Having a rough week

Gem789

Gem789

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Just needed to talk to people as I'm feeling quite low and emotional.
On Monday I had my grandma's funeral,it was a lovely service with white horses taking her to the cemetery after the service which is what she wanted.My granny's funeral was the day after and I found it very difficult,I was closer to my granny as I saw her much more often.On the same day I was worried about my 8 year old guinea pig poppy (she was the one who'd had bladder stone surgery in November and was doing really well) as she was turning her nose up at lettuce that morning so I got her out to weigh her and she'd lost just over 50g in about 4 days and I gave her some syringe feed.I asked my friend to come round after work to keep an eye on her and syringe feed her while I was at my granny's funeral.Later in the evening I got her out again and she felt cold and I took her into my mum and she said she thought she was dying.I started hyperventilating at that point,it was such a shock.I put her back in her cage with husboar jimin and I told her how much i loved her.He didn't leave her side and when i woke up in the morning and she'd passed,he was still by her side.I'm just feeling so sad after everything this week.I'm going to try a bonding session today with jimin and my 4 girls.It feels too soon for me but i dont like to see him so lonely.

Heres some photos of the horses at my grandma's funeral
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And a couple of pictures of poppy taken a couple of weeks ago
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I am so sorry Gemma what an awfully sad time you have had, you are bound to feel really low after all your loses. Sending bug hugs to you and your family :hug: Those happy memories will shine through but for now look after yourself, your Mum and Jimin
 
Oh Gemma what a rough week you've had. One funeral is traumatic enough, you've had 2 in 2 days! Then losing your beloved Poppy too. No wonder you're feeling fragile. Poppy got to the grand old age of 8 which just shows how well you looked after her and how much you loved her. Both your Grandma and your Granny will know how much you loved them too and they have taken all that love with them on their next great adventure. Sending you a huge hug:hug:. Look after yourself as you grieve.
 
Oh no what an awful week you’ve had. I’m not surprised you feel so sad. I’m sorry you have lost your granny and grandma so close together. Sending you hugs.

Popcorn high over the bridge gorgeous Poppy. She passed surrounded by love.

Good luck with the bonding. I hope Jimin and your girls want to be together.
 
oh bless you, what an emotional week for you, so very sorry for loss of your grandma and granny and sweet poppy xx
 
I'm so sorry you've had such an awful time recently. Three losses in one week is dreadful.
Big hugs Xx
I hope you and the rest of your family are doing OK. It must have been such a shock for you all.
The pictures from your Grandma's funeral are beautiful, and I'm sure anyone would be proud to receive such a lovely send off.
Best of luck with the bonding this week- it's normal to have bittersweet emotions surrounding it. 🥰
 
I am so sorry for the awful week you’re having.
Losing your granny is tough and will hurt.
Losing Poppy so soon afterwards is a double loss.
Holding you in my heart ❤️
 
I am so sorry for the awfully sad week you have had saying goodbye to both your grandma and granny and then losing Poppy too 😞 (((hugs))) take good care of yourself as you grieve your losses x
 
Gem789 said:
Just needed to talk to people as I'm feeling quite low and emotional.
On Monday I had my grandma's funeral,it was a lovely service with white horses taking her to the cemetery after the service which is what she wanted.My granny's funeral was the day after and I found it very difficult,I was closer to my granny as I saw her much more often.On the same day I was worried about my 8 year old guinea pig poppy (she was the one who'd had bladder stone surgery in November and was doing really well) as she was turning her nose up at lettuce that morning so I got her out to weigh her and she'd lost just over 50g in about 4 days and I gave her some syringe feed.I asked my friend to come round after work to keep an eye on her and syringe feed her while I was at my granny's funeral.Later in the evening I got her out again and she felt cold and I took her into my mum and she said she thought she was dying.I started hyperventilating at that point,it was such a shock.I put her back in her cage with husboar jimin and I told her how much i loved her.He didn't leave her side and when i woke up in the morning and she'd passed,he was still by her side.I'm just feeling so sad after everything this week.I'm going to try a bonding session today with jimin and my 4 girls.It feels too soon for me but i dont like to see him so lonely.

