buddy and that we know a lot more about guinea pigs now so we probably care for them better which is also a source of guilt!

I hope posting on here has helped, and also hearing that you are not alone in feeling like this. xx
 
So very sorry for your loss. It is normal to feel like this. Grieve takes time to work through. I had to sign the paperwork for my Velvet to be put to sleep and although I knew it would end her suffering it was like I was signing away her life. We had been to the vet with her several times over the previous week and in the end she was refusing all syringe feeds and all meds. It was awful. She had had enough of this world. I still miss her every day. Whether your piggy dies naturally or is helped over the Rainbow Bridge a huge gap is left in your heart that you feel you will never fill. It is only in time that you will accept the passing of Chip. You will never forget him or stop loving him. The saying goes "time heals all wounds" it would be better to say "In time acceptance happens".
 
@Mynsii I really hope you return to the forum and read the beautiful comments .
I love to add and i will when you are back.
You seem a great piggie slave and hope you ok.
 
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