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Hubby and I were in Birmingham yesterday - he had an interview at the sea life centre, then we went round town for a bit.

Anyway... I noticed a sign

Become a friend for a disabled person and make their life better

How insulting! Just cos you're in a chair or have any type of disabilty DOES NOT mean that you can't get or make friends!

OK, maybe I read too much into it, but it really got to me!
 
awww Kelly you dont need more friends you have got us lot, :smitten: ;D ;D ;D now what if a millionaire made friends with you think of the plush piggy palace you could get him to build you, lol
how did he do at the interview nice job if he got it, ;)
 
LOL :smitten:

It went fine thanx, he had some really positive feedback! The curator who interviewed him was impressed and thinks that things could go his way, but they keep remembering the distance bit! It's not that far from us!
 
Was it kind of promoting a scheme where by you kind of helped disabled people to,, I don't know,,, get around or help in the house,, or something?
 
It prob didn't mean anything by it, just worded really crap!
Sounds good about the interview. When will you be told for sure?
 
bev said:
Was it kind of promoting a scheme where by you kind of helped disabled people to,, I don't know,,, get around or help in the house,, or something?

nope just to 'befriend a disabled person'


darkest.dreaming said:
Sounds good about the interview. When will you be told for sure?

In a couple of weeks I think - he's got 3 more people to interview
 
Sadly some folk only see the disability and look no further, the person underneath is what counts and whether that persons wants help most disabled only want to be independant

I recall a lady in one of those buggy's attempting to cross a busy road i was waiting for the lights to change her shopping fell out of her basket and fell into the road i got out of the car and helped her pick up her shopping, 1 ignorant driver started blasting his horn becuase she was in the way i looked at him and shouted well if your that anxious to get past why dont you get out and help, he sat there glaring and never moved

sorry i hope i aint upset anyone ;)

PS Hope he gets the job does that then mean next time visit i can get in free ! I dont live far either !
 
oh kelly, sum ppl are just so rude and dont care about other people's feelings! >:( how nasty and unthoughful!
 
minky said:
Sadly some folk only see the disability and look no further, the person underneath is what counts and whether that persons wants help most disabled only want to be independant

I recall a lady in one of those buggy's attempting to cross a busy road i was waiting for the lights to change her shopping fell out of her basket and fell into the road i got out of the car and helped her pick up her shopping, 1 ignorant driver started blasting his horn becuase she was in the way i looked at him and shouted well if your that anxious to get past why dont you get out and help, he sat there glaring and never moved

sorry i hope i aint upset anyone ;)

PS Hope he gets the job does that then mean next time visit i can get in free ! I dont live far either !

I know what you mean, people these days are all too soon to judge by appearance.

Get in free?! LOL apparently they don't give staff free tickets, but if you're with me then you do! ;) LOL I get in as a concession then someone with me is free! :D
 
Natnat x said:
oh kelly, sum ppl are just so rude and dont care about other people's feelings! >:( how nasty and unthoughful!

I just thought it was, but I guess cos I have experience of both worlds!
 
kellyandpiggies said:
Get in free?! LOL apparently they don't give staff free tickets, but if you're with me then you do! ;) LOL I get in as a concession then someone with me is free! :D

I'll come with you if it's free :D ;D According to their website with the postcode and multimap it's only like 1 1/2 hours away from me :P

They should really think about how they word things though to make sure it wont sound offensive or insulting..after all everyone can take something the other way (not saying you are, I would have been really pissed off too)
 
Jane said:
I'll come with you if it's free :D ;D According to their website with the postcode and multimap it's only like 1 1/2 hours away from me :P

They should really think about how they word things though to make sure it wont sound offensive or insulting..after all everyone can take something the other way (not saying you are, I would have been really pissed off too)

anytime darling :)

LOL I problem did read into it - but that's what it said! ;)
 
kellyandpiggies said:
Jane said:
I'll come with you if it's free :D ;D According to their website with the postcode and multimap it's only like 1 1/2 hours away from me :P

They should really think about how they word things though to make sure it wont sound offensive or insulting..after all everyone can take something the other way (not saying you are, I would have been really pissed off too)

anytime darling :)

LOL I problem did read into it - but that's what it said! ;)

Ooh I just thought..if it's not a long drive from your house and it's only 1 1/2 hours away from me maybe your not that much longer away ;D hehe. ;)
 
Jane said:
Ooh I just thought..if it's not a long drive from your house and it's only 1 1/2 hours away from me maybe your not that much longer away ;D hehe. ;)

[LOL ;) 30 mins ish on train, depending on the stops to brum ;)
 
kellyandpiggies said:
Jane said:
Ooh I just thought..if it's not a long drive from your house and it's only 1 1/2 hours away from me maybe your not that much longer away ;D hehe. ;)

[LOL ;) 30 mins ish on train, depending on the stops to brum ;)

How about the stops in brum i.e window shopping !
 