Heres some photos of the horses at my grandma's funeral
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And a couple of pictures of poppy taken a couple of weeks ago
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She's absolutely gorgeous. So sorry for your loss it's heartbreaking losing those we love. Someone once said the heartbreak is the price we have to pay for the immense love we have for them and get from them. Try to think of all the wonderful times you've had with those you've lost and be kind to yourself as you grieve Poppy and your grandparents 🌈
 
Oh Gemma, what a week. Two funerals and then losing your sweet girl. I’m not surprised you’re feeling low and emotional. I think any of us would feel very low, too. That’s a whole lot of loss all in one go. Just go easy on yourself. Be kind to yourself. You need to take your time to grieve. Huge hugs x
 
VickiA said:
Oh Gemma, what a week. Two funerals and then losing your sweet girl. I’m not surprised you’re feeling low and emotional. I think any of us would feel very low, too. That’s a whole lot of loss all in one go. Just go easy on yourself. Be kind to yourself. You need to take your time to grieve. Huge hugs x
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Thank you, Its probably just me but I just feel people think I should be feeling better by now but I'm really not.Was crying this morning as soon as I woke up and when I went into the back garden and saw where poppy was buried.Also removing the fleece forest from jimin and poppy's cage had me crying again x
 
I am so sorry for all you have been through. There is no time frame for grief and there are many things that can trigger a resurgence, it takes time and that is ok.

In ancient peru they believed that guinea pigs were the guides into the next life. I sometimes take comfort in this when I lose a piggy and think maybe they were needed elsewhere. Perhaps Poppy had to leave to guide your granny over the rainbow bridge x
 
Gem789 said:
Thank you, Its probably just me but I just feel people think I should be feeling better by now but I'm really not.Was crying this morning as soon as I woke up and when I went into the back garden and saw where poppy was buried.Also removing the fleece forest from jimin and poppy's cage had me crying again x
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Never feel like you have to act in any given way, I still cry most days from losinv one of our guinea babies in December I visit him every day. Grief is a very personal thing and you should grieve in your own way and time, ignore what others think it's not their grief. Sending hugs 🌈
 
I'm so sorry for the compounded sadness you are going through. It seems obvious that you would not be 'over it', but there is often an unspoken pressure from others not to dwell on our grief - probably because people don't know what to say or how to act around us. It's not your job to make others feel comfortable, you just need to feel what you feel. You can always share your emotions her, no matter how recent or distant events have been.

Poppy had such a sweet face and beautiful unusual colouring, I'm so sorry she had to leave you just at this time 🌈
 
I'm very sorry for your many losses and that you've had such a horrible week.
Grief is very personal and individual. It can't be rushed and it shouldn't be.
Take care! 💔🌈🌈🌈
 
Grief and how we deal with it is entirely personal. In my experience I don’t think we ever “get over” a loss. We just learn how to live with it in a different way. And that can take years. Some losses hit us harder than others. But to lose 2 grandparents and then have their funerals and the loss of your own furry family member within days is really hard to bear. I know that society almost seems to expect that once a funeral is done we should all move on but for me that’s not the case. I have often felt worse after the funerals as the focus for that grief is now passed but the grief is still there. I think that people forget about your loss or simply don’t understand. Until it happens to them. Just be kind to yourself. You only experience grief because you feel love. If you haven’t heard of Donna Ashworth, it’s worth checking her out on FB. She writes beautiful poetry about life, love, and loss. Just accept that this is how you are feeling right now. There is no right or wrong way to do this. Xx


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Dear Gem789 I’m so sorry you’ve had such a hard week. Saying goodbye to your Grandma and Granny and your special Poppy
Just take each day as it is and let those tears fall - the sadness is because of the love you feel. That will never change
Take care of yourself and I hope the bonding with Jimin goes well 🥰
We are always here for you ❤️
 
Hugs 🤗
You take your time to grieve- you’re mourning 3 times over and that takes time.
It’s a bumpy process is grieving
 
HUGE HUGS

What a horrible, horrible time you are having. :( :( :(

Please take your time and be kind with yourself as you grieve. Seek bereavement support to talk about it. Three bereavements at once are an awful lot to digest; you cannot do that quickly (there is only so much you can process at any given time) but you will get there, especially with a little extra help. Don't feel like you have to be strong and carry the heavy burden all by yourself.

There are free of charge charities around, like the Samaritans for human loss or the Blue Cross for pet bereavement; that is the best thing you can do for yourself.
 
Sending you hugs Gemma, what a horrible time you are having. I don't know how anyone can expect you to be over 'it' so quickly, how insensitive.
 
My mum's birthday was today so me and my sister took her out for a meal and we had a good laugh which was nice after the tough time recently.The burial of my granny's ashes is this Tuesday which I'm not looking forward to.My mum gave me a picture today of my grandma with all the grandchildren.I obviously dont remember it (I was under 2) but it's a lovely photo and I'll treasure it.I'm the one in my grandma's arm on the left.

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What a wonderful photo.

I’m glad you had a lovely time with your mum and sister.

Sending hugs for Tuesday ❤️
 
What a wonderful picture!

I am glad that you have hd a good time with your mum and sister and wish you all the best for the funeral. Be there for each other.
 
So glad you had a lovely time with your Mum. What a great keepsake of your grandma and you all. Take care x
 
Sorry that you are having such a difficult time at the moment. Take care of yourself. Sending a big virtual hug.xx
 
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