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Tonight, I have had to question who the "loyal" members of this forum are.

I know for a fact that a couple of you have set up Guinea Pig Forum's behind my back and using this forum to advertise new forums, asking them to join because this one is no longer "friendly".

I have spent over a year getting this forum to where it is now and feel extremely hurt and betrayed right now by the members of this forum which I thought were my friends... I know many of you are not as happy with the forum at the moment however, I promise that this will get sorted.

I have just finished a Higher Education Diploma which has taken up a lot of my free time since September - this is something I have done for myself and am proud of what I have achieved. Kate also comes onto this forum whilst she is meant to be working to sort out problems people are experiencing on the forum - such as reported posts. We will be looking into more moderators for the forum as Susie is expecting her first baby.

I am absolutely hurt right now and am really saddened by all of this...

If you are using this forum to advertise your own via personal message, I would like to ask you not to do this anymore!
 
Glynis said:
Thrilled about your education, well done for sticking to it O0 O0
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Thank you.

I really do feel hurt and let down at the minute... It has really made me think that if people can do this to me and the forum, then why do I bother running it at all?
 
I really do feel hurt and let down at the minute... It has really made me think that if people can do this to me and the forum, then why do I bother running it at all?
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No please don't think like that Ellie, i am sure that it will be sorted out O0
Perhaps a little stricter supervision with some comments wouldn't hurt ..... unfortunately there's people who can be rude and nasty :'( :'( :'(
But then there's the lovely ones who are really helpful and friendly :smitten: :smitten: :smitten:
 
Glynis said:
I really do feel hurt and let down at the minute... It has really made me think that if people can do this to me and the forum, then why do I bother running it at all?

No please don't think like that Ellie, i am sure that it will be sorted out O0
Perhaps a little stricter supervision with some comments wouldn't hurt ..... unfortunately there's people who can be rude and nasty :'( :'( :'(
But then there's the lovely ones who are really helpful and friendly :smitten: :smitten: :smitten:
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At the end of the day, the majority of us are adults and are fighting over the pettyest things - I thought children were meant to be "strictly" supervised, not adults. This forum is for people to express their opinions - not jump on people but express them... we don't always agree however, peoples opinions should be respected. I have noticed that some people have been rude and nasty towards other members - this has been noted... I can assure you. But some members are taking the smallest things to heart which would result in no members being here, because nobody can agree on everything!

As I have already stated, I will be adding more moderators to the forum and will be around a lot more now as I have finished college. This forum will be getting a lot better but sadly, due to members urging people to join their new forums, this one might not be given a chance...
 
You're right Ellie, it is pettiness :( I always thought forums were to meet like-minded people to learn from & then to (hopefully) advise others.
My piggies lives have been enriched by the knowledge i've gained from various members on here O0

I have to agree; i personally thougth the nature of a forum was to express your opinion & of course everyone doesn't agree but that's where it should stop.
No-one has the right to deem that one persons way is right or wrong just because it isn't "their" way.

You bother to run this forum for all the reasons you started it, to enrich the lives of piggies who's slaves have been fortunate to find it O0
 
Thank you Niki - I am glad that you think the same as me too...

Fair enough if people want to start their own forum - good luck to them... but it crosses the line when people who I thought were my friends are using this forum and this forum's members to join their forum - is that a nice thing to do to me and the forum which I built up from day one? I feel completely stabbed in the back right now...
 
As we go through life we always find those we instantly bond with and others who we don't particularly like. Its no different on here. I have worked with people who I wouldn't particularly choose to be my friend, but you have to learn to live and let live and also not to take everything to heart.

Life would be incredibly boring if everybody just agreed with one another!

This is a great forum and its the mix of so many different types of people that make it what it is! :)
 
If this forum becomes quieter due to member's moving elsewhere I will consider shutting this forum down - I see it as a two way thing where I will not commit myself to running this forum if members are not commited to being part of this forum. Hopefully you can understand why I say this....
 
Well said Debbie and Niki O0

Ellie you've created a wonderful forum, and we all want it to stay that way, i too wish there wasn't this petiness :'( but as i said before some people have stepped over the line and that's just not polite.

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Ellie, i'm sure that's not going to happen this forum has saved many people and piggies lives and it would be a terrible waste and disappointment for many many of us if that was to happen :'(
 
Glynis said:
but as i said before some people have stepped over the line and that's just not polite.
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I think sometimes (not always) some people read to much into what somebody has said. People need to remember that typing a message on a forum can be interpreted in many different ways as the person viewing the message will not know what tone the message has been written in. If people have been seen not to be a polite or causing problems, we do take note and step in where appropriate.

