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ojo23

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Hello, i’m new to this forum and i really wish i found about it 7 years earlier lol. My beautiful boy is 7 and sadly has to cross the rainbow bridge this wednesday and i’m heartbroken. I was just curious to see if anyone who has been through this has any tips on how to deal with the pain. Sadly my boy has had a tumour under his chin and it slowly taken over him this past month, as sad as it is to say goodbye i know he will no longer in pain. Thank you for reading i guess it’s just good to talk to people who understand.
 
I'm so sorry to hear. May he rest well x.

I've had a hamster before my guinea pig and she passed suddenly passed away in april. It's very heart-breaking but it happens. My bst advice is to not be scared to cry and talk about it. Talking about it to people who will understand really helps
 
My heart goes out to you. i can only speak for myself as dealing with this is as individual as we are. There are no rules and the more we love the harder we grieve. He will know how much you love him and what you have to do you do it out of love for him. When you are ready, treasure the memories and keep them in your heart, then he will always be with you. Take care of yourself x
 
sincerelycappuccino said:
I'm so sorry to hear. May he rest well x.

I've had a hamster before my guinea pig and she passed suddenly passed away in april. It's very heart-breaking but it happens. My bst advice is to not be scared to cry and talk about it. Talking about it to people who will understand really helps
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thank you so much, i really appreciate this x
 
munchmonster said:
My heart goes out to you. i can only speak for myself as dealing with this is as individual as we are. There are no rules and the more we love the harder we grieve. He will know how much you love him and what you have to do you do it out of love for him. When you are ready, treasure the memories and keep them in your heart, then he will always be with you. Take care of yourself x
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Thank you so much, it’s so hard just knowing these are the last few days with him. x
 
Sorry you're having to send your boy on his way, you've got him to a great age. It's so sad when you know it's ahead, all the last moments. I cry and give in to it. I've still got a photo up in my sitting room of the first piggy I lost as an adult. For me time does heal and then there are good memories. If you feel it would help, you could write a tribute to your boy in the rainbow piggies section.
 
I lost my 2 boys within 3 days of each other at the end of November/beginning of December last year and that was very hard. My advice is take each day as it comes and if you feel like having a good cry, have a good cry. I still miss them. I found it helped that I had some earrings made for each of them. So I can have them close to me if I want to. Maybe this is something you could do?

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Dennis and his earrings,

It also helped me to post a tribute in the Rainbow Bridge Section of the Forum which you are welcome to do.

Remember grief is love with nowhere to go.

Be gentle on yourself as you grief the loss of your beautiful boy.
 
Black piggies said:
Sorry you're having to send your boy on his way, you've got him to a great age. It's so sad when you know it's ahead, all the last moments. I cry and give in to it. I've still got a photo up in my sitting room of the first piggy I lost as an adult. For me time does heal and then there are good memories. If you feel it would help, you could write a tribute to your boy in the rainbow piggies section.
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Thank you so much, i will definitely write a tribute i had no idea about the tribute, i really appreciate your kind words x
 
Betsy said:
I lost my 2 boys within 3 days of each other at the end of November/beginning of December last year and that was very hard. My advice is take each day as it comes and if you feel like having a good cry, have a good cry. I still miss them. I found it helped that I had some earrings made for each of them. So I can have them close to me if I want to. Maybe this is something you could do?

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Christian and his earrings.



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Dennis and his earrings,

It also helped me to post a tribute in the Rainbow Bridge Section of the Forum which you are welcome to do.

Remember grief is love with nowhere to go.

Be gentle on yourself as you grief the loss of your beautiful boy.
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Thank you so much for this idea, i will definitely have to do something like this. Your boys were so cute. I really appreciate this and the idea to tribute him in someway. thank you
 
ojo23 said:
Hello, i’m new to this forum and i really wish i found about it 7 years earlier lol. My beautiful boy is 7 and sadly has to cross the rainbow bridge this wednesday and i’m heartbroken. I was just curious to see if anyone who has been through this has any tips on how to deal with the pain. Sadly my boy has had a tumour under his chin and it slowly taken over him this past month, as sad as it is to say goodbye i know he will no longer in pain. Thank you for reading i guess it’s just good to talk to people who understand.
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Hi and welcome

BIG HUGS

Losing a beloved one is always tough. If you struggle with it, the best thing is talking. You may find our grieving guide helpful, which can helpfully help you understand a bit better what is going on and practical tips on what you can do for yourself. Human Bereavement: Grieving, Coping and Support Links for Guinea Pig Owners and Their Children

The guide also lists resources and helplines for several countries where you can find trained help.
For the UK, the Blue Cross offers now free services on several platforms manned by trained volunteers.
Pet bereavement and pet loss

Pet bereavement is a recognised mental health problem that can happen to anybody (I have been through it with my still most special piggy of all Minx); we have always had a positive feedback from members in your situation that have made use of it:

Try to take pride in that thanks to your good care your boy has lived to the upper end of the average life span and longer than the majority of guinea pigs. That doesn't help you immediately, but it will hopefully later on. We can never choose when and what from our beloved ones die but as long as your beloved boy has had many happy todays along the way, he has had the best possible life because that is how piggies measure their own lives by.

