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How to grieve for a dead guinea pig

Eran Johnson

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Hi all, I would like to tell you a little background story before I begin,
My first guinea pig was a male named Charlie, I picked him out from a pet store and bought him a cage from there, a big on at that (It was my first time purchasing a guinea pig), and as he started to acclimate I grew more fond of him, and decided to research more about guinea pigs.
I quickly learned they live best with a partner or more, so a few weeks later I convinced my mom (I was 14/13 at the time) to buy me another guinea pig, a male which I later named Snoopy.

Cut to a month later, Snoopy's hip started getting bigger, by investigating him I found out it was a female by looking at his (or her) genitalia, I panicked because I knew she was pregnant, but kept it a secret and only told my mom, which was very comforting and understanding, unlike my dad (which I feared would spark a reaction).

A few months later she gave birth to 3 pups (2 males, 1 female) on March 3rd, 2015, my dad actually reacted surprisingly well (and to this date helps me take care of the guinea pigs and loves them even more than my mother), but I already knew we had to give them away.
Charlie was neutered not too long before the birth, So I knew I could keep the female at least, after many conversation I managed to keep the female and name her Peanut.

Peanut was always very energetic and it seemed like she actually annoyed Charlie and Snoopy with her being so hyper, she had been chased away and rumblestrutted at many times by Charlie and Snoopy, but it didn't seem like it was very hostile.

They had vegetables 3 times a day, hay, dry food and pellets, fruit, a very roomy cage and a very peaceful and healthy life, I truly loved them.

When she was about a year and a month old she had developed a sort of "blockage" in her digestive system mainly consisting of gasses, and she wouldn't eat, drink and barely move.
We got her to the vet and I was very distressed about the ordeal, she got a few shots but long story short, she survived and healed a few days later.

2 days ago(2 years after digestive issue) I saw her having some strange behavior, she looked like she was bobbing her head with an open mouth and it looked quite unusual, she was in her hidy and didn't come out much, I looked at her a little bit and dismissed it, thinking it was nothing.

Yesterday, returning from school at 16:00, I saw her "puffed up" in a hidy with her opening and closing her mouth, like a fish out of water.
I took her out of the cage and looked at her, she moved very slightly and started sort of tipping over to her side, I kept an eye on her and alarmed my father, I had noticed her previous digestion issue and called the vet, So I knew to do the same.

We took her to the vet as an emergency and he Immediately told us it was pneumonia and she was in a very critical state, her heartbeats weren't in order and she was barely moving, eating or drinking (she had an oxygen mask and just stayed there, breathing with her mouth opening and closing) and I was also told her belly was full of fluids, and not much food, the vet told us we need to give her a little bit of time, see what happens and then choose on how to continue.

after 1 hour or so he said her condition is worsening, and during that hour that I've been with her I have also researched heart problems in guinea pigs and and her symptoms we're almost an identical match, I immediately informed the doctor and he gave me the phone number for the best guinea pig cardiologist in our country, which was an hour long drive (not that it mattered) the vet agreed that she should be taken to an x-ray and a simulation to see the situation of her heart, since it was hard to diagnose her and it seemed she was getting worse, it was very clear it was likely a heart problem.

the doctor seemed very pessimistic but tried to hide it in order to not distress me (I was with my dad the whole time, he mainly talked to him) and 2 minutes after we got into the car with her, she took her final breath and passed away.




She had been comfortable the whole time, she had been covered with blankets and towels, under a heat light which helped her stay comfortable, she was petted often and had shots including Antibiotics and painkillers which didn't hurt at all (the syringe was small) so that she wouldn't suffer during the process, I cried my eyes out as soon as this happened and currently, the day after her passing, I still feel unreasonably guilty.

I saw her acting weirdly and didn't do anything about it, I have been in a mental state of distress for the good part of a day and can't help myself feel bad for what I've done, I loved her so much, she was "the life" of the cage and I always felt like she was picked on by her cagemates (not really picked on, but kind of dismissed by them, like an annoying kid in a friend group) and that's when I started to really get her used to being handled as she wasn't used to it much.