Also, all forum's experience problems at times - this one thankfully didn't get any problems till the forum began to grow quite big! If people have stepped over the line, they are warned - trust me... you will not always learn of this though as we do not broadcast it to everyone.
 
Glynis said:
Well said Debbie and Niki O0

Ellie you've created a wonderful forum, and we all want it to stay that way, i too wish there wasn't this petiness :'( but as i said before some people have stepped over the line and that's just not polite.

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Ellie, i'm sure that's not going to happen this forum has saved many people and piggies lives and it would be a terrible waste and disappointment for many many of us if that was to happen :'(
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I have to agree with you Glynis O0
 
I think sometimes (not always) some people read to much into what somebody has said. People need to remember that typing a message on a forum can be interpreted in many different ways as the person viewing the message will not know what tone the message has been written in. If people have been seen not to be a polite or causing problems, we do take note and step in where appropriate.

Also, all forum's experience problems at times - this one thankfully didn't get any problems till the forum began to grow quite big! If people have stepped over the line, they are warned - trust me... you will not always learn of this though as we do not broadcast it to everyone.
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Yes that's correct love, but i think what's been the problem is they've continued to make the comments on and on and that's when you know that it is being offensive to the person they're talking to via the forum.... i've seen it a couple of times and it's made me raise my eyebrows a few times.
 
squeakypigs said:
Glynis said:
but as i said before some people have stepped over the line and that's just not polite.
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I think sometimes (not always) some people read to much into what somebody has said. People need to remember that typing a message on a forum can be interpreted in many different ways as the person viewing the message will not know what tone the message has been written in. If people have been seen not to be a polite or causing problems, we do take note and step in where appropriate.
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I totally agree the written word can be very easily misconstrued by the reader.
However, my personal opinion is the members of this forum are intelligent people & don't have to resort to blatant rudeness to other members to put their point(s) across.
My god, surely there are more important things to deal with!
Live & let bloody live, life's too goddamn short! >:(
 
squeakypigs said:
Glynis said:
but as i said before some people have stepped over the line and that's just not polite.
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I think sometimes (not always) some people read to much into what somebody has said. People need to remember that typing a message on a forum can be interpreted in many different ways as the person viewing the message will not know what tone the message has been written in. If people have been seen not to be a polite or causing problems, we do take note and step in where appropriate.
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Thats very true. Sometimes you can read a message and your first impression is different to what it is if you re-read it!

I have always taken the view that I will only put in a message what I would say to someones face. I don't think you can go too far wrong if you take that approach!
 
Glynis said:
I think sometimes (not always) some people read to much into what somebody has said. People need to remember that typing a message on a forum can be interpreted in many different ways as the person viewing the message will not know what tone the message has been written in. If people have been seen not to be a polite or causing problems, we do take note and step in where appropriate.

Also, all forum's experience problems at times - this one thankfully didn't get any problems till the forum began to grow quite big! If people have stepped over the line, they are warned - trust me... you will not always learn of this though as we do not broadcast it to everyone.
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Yes that's correct love, but i think what's been the problem is they've continued to make the comments on and on and that's when you know that it is being offensive to the person they're talking to via the forum.... i've seen it a couple of times and it's made me raise my eyebrows a few times.
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Have you yourself reported it though? - The mods of this forum do not have the time to check every single post thats made on the forum - if members can work with the mods, then more can be done.
 
What upsets me the most is that people (who I thought were my friends) have advertised their new forums to this forums members via personal messages - behind my back. This is like somebody from Sainbury going into Tesco telling all of its customers to shop there - its not on!

I have listened to member's complaints about certain activity on the forum and have taken these complaints seriously. Things take time to be sorted then adjusted... I admit that I haven't been around the forum as much as I would have liked to - thats my own fault! What people need to remember is that we have lives to lead too just like everyone else. If people have a problem, talk to us... it does get sorted. If people are going to just make forum's when things go bad, then there is no point in this forum continuing to run...
 
No i haven't reported it, which now i'm regretting as perhaps if i had it may have not got to this stage 98) I think i've only reported one thing and that was the business which has now been resolved and that person banned, you'll know what i mean.

I try not to get involved as i really don't know half of what is going on, i'm sure that when i read some of the nasty things there's more to it, i.e. they know each other on other forums, or sending pm's or emails to each other that have upset them.....

Ellie, don't give up please i beg you not too, i'm sure it can be sorted out. Perhaps a phone call where things could be dicussed with everyone and try to smooth things over? I don't know it's just a suggestion.....

