are they ever the same after losing a friend?

[biscandmatt]

maisie seems ok, and happy enough. her and eddie get on well. but... she just doesn't seem the same anymore. it's hard to explain but something about her changed when ches passed away. i know they were soul-pigs. i think she really still misses him.

anyone else noticed that they seem different. like part of them has gone with their friend? not dramatically, just like they really miss them?

 

[piggyfan]

I have had the same experience. When Amelia Jane lost her sister, Peronel, she changed. Now she never seems satisfied and often bites on the bars and wheeks for food even after being fed. Strangley, Peronel was like that and it seems Amelia Jane has adapted her personality.

 

[biscandmatt]

I have had the same experience. When Amelia Jane lost her sister, Peronel, she changed. Now she never seems satisfied and often bites on the bars and wheeks for food even after being fed. Strangley, Peronel was like that and it seems Amelia Jane has adapted her personality.

it's hard to see isn't it. even though they seem ok, something is just different. something in maisie's eyes isn't the same. she still seems quite lost i suppose sometimes. eddie was nuzzling her chin earlier and she seemed to really like that. ches was very affectionate to her and she seems to need that. eddie hasn't quite got the hang of it yet but today was the first time he really nuzzled her alot and she seemed quite content with it.

i hope she will be ok.

 

[biscandmatt]

does anyone know how long grief can last? maisie seems to have moved on slightly with it recently and she is happier with eddie than she was on her own, but it does seem like she is still holding onto some grief. something doesn't seem right to me and i have been crying a bit over it. i want her to be happy. i know she isn't unhappy, but she isn't like she was. it breaks my heart 8... i love her and i want her to be as happy as she was. x

 

[piggyfan]

It is hard but you have ensured she is not lonely and that is all you can do. She will know how much you love her and that is what matters.

 

[biscandmatt]

It is hard but you have ensured she is not lonely and that is all you can do. She will know how much you love her and that is what matters.

that made me cry. so i must be more worried than i thought. i just love her so much. she has never looked at me the way she did after ches was gone. it was heartbreaking. she just gazed at me and o/h all the time, with so much sadness in her eyes. i know she is happier now but i just wish i could do more. 8...

 

[piggyfan]

I am so sorry she seems sad. I can imagine she was looking at you as though to ask where her friend was. She now has a lovely friend to share her life with.

 

[biscandmatt]

I am so sorry she seems sad. I can imagine she was looking at you as though to ask where her friend was. She now has a lovely friend to share her life with.

we all miss him so much 8... she knew we were there to help her and look after her. i just wonder if her grief is still going, even now. it's not been that long (11 weeks on thursday) so she is getting on with things, getting on with eddie, but still thinking about before.

 

[piggyfan]

Well I guess it takes time for her to bond with Eddie. They have to get to know each other. I am sure once they have bonded closely she will be back to her happy little self.

 

[biscandmatt]

Well I guess it takes time for her to bond with Eddie. They have to get to know each other. I am sure once they have bonded closely she will be back to her happy little self.

they got on well straight away, but they do seem to get closer over time. my o/h thinks that maisie is happy, just in a different way. it's a new relationship, different to before, but still a nice friendship that they have. i suppose it will take time for her to grieve. she was with ches since she was 10months old. thanks x