My piggies right now don't seem bothered by anything, and continue their lives normally (which also concerns me because I wonder if they really didn't get together well, which I didn't EVER see a sign of).

I miss her so so SO much and I can't rest or think about anything else, and some of this grief comes from the fact that she didn't outlive her parents, she only had her birthday 4 days ago, and we celebrated with a bowl full of vegetables.

Please, piggy owners of this forum, post your thoughts here, she didn't deserve to die that young and I can't stop beating myself up for it, I've tried to convince myself that she was a genetically weak-immuned guinea pig considering her previous illness (my other piggies were NEVER sick) and that the disease couldn't be prevented, we had done the BEST we could have done in an emergency situation and both vets confirmed that, but I still can't leave myself to rest knowing that if I caught her situation sooner (which I could've) she would've been alive today.
 
She was the least dominant in the cage, but a month or two ago she started rumblestrutting at her parents and mounting them, so maybe she was more dominant before she died, but I'm not sure.
 
Hi all, I would like to tell you a little background story before I begin,
My first guinea pig was a male named Charlie, I picked him out from a pet store and bought him a cage from there, a big on at that (It was my first time purchasing a guinea pig), and as he started to acclimate I grew more fond of him, and decided to research more about guinea pigs.
I quickly learned they live best with a partner or more, so a few weeks later I convinced my mom (I was 14/13 at the time) to buy me another guinea pig, a male which I later named Snoopy.

Cut to a month later, Snoopy's hip started getting bigger, by investigating him I found out it was a female by looking at his (or her) genitalia, I panicked because I knew she was pregnant, but kept it a secret and only told my mom, which was very comforting and understanding, unlike my dad (which I feared would spark a reaction).

A few months later she gave birth to 3 pups (2 males, 1 female) on March 3rd, 2015, my dad actually reacted surprisingly well (and to this date helps me take care of the guinea pigs and loves them even more than my mother), but I already knew we had to give them away.
Charlie was neutered not too long before the birth, So I knew I could keep the female at least, after many conversation I managed to keep the female and name her Peanut.

Peanut was always very energetic and it seemed like she actually annoyed Charlie and Snoopy with her being so hyper, she had been chased away and rumblestrutted at many times by Charlie and Snoopy, but it didn't seem like it was very hostile.

They had vegetables 3 times a day, hay, dry food and pellets, fruit, a very roomy cage and a very peaceful and healthy life, I truly loved them.

When she was about a year and a month old she had developed a sort of "blockage" in her digestive system mainly consisting of gasses, and she wouldn't eat, drink and barely move.
We got her to the vet and I was very distressed about the ordeal, she got a few shots but long story short, she survived and healed a few days later.

2 days ago(2 years after digestive issue) I saw her having some strange behavior, she looked like she was bobbing her head with an open mouth and it looked quite unusual, she was in her hidy and didn't come out much, I looked at her a little bit and dismissed it, thinking it was nothing.

Yesterday, returning from school at 16:00, I saw her "puffed up" in a hidy with her opening and closing her mouth, like a fish out of water.
I took her out of the cage and looked at her, she moved very slightly and started sort of tipping over to her side, I kept an eye on her and alarmed my father, I had noticed her previous digestion issue and called the vet, So I knew to do the same.

We took her to the vet as an emergency and he Immediately told us it was pneumonia and she was in a very critical state, her heartbeats weren't in order and she was barely moving, eating or drinking (she had an oxygen mask and just stayed there, breathing with her mouth opening and closing) and I was also told her belly was full of fluids, and not much food, the vet told us we need to give her a little bit of time, see what happens and then choose on how to continue.

after 1 hour or so he said her condition is worsening, and during that hour that I've been with her I have also researched heart problems in guinea pigs and and her symptoms we're almost an identical match, I immediately informed the doctor and he gave me the phone number for the best guinea pig cardiologist in our country, which was an hour long drive (not that it mattered) the vet agreed that she should be taken to an x-ray and a simulation to see the situation of her heart, since it was hard to diagnose her and it seemed she was getting worse, it was very clear it was likely a heart problem.

the doctor seemed very pessimistic but tried to hide it in order to not distress me (I was with my dad the whole time, he mainly talked to him) and 2 minutes after we got into the car with her, she took her final breath and passed away.