Edit: Yes Debbie i can see your point too, perhaps as i've just said above, a phone call and a good heart to heart talk just might resolve this unpleasant situation.
 
I am never up at 2am! - This has got to me really bad that I am too angry and disappointed to go to sleep - I just feel as though I now have to watch the forum 24/7 because when I leave the forum (for example, tonight when I go to see my dad) everything flares up....

The mods shouldn't have to be online all the time - we should be able to trust the members (which we have done!). I am just so annoyed that all this has been caused by people who I classed as my friends... makes it even worse...!
 
furryfriends said:
What I don't like is things being done behind someones back! I believe in being up front about things! Friendship should be based on honesty. I can see why Ellie is so very hurt and upset!
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So can i & i'd be feeling the same.
You've already said "Good Luck" with the running of the forum; competition is healthy BUT "poaching" certainly isn't.
This could so easily have been gone about in a different way.

As for "reporting" What constitutes a report having to be made?
I ask as in a world where Political Correctness has gone mad, everything & anything could be deemed as offensive.
Obviously i know blatant personal attacks aren't tolerated but surely some comments don't warrant "reporting" rather more "the turning of a blind eye" or "the growing of thick skin" ;)
I sometimes think people have forgotten forums are supposed to be FUN :)
 
I know how much hard work Ellie puts into this forum, but this isn't just about the forum, its about friendship and loyalty. Of course people can be members of many different forums but its the underhand way its being done that really leaves a nasty taste!
 
If you feel a comment on a post is unwarrented, then feel free to report it. We will look into it and will make a decision on whether further action should be taken and if so, how it will be done. Some people read things differently, so we might see it and feel as though the comment was not meant to cause any offense.

This is meant to be a fun place!
 
squeakypigs said:
I am never up at 2am! - This has got to me really bad that I am too angry and disappointed to go to sleep - I just feel as though I now have to watch the forum 24/7 because when I leave the forum (for example, tonight when I go to see my dad) everything flares up....

The mods shouldn't have to be online all the time - we should be able to trust the members (which we have done!). I am just so annoyed that all this has been caused by people who I classed as my friends... makes it even worse...!
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Exactly Ellie! It's becoming ridiculous, we aren't in the playground where we have to be watched. My perception of a mod was someone who removed spam/offensive posts, there to put suggestions to regarding the forum in general & to ask for help regarding...........
NOT to referee verbal fights or to monitor the boards like a lifeguard watching for sharks ::)
 
I was just about to comment the same as you Niki.... no Ellie of course you don't have to be up all night, that's just not practical.

This is a FUN forum and i'm sure it can stay that
 
Glynis said:
I was just about to comment the same as you Niki.... no Ellie of course you don't have to be up all night, that's just not practical.

This is a FUN forum and i'm sure it can stay that
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Not if members of this forum are going to talk to other people off this forum elsewhere... there is just no point to this forum then!
 
Niki said:
squeakypigs said:
I am never up at 2am! - This has got to me really bad that I am too angry and disappointed to go to sleep - I just feel as though I now have to watch the forum 24/7 because when I leave the forum (for example, tonight when I go to see my dad) everything flares up....

The mods shouldn't have to be online all the time - we should be able to trust the members (which we have done!). I am just so annoyed that all this has been caused by people who I classed as my friends... makes it even worse...!
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Exactly Ellie! It's becoming ridiculous, we aren't in the playground where we have to be watched. My perception of a mod was someone who removed spam/offensive posts, there to put suggestions to regarding the forum in general & to ask for help regarding...........
NOT to referee verbal fights or to monitor the boards like a lifeguard watching for sharks ::)
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Very well put Niki! :)

and now I am off to bed - my alarm will be going off in 3 1/2 hours! :(
 
squeakypigs said:
Glynis said:
I was just about to comment the same as you Niki.... no Ellie of course you don't have to be up all night, that's just not practical.

This is a FUN forum and i'm sure it can stay that
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Not if members of this forum are going to talk to other people off this forum elsewhere... there is just no point to this forum then!
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Ellie please, please call a few people and chat to them that way love, it will sort it out i'm sure as you're all mature people.
 
I have no idea if the people who are behind this have intentionally tried to hurt me or what but thats what has been done. I am happy for people to join other forums but not when they have been taken off here (by advertising via PM, behind my back)... I feel hurt too by members on here which I thought were loyal to have gone behind my back to join the others...
 
I think everyone around here is being silly... everyone needs to think before they say and not take everything personally!
I dont think the PM thing was aimed at you squeakypigs :) I guess everyone is just getting a bit sick of some of he b!tchyness :-\
 
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