It does help me to visualise my past piggies as my little furry guardian angels looking out for my current lot. After all, they are still in my heart and my thoughts and they have taught me the things that I can now use to improve the lives of my present piggies and that of forum piggies and their owners, so they are still very much around in the legacy they have left me.

You are also welcome to post a tribute to your beloved boy in our Rainbow Bridge if you feel that it would help you. It is there for all those that want to make use of it at any stage during or after the grieving process, whenever it feels right for them.

I hope that this will help you.
 
I'm so sorry... I think many of us here have lost beloved pets and can understand how you feel. I lost my 6.5-year-old piggie (the one in my picture) last June and still miss her a lot. I think just remind yourself that you gave him a wonderful, long life, allow yourself to feel however you feel (many people will make it seem like grieving a pet isn't legitimate- this isn't true, it's very much a loss and you shouldn't feel bad for feeling bad.) With time, it will get easier and you'll be able to focus more on the positive memories than the pain of the loss. Take these few days and do all the things that he enjoys and remember fondly the years together, knowing that you're making this really difficult choice out of love. ((HUGS)) to you.
 
I’m so sorry that you have got to let your gorgeous boy go. Your decision is made with love at the heart of it. I can tell he’s had an amazing life with you. The best life. You will have so many memories to help you through. You will never forget him. He will be popcorning pain free. Take care ❤️
 
I'm so sorry you have to say goodbye to your precious boy. 7 years is a grand old age and is a testament to your love and care.
I had to put my almost 8 year old Violet to sleep in August and it was the hardest decision I have ever made. She had bone cancer, kidney failure, severe arthritis, ovarian cysts and extensive hairloss among other things. She was clearly in a lot of pain, so I made the kind decision to let her go peacefully. I miss her a lot, but I am starting to think of her and the memories I had with her fondly, and I know she is enjoying the rainbow bridge with her late mother Rosie.
Know that you gave your beautiful boy the best life and he knows how much he is loved.
Slight tight beautiful boy 💕🌈
 
There is also an account on instagram called rainbowbridgeraina and it helped me cope with pet loss. Feel free to check it out if you want to
 
Sending you love and hugs. Nothing I can say will help right now but my thoughts are with you. Take care of yourself xx
 
We are all here for you ojo23. It’s so very hard. Wiekbe has given lovely and apt advice. Taking the responsibility of having a pet means we get the lovely, fun, good and special times but we also get the sad and heart breaking times too. Look after yourself and keep talking to us x
 
So sorry to hear of your loss. You are most definitely in the right place now and forum members can fully sympathise with how difficult it is to lose our fur babies.

I lost three of my boys last year, and one of them I had been nursing back to health for months. He was one of those 'special ones' and we had a unique bond. I talk to him daily, and I have pictures of him in a locket that I wear. They are always with us, watching over us from the bridge. I find it helps to talk to them and share precious memories of them here (to celebrate their wonderful lives that they shared with us).
 
I’m so sorry, it’s so difficult to have to make that decision and will be thinking of you and your boy today. Sending big hugs x
 
thank you everyone, he is sitting beside me right now munching into a carrot, it’s hard but i know this is for the best x
 
I’m so sorry that you are having to make this decision for him. Sadly it’s one of the toughest decisions we ever have to make but it’s often the kindest one. Many of us have been in this same position. Just go gently with yourself.
 
I don’t know if anyone will read this, but i’m really really struggling. Today me and my mum moved his cage out of my room and the big empty space is killing me. knowing my big happy boy used to be in my room with me, keeping me company and now he is gone just really hurts. I really miss everything about him :(
 
I'm so sorry for your loss. It is really hard when we lose a loved one. Eventually you will be able to think of him and smile at all the good memories you have of him.
Know that you did the best and kindest thing for him and he is now popcorning over the rainbow bridge with his new piggy friends 🌈
Take care of yourself 💕
 
Sorry you're hurting so much :( It can be devastating and painful. It will get easier in time.
Blue Cross has a pet bereavement phone helpline, and you can also live chat them or email them.
 
Grief takes time to work through - it can’t be rushed.
We only grieve when we have loved.
Something that might help is to create a Memory Book - put in pictures and write down your happy memories of him.
Be gentle with yourself, give yourself time to grieve and talk here.
We understand the pain of losing a beloved piggy.
 
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