Was it advertising anything?

Perhaps it meant more specifically for people with "mental disabilities" or the like that make it more difficult to socialise.
 
It had a picture of someone in a wheelchair, laughing with someone able-bodied - saying 'befriend a disabled person' and a phone number.

I guess, but still...
 
kellyandpiggies said:
It had a picture of someone in a wheelchair, laughing with someone able-bodied - saying 'befriend a disabled person' and a phone number.

I guess, but still...

Then I'm sure it's not saying that disabled people are friendless social rejects. XD

It's probably just to give a service to people who do have difficulties with that sort of thing, so I don't think it's too insulting. C:
 
they're acting like disabled people dont have friends, just cause you're in a wheelchair dont mean you dont have friends, whoever thought that is a mindless duffess. disabled people are just as normal as anyone, so dont let them get you down Kelly, in a way they are being kind, cause they think there helping you, someone should ring them up, and tell them how its not!
 
Natnat x said:
they're acting like disabled people dont have friends, just cause you're in a wheelchair dont mean you dont have friends, whoever thought that is a mindless duffess. disabled people are just as normal as anyone, so dont let them get you down Kelly, in a way they are being kind, cause they think there helping you, someone should ring them up, and tell them how its not!

But really now.. I think you all may be overreacting a little bit.

It's not like it says, "Befriend a disabled person today, because they simply can't make friends themselves!"

It's nice to know that a service is available for people who do have difficulties with something like that. Don't forget that there are many, many different disabilities - some of which make it difficult to have a good social life or the like.
 
Darky said:
But really now.. I think you all may be overreacting a little bit.

It's not like it says, "Befriend a disabled person today, because they simply can't make friends themselves!"

It's nice to know that a service is available for people who do have difficulties with something like that. Don't forget that there are many, many different disabilities - some of which make it difficult to have a good social life or the like.

I guess...

I know I read too much into it, but it was my feelings on it :)
 
kellyandpiggies said:
Darky said:
But really now.. I think you all may be overreacting a little bit.

It's not like it says, "Befriend a disabled person today, because they simply can't make friends themselves!"

It's nice to know that a service is available for people who do have difficulties with something like that. Don't forget that there are many, many different disabilities - some of which make it difficult to have a good social life or the like.

I guess...

I know I read too much into it, but it was my feelings on it :)

I probably would have had the same immediate reaction. C:

I had to be in a wheelchair every time I left the house as a kid due to having Raynaud's Disease, and.. I didn't have any friends because of it, actually. XD
 
Gee if only they knew how many friends you have :o :o :-* :-* As so many have said WE LOVES you :smitten: :smitten:

Once again a poorly worded sign obviously written by an insensitive twirp :tickedoff:
 
Hehe.. :smitten: :smitten:

Were going through all my friends with hubby earlier - people I've met from forum with my 'home life' friends and well, have too many to write down! ;)
 
Darky said:
Natnat x said:
they're acting like disabled people dont have friends, just cause you're in a wheelchair dont mean you dont have friends, whoever thought that is a mindless duffess. disabled people are just as normal as anyone, so dont let them get you down Kelly, in a way they are being kind, cause they think there helping you, someone should ring them up, and tell them how its not!

But really now.. I think you all may be overreacting a little bit.

It's not like it says, "Befriend a disabled person today, because they simply can't make friends themselves!"

It's nice to know that a service is available for people who do have difficulties with something like that. Don't forget that there are many, many different disabilities - some of which make it difficult to have a good social life or the like.

I agree.

If there arent any services available, people complain, if there ARE services available,
people complain too, because they are badly worded ::)

I think a sign like that is good - to raise awareness.
Alot of people would probably like to help, and didnt know how they actually could..
its not like you can just walk up to someone in the street and say "hey, you look a bit lonely, wanna be friends?", now can you?
So if there is a number you can ring to find out how you could help (doing someones shopping, playing boardgames in the afternoons, or just accompaning someone to the shops - i think it is WONDERFUL!

Of course just because you are in a wheelchair doesnt mean that you dont have any friends.
However alot of people with mobility problems do have a lack of social life, sometimes (like in the case of my Aunt) because it actually hurts when they move about much and so they rather stay at home (my aunt is in her thirties and rarely leaves the house).
Sometimes just because the places where their friends and colleagues go arent accessible for them (stairs etc).
Sometimes because they work with closeminded people who dont want to socialise with disabled people.. list is endless.

In the case of my aunt, there was another problem. In order to get to some of the bigger shops she had to cross a bridge.
Now that itself wasnt a problem, she got an electric wheelchair. But it was a very narrow pavement, with a road with loads of traffic.
She was terrified of going a little bit too far left and ending up on that street.. She was alright if someone was walking with her.
If someone needs that help, and there is a number for people to find out how they can help - great!

Its almost like Day Centers for the elderly are an insult too, because they are implying that all old people have no friends or family that cares. ::)
 
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