She had been comfortable the whole time, she had been covered with blankets and towels, under a heat light which helped her stay comfortable, she was petted often and had shots including Antibiotics and painkillers which didn't hurt at all (the syringe was small) so that she wouldn't suffer during the process, I cried my eyes out as soon as this happened and currently, the day after her passing, I still feel unreasonably guilty.

I saw her acting weirdly and didn't do anything about it, I have been in a mental state of distress for the good part of a day and can't help myself feel bad for what I've done, I loved her so much, she was "the life" of the cage and I always felt like she was picked on by her cagemates (not really picked on, but kind of dismissed by them, like an annoying kid in a friend group) and that's when I started to really get her used to being handled as she wasn't used to it much.

My piggies right now don't seem bothered by anything, and continue their lives normally (which also concerns me because I wonder if they really didn't get together well, which I didn't EVER see a sign of).

I miss her so so SO much and I can't rest or think about anything else, and some of this grief comes from the fact that she didn't outlive her parents, she only had her birthday 4 days ago, and we celebrated with a bowl full of vegetables.

Please, piggy owners of this forum, post your thoughts here, she didn't deserve to die that young and I can't stop beating myself up for it, I've tried to convince myself that she was a genetically weak-immuned guinea pig considering her previous illness (my other piggies were NEVER sick) and that the disease couldn't be prevented, we had done the BEST we could have done in an emergency situation and both vets confirmed that, but I still can't leave myself to rest knowing that if I caught her situation sooner (which I could've) she would've been alive today.

Hi and welcome!

BIG HUGS

You have done all the right things, so please do not feel guilty or like you have failed your girl. These feelings are typical for the onset of the grieving process and we experience them all to some degree or other whenever we lose a guinea pig. They are simply an expression of you being a caring, loving and very responsible owner.

Guinea pigs don't have a concept of a long life. They judge their life by the 'happy todays' you give them. Nobody of us can ever control when or what from our beloved pets, or at that, beloved humans will die. As long as your give your piggies a good life while they are with you and for as long as they are given to be with you, then you are doing all that is expected of a good owner. I see my guinea pigs as a loan from God that he can cancel at any time.
There are guinea pigs that sadly develop illness in younger life. I have just lost one of mine that way in January and had to put her to sleep as things developed too quickly for any antibiotics to kick in. :(

Pet ownership and parenthood are both life long learning curves. Each of us is starting at zero and each of us is encountering problems we cannot anticipate or prevent; we can never do everything right from the word go and will never know everything and therefore be able to get everything right. Learning is a process of stumbling and falling; what counts is how you get up and go on afterwards. You grow with how well you deal with the challenges life throws at you.
You do not learn from never putting a foot wrong; you learn from making mistakes and gain a much deeper understanding of the problem itself and how to spot and deal with similar situations in the future. But you also acquire emotional intelligence and maturity by dealing with an issue, accepting the pain and going on from there a little bit more battered and a little bit wiser.

It is always so easy to see where you have gone wrong from hindsight, but in reality you are treading the maze of the Here and Then blindfolded. We all run into a hedge or a dead end head-on as we go through life as the map of our personal maze is only visible when we look back. There no signposts when we look ahead and have to make wide ranging decisions without knowing all the facts, and there are usually no klaxon alerts to warn us of dangers we have never encountered before. Not matter how experienced you are, you will still be blindsided from time to time. Be sad and upset about your loss, but keep in mind that you are not expected to prevent any illness; you are only expected to do your best in any given situation - and you have clearly done that!

Please do not beat yourself up for something you have not been prepared for. Guinea pigs are prey animals; they are extremely good at hiding any illness until it is often too late. they can also go downhill with truly frightening speed. You haven't done anything wrong; you've just come up against one of these things... :(

Please take the time to read this guide here. It contains tips of what you can do and need to look out for in any companions but also in the last chapter tips on what you can do for yourself to help with your grieving process. Try to be kind with yourself, give yourself time to grieve and to work your way through the whole process.
Looking After A Bereaved Guinea Pig and Human Grieving Help Links

Talk and write. Try to regain as much of your beloved girl as she was before and not let the dramatic but thankfully short end blight your happy memories of her forever. There is much more of her with you than you think - and that can never be taken from you if you go and uncover it over the coming weeks. The concrete tips on where to seek help and how to do this are in guide.
 
So sorry for your loss. I hope you aren't too hard on yourself you did all you could.
 
It is sad when we lose a piggy you did all you could. She is now at the Rainbow Bridge and out of pain.
 
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so hard to look back and wonder and beat yourself up, but what's important to know is that you gave her a good life and did everything possible to help her. Unfortunately, sometimes it just doesn't go that way. ((HUGS)) to you.
 
So sorry for the loss of your beloved piggy.
RIP little one. 💕
 
I can understand your situation quite well. I have been through this pain 2 years ago. Give yourself some time. You will be fine. Remember Peanut and the happier moments you spent with her and please don't blame yourself. You gave her a good life! Now just let her go... I know its hard, but you got to pull yourself together! May the almighty give you strength.. RIP Peanut.
 
It’s not your fault, I’m so sorry for your loss, perhaps you would like to make a photo album with all your memories together, or print and frame a photo, it’s up to you whatever you want to do

Hugs!
 
I'm thinking about getting another guinea pig to make a trio, I've thought about maybe the parents having some tension and would like some different company, I'm also up to upgrading their cage to a c&c cage as it seems to be cheaper and more roomy and open, they don't seem to be grieving but they seem a little bit less active but they're very much eating and drinking and making sounds, do you guys think getting another piggie will be a good course of action? I want to grab a female since I have a female and a castrated male.
 
Oh sweetie :( I really wish I could give you a big hug right now. I felt exactly like you a week ago when my 2 year old Snowball died in very similar circs.... went down really quickly, had the best care off my local vet, got referred to a specialist an hour and half away which I rushed him to... but to no avail 😔 I was so so absolutely devastated and blamed myself wondering why I didn't do certain things or pick up signs earlier. I cried for 2 days - and I'm 38!
However, the vets told me exactly what wiebke said above..... we cannot spot everything and shouldnt blsme ourselves. The way you're feeling right now just shows you have a heart of gold and love animals so much 😔 but please don't blame yourself..... and please accept my virtual hugs from someone who knows how you feel right now. x
I never thought piggies could steal our hearts the way they do, and some people around me think I'm crazy for getting so upset over a little furry, but.... everyone on this forum understands - we 'get it' ❤
Big big hugs x
 
Oh sweetie :( I really wish I could give you a big hug right now. I felt exactly like you a week ago when my 2 year old Snowball died in very similar circs.... went down really quickly, had the best care off my local vet, got referred to a specialist an hour and half away which I rushed him to... but to no avail 😔 I was so so absolutely devastated and blamed myself wondering why I didn't do certain things or pick up signs earlier. I cried for 2 days - and I'm 38!
However, the vets told me exactly what wiebke said above..... we cannot spot everything and shouldnt blsme ourselves. The way you're feeling right now just shows you have a heart of gold and love animals so much 😔 but please don't blame yourself..... and please accept my virtual hugs from someone who knows how you feel right now. x
I never thought piggies could steal our hearts the way they do, and some people around me think I'm crazy for getting so upset over a little furry, but.... everyone on this forum understands - we 'get it' ❤
Big big hugs x
thank you so much, it's relieving to see someone that feels the same as I do.
 
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